what ridiculous things do you think people will say once you are dead?

[lotus11]

people will no doubt chat some shit about you once you are dead. There own opinion about you/ your life/ why you did it etc....what type of annoying and inaccurate shit do you think that they will come up with?

 

[nerve]

"I wish she would have asked for help!"

I did, you just didn't want to hear about it.

 

[TheQ22]

I never saw that coming!

 

[Mm80]

The coroner while im on the table... what a waste. He had such a big willy

 

[Mr2005]

He was mentally ill. No I was driven to despair

 

[Disco Biscuit]

My narcissistic housemate will somehow make it about her and demand that people be nice and respectful to her because she's having such a difficult time dealing with it. Never having to deal with terrible people like her again *is* one of the reasons I'm going.

 

[whywere]

Well for me, I have no one who actually knows me, except my broher and sister, that have not spoke to me in over 30 years, their choice, because, I am bi and they HATE it and HATE me because of that aspect. so with that said, those two would just say something like "good ridence".

 

[Xocoyotziin]

That he was vivacious and compassionate

 

[WornOutLife]

"He was always a weird one"

 

[Meditation guide]

"No one liked her."

 

[TheQ22]

My narcissistic housemate will somehow make it about her and demand that people be nice and respectful to her because she's having such a difficult time dealing with it. Never having to deal with terrible people like her again *is* one of the reasons I'm going.

My ex wife was a narcissist. I really loved her, but unfortunately she loved herself more.

Crap joke but that's what it's like.

You have my sympathies.

 

[FatalSystemError591]

"But she* was so happy all the time! Nothing seemed wrong! She* had such a kind heart and giving to everyone, why would she* do such a horrible thing to herself*! She* had a great job and seemed so happy there, and think about her* husband! Now she* left her* husband all alone and he's a widow at 30! Wasn't she* in therapy and getting help?!"

I'm genderqueer and most people don't use my pronouns, (one of the reasons why I want to ctb, I do not look, sound, or feel as the person I am. I'm not a girl but I'm so damn feminine that people know what I was assigned at birth regardless of how masculine I look and act) my pronouns are they/them or he/him correct and treat me as my assigned gender at birth instead. So I'm sure I would get misgendered and deadnamed a lot once I pass.

 

[Meditation guide]

Never having to deal with terrible people like her again *is* one of the reasons I'm going.

I hear that!

 

[Lupgevif]

Things like "he was such a weirdo, it was unexpected, but coming from him that's not surprising" or "spoiled and ungrateful brat, had an easy life, yet did this".

 

[Meditation guide]

genderqueer: denoting or relating to a person who does not subscribe to conventional gender distinctions but identifies with neither, both, or a combination of male and female genders.

Deadnaming is the use of the birth or other former name (i.e. a name that is "dead") of a transgender or non-binary person without their consent.

I'm genderqueer

I learned two new words thank you! I think you sound very interesting. Thank you for telling us.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

"She did it to herself"
"Could have *just* left"
"Other people get over it why couldn't she"
"She was just lazy and putting on"
"She could have recovered she just didn't want to"
"It was all her fault"
"She could have "gotten help"

 

[Worthless_nobody]

I'm sorry if this comes across in the wrong way, but I'm heterosexual and don't feel the need to tell everyone about it.

I don't even know what this latest fad of telling everyone about yourself is, genderqueer just sounds - well fucking nuts.

I'm sorry, but who cares what your sexuality is - why do you need to announce it.

Perhaps this is where your problems lie?

Here you are again passing judgement on people and being just generally nasty and mean just like with the poor person who's dog died.....

 

[Xocoyotziin]

I'm sorry if this comes across in the wrong way, but I'm heterosexual and don't feel the need to tell everyone about it.

I don't even know what this latest fad of telling everyone about yourself is, genderqueer just sounds - well fucking nuts.

I'm sorry, but who cares what your sexuality is - why do you need to announce it.

Perhaps this is where your problems lie?

That's because heterosexuality is expected and implicit in most social interactions. You don't need to talk about it because people already know it by default. Straight people in general talk about and fixate on sex and relationships as often as anyone else, but they don't have to mention that they're straight btw because everyone already assumes that. People also tend to treat men and women a certain way through a heteronormative framework that's invisible to people who do it because it's normal. The mere act of violating that framework makes you stick out like a sore thumb regardless of your intent, so it's inevitable that people will accuse you of being loud no matter what you do. Also the social isolation is a significant source of distress for some people, which is why they might talk about it, and sometimes you have to give straight people up front disclaimers so they don't get "confused" and try to fuck with you.

Btw it was totally relevant in this case because he was explaining why his family would refer to him using pronouns he himself would not use.

I mean imagine if everywhere you went people thought you were gay. Wouldn't you want them to know that you're not?

 

[Mimi79]

She was always so kind and lovely ..

 

[Worthless_nobody]

But that is my point - it's really fucking manipulative - I am going to announce myself, so that YOU can MAKE SURE that you use the words that I LIKE so that I AM NOT UPSET with YOU.

Because it will be YOU that is in the WRONG.

Sod off - dog died or whatever, I don't need to know their sexual pferences.

My cat just died and by the way I'm a lesbian and prefer him/his pronouns.

What you talking about? What's it got to do with the cat?

Welcome to my ignore button...."sod off" yourself I'm sick of seeing your mean judgement on what was once a kind caring forum that's mentioned for people to VENT and be understood. Your literally the most condescending mean person here...not caring someone's dog died, not caring about why someone is upset in this thread....so yeah "sod" off yourself"....

Also stop derailing damn threads with your options you do that constantly too I see

 

[Dead beat dad]

people will no doubt chat some shit about you once you are dead. There own opinion about you/ your life/ why you did it etc....what type of annoying and inaccurate shit do you think that they will come up with?

'he had so much to live for...'

 

[Xocoyotziin]

No, heterosexualty is not expected, and even if it was why would the first words out of your mouth be your sexuality?

I ring someone up - hello my name is Jim, and by the way let me tell you I only have 1 leg and no arms so you'd better be careful what you say.

Why? There are 2 genders - male and female - the rest is mental illness. If it's a problem, ask them. If you really can't tell.

Only someone who was heterosexual would think that it's not expected, because like I said, it's the norm.

You ring someone up they'll by default behave as though you're heterosexual. There's no need to tell anyone because of that.

And you're making shit up. That is not what that poster was doing. They were communicating distress over being misgendered posthumously, not trying to police you. You know, like you're trying to police lgbt people for being honest about their sexuality and gender identities.

 

[Worthless_nobody]

There are 2 genders - male and female - the rest is mental illness.

That's sick! Rude deplorable and jerk sick!!! So a trans person is mentally ill?? Just wow!

 

[TheQ22]

Only someone who was heterosexual would think that it's not expected, because like I said, it's the norm.

You ring someone up they'll by default behave as though you're heterosexual. There's no need to tell anyone because of that.

And you're making shit up. That is not what that poster was doing. They were communicating distress over being misgendered posthumously, not trying to police you. You know, like you're trying to police lgbt people for being honest about their sexuality and gender identities.

Only someone who is not heterosexual would think being heterosexual is the expected norm.

I guess it's part of the desired I'm a victim mentality?

That's sick! Rude deplorable and jerk sick!!! So a trans person is mentally ill?? Just wow!

It's a FACT you IDIOT. You can't make up genders just because you don't like a fanny or a dick.

 

[Deleted member 4418]

He had such a caring support system!

 

[MiseryLovesMyCompany]

"No one liked her."

That would be false, I can assure you.

 

[purplesmoothie]

Things like "he was such a weirdo, it was unexpected, but coming from him that's not surprising" or "spoiled and ungrateful brat, had an easy life, yet did this".

Yes, omg word for word same

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

People who know me really well would probably say I was too hard on myself, that I didn't deserve to die, that I'm really nice to people, that I actually do have good looks yadda yadda yadda.

These people are blind and stupidly wrong and I hate them, but nowhere nearly as much as I hate myself. The horrible monster within me deserves to die and if I have to be the one to kill him then so be it. I'll kill him even if it takes me down with him. Just thinking about them feeling sad about such an evil person's death makes me so angry.

 

[Dead beat dad]

People who know me really well would probably say I was too hard on myself, that I didn't deserve to die, that I'm really nice to people, that I actually do have good looks yadda yadda yadda.

These people are blind and stupid and I hate them, but nowhere nearly as much as I hate myself. The horrible monster within me deserves to die and if I have to be the one to kill him then so be it. I'll kill him even if it takes me down with him. Just thinking about them feeling sad about such an evil person's death makes me so angry.

I feel this brother. Even though it may not be appropriate; I'm sending love and light to you my friend.
Love and respect
DBD

 

[x~Sophia~x]

The coroner while im on the table... what a waste. He had such a big willy