Discussion Should I tell him?

[kittymeow:3]

Should I tell my partner that I am suicidal?

One time me and my partner had been talking about the sh subject, he told me that people who are loud about their SH are either only doing it for attention or cause they're genuinely looking for help.

Last few months I've been dealing with suicidal thoughts.. I've already came up with a plan and date.. I want to tell him but I don't want to look like like I'm doing it for attention.. but at the same time I do want him to know how I've been feeling..

Mind that our relationship is quite rocky right now, so I also don't want it to look like I'm manipulating him or anything like that.

I just don't know what to do.


EDIT- I'm planning on CTB but I don't plan on telling him that.. I'm only thinking about telling him I have suicidal thoughts.

 

[Canto XIII]

or cause they're genuinely looking for help

He said it himself.

Mind that our relationship is quite rocky right now, so I also don't want it to look like I'm manipulating him or anything like that.

I just don't know what to do.

I don't know if you should tell him in particular but you should definitely tell someone in your life, or a professional. You'll get some sort of natural anti-survivor bias by browsing here, but sharing what affects you genuinely helps in many cases.

 

[MrDarkness]

tell him your struggling no shame in it. if he wants to help you, i suggest you take it, no shame in it, sometimes people stupid stuff about self harm until they either do it, or have a love one that struggles from it

 

[UltraAlter]

As already said, if not him at least talk to someone. It may not be too late to find some support and hopefully one day things will seem a bit less heavy on you
Idk. I wish you the best and hope you can find the right outcome for you. Sending love

 

[kittypsst]

Depends, do you benefit more with this rocky relationship or can you survive without starting today?

Very very likely this is a death sentence for any woman who wants sympathy in a partner who isn't white/anglosaxon or with an unusual overprotective streak.

Assume they'll trash any plans and very likely you will be cornered into not being allowed to leave or forced into a hospital visit. I wish I had more encouraging words, but don't ruin your life expecting people to show mercy. Keep hospitals records as clean as you can if you expect a way out of abuse or neglect.

 

[Canto XIII]

Depends, do you benefit more with this rocky relationship or can you survive without starting today?

Very very likely this is a death sentence for any woman who wants sympathy in a partner who isn't white/anglosaxon or with an unusual overprotective streak.

Assume they'll trash any plans and very likely you will be cornered into not being allowed to leave or forced into a hospital visit. I wish I had more encouraging words, but don't ruin your life expecting people to show mercy. Keep hospitals records as clean as you can if you expect a way out of abuse or neglect.

This sounds overly pessimistic to me. No disrespect to your lived experience though.

 

[Higurashi415]

I've struggled with the same question. It's hard, but if you genuinely love him, I'd say be honest. Being suicidal is a part of you, maybe a big part, too, so what's the point in hiding it? It'll just bite you in the back further down the line, because he won't be able to understand you without really knowing why. If he's the love of your life, he'll understand, and if he's not, good riddance.

If you're in the presence of someone who'd abandon you precisely because you're struggling, it's best to know that sooner rather than later

 

[kittymeow:3]

Off topic if your name based of the visual novel/ anime? If so that's so cool!

 

[Higurashi415]

Off topic if your name based of the visual novel/ anime? If so that's so cool!

Yep, first anime I ever watched! I have yet to play the visual novel though.