impossible to hang out with friends

[KiraComplex]

everytime i'm with a friend, no matter how close, i just start feeling so unwanted. i was at a friends house and she had another friend over who i knew, and i just felt so out of place, even though they do really like me. i just felt unwanted and unneeded, and i really wanted to go home and kill myself or harm myself super bad. everytime i'm our with a friend i just feel so alone. any one else?

 

[Iwantoutrightnow]

I don't really have many friends but I have felt like this with family. I went to my aunt and Uncle's for Christmas and even though I was invited the whole time I was there I kept thinking that I didn't belong there, they didn't really want me there I was just invited because they felt obliged. I have been told that it's anxiety talking and not really true but I don't know

 

[autumnal]

everytime i'm with a friend, no matter how close, i just start feeling so unwanted. i was at a friends house and she had another friend over who i knew, and i just felt so out of place, even though they do really like me. i just felt unwanted and unneeded, and i really wanted to go home and kill myself or harm myself super bad. everytime i'm our with a friend i just feel so alone. any one else?

Sounds like something that might respond to some therapy, at least an option worth considering before the more final one?

 

[SpottedPanda]

I have no friends I admire or truly like. Well, it's a grand count of two people, so don't really worry about not being welcome or wanted. I feel at a loss with most family members, when at gatherings. I'm just not as awesome as I believed myself to be ten years prior. For me, the spark has gone. I do wonder if a change in mindset might help, but I've little interest in that

 

[KiraComplex]

Sounds like something that might respond to some therapy, at least an option worth considering before the more final one?

this isn't my only reason i want to obliterate myself, but its one of them

 

[autumnal]

this isn't my only reason i want to obliterate myself, but its one of them

OK. Well the suggestion still stands, it's something I would recommend to almost anyone just to be certain they have covered all avenues of recovery before ending their lives.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

everytime i'm with a friend, no matter how close, i just start feeling so unwanted. i was at a friends house and she had another friend over who i knew, and i just felt so out of place, even though they do really like me. i just felt unwanted and unneeded, and i really wanted to go home and kill myself or harm myself super bad. everytime i'm our with a friend i just feel so alone. any one else?

Let me guess if you and two other friends walk together on the sidewalk you always end up in the back because there isn´t room for three people next to each other on the sidewalk?

 

[Oblivion]

since more than a year i've been extremely talkative and my friends hate me now and avoid me and if i'm with them they keep silencing me, i was even kicked out of our whatsapp group, i'm going back to what i really am, i was always surprised how the fuck do i have friends and how did i ever have gfs while i'm a complete piece of shit

 

[moonchild]

@KiraComplex I always feel sort of unwanted and unliked with friends, like they're just tolerating me because it'd be weird if they broke contact. For me, I think the main issue is that I always feel so distant and alienated from the world in general, so I can't connect to them, which also means they can't feel a connection to me, so it becomes kind of awkward. :/

Let me guess if you and two other friends walk together on the sidewalk you always end up in the back because there isn´t room for three people next to each other on the sidewalk?

I'm in this post and I don't like it.

 

[Alec]

I don't have any friends, never had. And I have no idea how to make friends. I just always feel like I'm not good enough in every way possible, like I shouldn't be liked or accepted into any circle because I'm a failure and a loser and every time someone talks to me or even just looks at me I feel like they are laughing at me. And I wanna get outta there go be alone and hurt myself too, I really want to kill myself in those moments and cut myself and just hit myself.

 

[TheGoodGuy]

I'm in this post and I don't like it.

Exactly it´s a clear sign that shows you your place.

 

[KiraComplex]

Let me guess if you and two other friends walk together on the sidewalk you always end up in the back because there isn´t room for three people next to each other on the sidewalk?

YES!!!!

I don't have any friends, never had. And I have no idea how to make friends. I just always feel like I'm not good enough in every way possible, like I shouldn't be liked or accepted into any circle because I'm a failure and a loser and every time someone talks to me or even just looks at me I feel like they are laughing at me. And I wanna get outta there go be alone and hurt myself too, I really want to kill myself in those moments and cut myself and just hit myself.

i know what you feel... feels desperate and sad. but don't worry- its okay to be alone. there's stigma that if you're friendless, you suck. could be the opposite.

 

[Deleted member 14386]

The time of hanging out with friends has passed for me, I used to back when I was in school, then I made a mistake of moving and fell out of touch with all of them. Now I have no friends, it's odd and isolating and driving me insane (slowly). When I did have friends I did experience what you were saying though, like I wasn't good enough for the group, and didn't 'fit in'. I think it's why I moved but it all got far worse after that.

 

[KiraComplex]

The time of hanging out with friends has passed for me, I used to back when I was in school, then I made a mistake of moving and fell out of touch with all of them. Now I have no friends, it's odd and isolating and driving me insane (slowly). When I did have friends I did experience what you were saying though, like I wasn't good enough for the group, and didn't 'fit in'. I think it's why I moved but it all got far worse after that.

may be a naive suggestion, but there is always clubs or facebook groups. like if you like idk fighting card games theres meet up groups and maybe you can find friends there.
i know what you mean though, that you can't fit in anywhere. i feel u.

 

[Bct]

Me too. Sometimes I'm thinking I don't belong everywhere. Feels like I'm the odd one out and unwanted. Years of traumas from being betrayed & consequences of being an asshole led me to this situation.

 

[lostangel]

Yes, I remember every time I tried to hang out with ''friends'' I was never treated as if I'm good enough to be around them.