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i gave so many signs
Jun 17, 2023
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TW: mental health and abuse

I am a new employee at my job and today (its week two) my manager is going to have a one on one with me (in a couple hours) to discuss my schedule. They encourage open communication. We are work from home 4 days a week, and one day in office. I am returning to the workforce after 6 months off after going through a lifetime of hell.

I, 29F, escaped my family for the first time last year. I am a victim of human trafficking and my chances of surviving were pretty low. But I moved, changed my last name, and took my dog and got the hell out. I had just also gotten done beating cancer. As soon as I moved, my dog got cancer, but he had a good chance of survival if we did chemo. He had his last round of chemo yesterday and we are both cancer free and on the mend. I also was born with a debilitating liver disease and I am on a liver transplant list due to the severity. Long story short - I don't mean to play the "woe is me card" but all this has led me to be in therapy 3x a week. I also go to a trafficking survivors group. I need this job to keep my apartment and I've kind of indirectly been placed on the 9-5:30 schedule.....

Being so so new, is it too soon or too needy to explain that I need the 8-4:30 shift? Those are usually granted to employees after a year... But... With my appointments and my health, being off a little before 5 is actually life changing. Also, due to all my appointments, I have a preference for my in office day. Am I too needy to make all these requests even though I am so, so new? My manager does seem approachable.. do I explain any of this? Or is this a time to stay quietly inconvenienced and earn my way to be able to have requests?
 
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You are a badass survivor, and you deserve to be able to ask for what you want. You don't have to share all (or any) of the details in your OP with your manager, but if (i) your job encourages open communication, (ii) your manager seems approachable, and (iii) a small change in shift hours would really be life-changing for you, then why not go for it? Sounds like the worst thing that could happen is that your manager politely says "no".

Hope the one on one goes well, and that you get everything you need <3
 
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Jan 13, 2024
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TW: mental health and abuse

I am a new employee at my job and today (its week two) my manager is going to have a one on one with me (in a couple hours) to discuss my schedule. They encourage open communication. We are work from home 4 days a week, and one day in office. I am returning to the workforce after 6 months off after going through a lifetime of hell.

I, 29F, escaped my family for the first time last year. I am a victim of human trafficking and my chances of surviving were pretty low. But I moved, changed my last name, and took my dog and got the hell out. I had just also gotten done beating cancer. As soon as I moved, my dog got cancer, but he had a good chance of survival if we did chemo. He had his last round of chemo yesterday and we are both cancer free and on the mend. I also was born with a debilitating liver disease and I am on a liver transplant list due to the severity. Long story short - I don't mean to play the "woe is me card" but all this has led me to be in therapy 3x a week. I also go to a trafficking survivors group. I need this job to keep my apartment and I've kind of indirectly been placed on the 9-5:30 schedule.....

Being so so new, is it too soon or too needy to explain that I need the 8-4:30 shift? Those are usually granted to employees after a year... But... With my appointments and my health, being off a little before 5 is actually life changing. Also, due to all my appointments, I have a preference for my in office day. Am I too needy to make all these requests even though I am so, so new? My manager does seem approachable.. do I explain any of this? Or is this a time to stay quietly inconvenienced and earn my way to be able to have requests?
You would be well within your rights to request a different shift due to medical reasons. Legally, you don't even need to tell them what the medical issue is, but they may request a doctor's note or accommodations paperwork from your doctor
 

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