Venting Social anxiety ruined my life

[int5]

Having social anxiety among other mental issues made me an altruist and have too much empathy which ruined my life. I should have just told people that I'm suicidal and mentally ill, at least they would leave me alone I would still have a job and a somewhat normal life. At one point in life I even thought that having too much empathy is a gift which maybe would be right if we don't live in such a selfish world. Majority of people just have their own selfish interests which just makes me angry that I had so much anxiety being among people. I was like a sponge until i broke.

 

[return2dreamland]

i felt this post on another level, friend :( due to socal anxiety, i can't make friends, and the ones i did have i gave everything, to the point where i exhausted myself because i cared about them. they ended up leaving me because they were selfish, because i asked them to care about me without making it about them. they left even though i put my trust in them not to leave me (i have bpd, you can see how much this affected me).
the people in this world truly are the worst, most selfish beings, and the ones who are empathetic get punished for caring. i'm sorry you have to go through this.
wishing you the best <3

 

[Hurt]

Same. My social anxiety got pretty worse these last months even when I'm around people I know (family/friends) I experience fast heartbeats and sweat. Guess that's because I'm too used to be alone.

 

[FuneralCry]

People can certainly be cruel and many are very selfish. This life can certainly be exhausting, I have always struggled being around other people and it has caused me feelings of stress. I always have a need to isolate myself from others.

 

[nopointofliving]

i felt this post on another level, friend :( due to socal anxiety, i can't make friends, and the ones i did have i gave everything, to the point where i exhausted myself because i cared about them. they ended up leaving me because they were selfish, because i asked them to care about me without making it about them. they left even though i put my trust in them not to leave me (i have bpd, you can see how much this affected me).
the people in this world truly are the worst, most selfish beings, and the ones who are empathetic get punished for caring. i'm sorry you have to go through this.
wishing you the best <3

The same happened to me

 

[Journeytoletgo]

Having social anxiety among other mental issues made me an altruist and have too much empathy which ruined my life. I should have just told people that I'm suicidal and mentally ill, at least they would leave me alone I would still have a job and a somewhat normal life. At one point in life I even thought that having too much empathy is a gift which maybe would be right if we don't live in such a selfish world. Majority of people just have their own selfish interests which just makes me angry that I had so much anxiety being among people. I was like a sponge until i broke.

I really felt this. Wish someone told me earlier to ignore people at all cost that they are selfish and only care for themselves that the only way to get ahead is to step on others and forget their feelings. Anyway it wasn't in my nature to be so as I lived a life of misery and trauma in my teen years so to fill some void of not feeling accepted by others I react with kindness of others to be accepted by others which was a failure instead I should have just CTB . It's sad I was this nice I should have looked out for myself

 

[Insomniac]

OP, I suffer from severe SA as well.

What helped me was realising it was never going to go away (despite the bs Psychologists repeat) and I also realized that I was never going to make friends.

So I stop trying. I have Zero interest in friendship now or socialising. If I need stimulation I learn new skills like maths and that's it.

 

[demuic]

People don't understand how much having social anxiety makes it difficult to function in this world.

I've missed out on so much and created more problems due to the fear of interaction and rejection. And it's not an unfounded fear, because I have no idea how to talk to people so people don't like talking to me or interacting with me anyway.

 

[lofticries]

Ruined mine as well. Despite me being depressed af feeling numb with no happiness what so ever I sure feel every negative emotion x10. I wish I could get to the root of it but its been ongoing since age 6 (and everything before is a blur). It feels like I'm defective or something.

 

[Beachedwhale]

Having social anxiety among other mental issues made me an altruist and have too much empathy which ruined my life. I should have just told people that I'm suicidal and mentally ill, at least they would leave me alone I would still have a job and a somewhat normal life. At one point in life I even thought that having too much empathy is a gift which maybe would be right if we don't live in such a selfish world. Majority of people just have their own selfish interests which just makes me angry that I had so much anxiety being among people. I was like a sponge until i broke.

This was exactly my issue. I wish I had realised this earlier on in my my life.