Venting Uni is the fucking worst

[princexhhn]

Context: I have a huge group project right now that I'm the leader of. They chose me to be the leader.

Are they fucking DUMB? It's like they WANT to fail. I get sick for a few days and ask them to do the work while I'm gone, and that I'll just do my part when I'm better… but guess what? NOTHING. DO I HAVE TO BABYSIT THEM ALL THE TIME?! NOT TO MENTION, HALF THE TIME THEY DO WORK IT'S FUCKING WRONG! THEY DON'T LISTEN TO WHAT I SAY THEY JUST LISTEN TO THEMSELVES. WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU DOING IN A BUSINESS MAJOR IF YOU DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO CREATE A PROJECTED INCOME THEY TEACH THAT SHIT IN YEAR ONE. WHAT THE FUCK. I'M NOT YOUR FUCKING TUTOR LEARN TO READ YOUR DAMN NOTES. I CAN NEVER EVEN FIND TIME TO SIT AND DO MY PART OF THE PROJECT CAUSE I'M ALWAYS HAVING TO BABY AND MONITOR THEM TO MAKE SURE THEY DO IT FUCKING RIGHT! I'D DO THE ENTIRE THING MYSELF, BUT THIS IS A BIG PROJECT THAT I CAN'T POSSIBLY DO ALONE. Well maybe I could, but I'm not going to because that's fucking exhausting and they'd just pass with flying colours while I SUFFERED. I fucking hate uni get me out of here… well not really I just hate my classmates I guess. Fucking dumbasses never listening and then the teacher criticizes us for the things I ALREADY SAID BUT THEY DIDN'T LISTEN! Oh and this bitch, this other person in the group tries to push me off and then take the lead herself when she DOESN'T EVEN KNOW WHAT SHE'S FUCKING DOING. FUCK OFF JESUS CHRIST. IF YOU WANNA FAIL DON'T DRAG ME WITH YOU CUNT. Holy shit. Classes were out today cause it's a holiday, and tomorrow because of the monsoon. Thank god I don't have to see them, but I still emailed them today because we STILL HAD WORK AND THE DEADLINE IS NOT GONNA FUCKING MOVE. AND THEY ARE. NOT. RESPONDING. FUCK.

 

[Apathy79]

You'd have hated me in your group. I did everything last minute at Uni. I hated group assignments because of the people that wanted to start working on it weeks out. When in my mind I have 4 other subjects with deadlines before then, so this isn't getting a second of attention until those are done. I'll make the deadline, but I won't beat it by much.

They're a pain because everyone has different approaches to reaching the same end. But it ends up the same in the field so it's still good practice. You probably get the least benefit from group projects where everyone is on the same page and it all works smoothly.

 

[princexhhn]

You'd have hated me in your group. I did everything last minute at Uni. I hated group assignments because of the people that wanted to start working on it weeks out. When in my mind I have 4 other subjects with deadlines before then, so this isn't getting a second of attention until those are done. I'll make the deadline, but I won't beat it by much.

They're a pain because everyone has different approaches to reaching the same end. But it ends up the same in the field so it's still good practice. You probably get the least benefit from group projects where everyone is on the same page and it all works smoothly.

No see I get that, the problem is that the deadline of this specific thing is in a few hours and none of them have done anything and don't even talk to me. I'm very lax in general about these things, often letting them submit work last minute because I don't care in particular, just as long as we meet the deadline, but this is just dumb at this point. We had weeks to do this and nobody did not one single thing. They also have the constant habit of actually genuinely never doing anything unless I specifically tell them to. I sacrificed sleep to do their part instead so we don't miss the damn deadline. My group is just genuinely incompetent, it's painful.

 

[Apathy79]

Yeah that sucks. Uni is cut throat a bit like that. Some people won't do anything knowing they care less about the result than someone else and it will get done anyway, probably with a better result for them for no work, that other person be damned!

I do miss late nights in the library though with an energy drink or 3, trying to finish an assignment that was due tonight but I know she doesn't pick up the pile until she arrives the next morning so I have all night. It was kind of serene focus with noone still around. I don't think I realised I enjoyed that at the time but gee I miss it looking back. I did some great work those nights. Taking a break at 3am to wander around the empty gardens and clear my head. 25 years on, I realise the result made no difference, it was all about what I was really learning from that experience. I wish I had that same drive for excellence now.

Fwiw, you're the only one in the group that gets anything really useful from this experience, even if it doesn't feel like it currently.

 

[princexhhn]

Yeah that sucks. Uni is cut throat a bit like that. Some people won't do anything knowing they care less about the result than someone else and it will get done anyway, probably with a better result for them for no work, that other person be damned!

I do miss late nights in the library though with an energy drink or 3, trying to finish an assignment that was due tonight but I know she doesn't pick up the pile until she arrives the next morning so I have all night. It was kind of serene focus with noone still around. I don't think I realised I enjoyed that at the time but gee I miss it looking back. I did some great work those nights. Taking a break at 3am to wander around the empty gardens and clear my head. 25 years on, I realise the result made no difference, it was all about what I was really learning from that experience. I wish I had that same drive for excellence now.

Fwiw, you're the only one in the group that gets anything really useful from this experience, even if it doesn't feel like it currently.

Yeah true, the experience really is something worthwhile at least

 

[princexhhn]

Totally awesome update: we missed the deadline! Fuck them I'll kill myself anyway so they can deal with failing on their own

 

[bankai]

I didn't enjoy college at all. I can understand.

 

[amerie]

Real lol I fucking hate group projects I don't know why it's hard for some people to collaborate bc if anything you're doing less work

It's either people who don't do shit or people who are unnecessarily dominant and don't give anyone space to do anything, how hard is it to be normal I don't get it.

You'd have hated me in your group.

I have ADHD and I'm like this too lol but it's usually for my own work and I try not to jeopardize everyone else.

This behavior in college is really bad, why even get a degree if you don't know how to work with other people it's a basic life skill.

 

[princexhhn]

This behavior in college is really bad, why even get a degree if you don't know how to work with other people it's a basic life skill.

Yeah exactly! We have a whole gc and it feels like I'm the only one talking in it, what's the purpose of having a gc then if they aren't gonna do the bare minimum which is communicating. Reply, or react at the very least. They cannot even do that.

 

[amerie]

Yeah exactly! We have a whole gc and it feels like I'm the only one talking in it, what's the purpose of having a gc then if they aren't gonna do the bare minimum which is communicating. Reply, or react at the very least. They cannot even do that.

They're always on their phone doing fuck shit too like bro just give an update or take like 2 hours out of your long ass day to work damn

 

[princexhhn]

They're always on their phone doing fuck shit too like bro just give an update or take like 2 hours out of your long ass day to work damn

Right?! I was reaching out for like 2 whole days before someone finally decided to do the bare minimum which is replying. If they wanna fail can they not drag me down with them