How Good Were Your Parents?

[miles-away]

The meanest thing I can say is that they were neglect drunks who were both probably on the spectrum. I believe my parents loved me but my mother made a lot of questionable decisions. I am increasingly feeling more and more bad for my mother nowadays now that I've finally realized what a bum my father is. I hate that I'm turning into a female version of him.

 

[star.trip]

My mother was good in some ways, but my father was not. My childhood and adolescence were hell, with shouting, beatings, and physical and psychological abuse. My father never loved me. He didn't say so verbally, but his gestures and the way he spoke gave him away. There was never any affection, hugs, or anything (thankfully, my grandmother gave me hugs, few but more than I received). My happiest place was high school or college (not that I had many friends) because at least no one talked to me, which allowed me to take a break from home.
I have to say that they supported me in what I wanted to study, but emotionally they were no good at all.
I understand that sometimes parents create an image of what their child should be like that never matches the image the child has of themselves. I never felt listened to by my parents, and I had to face my problems alone, which is why I always feel abandoned.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

I had (and still have) very good and loving parents. My mom is still alive. I failed my mom and her expectations yet she still loves me. I'm the failure here.

 

[ScaredtoTry]

My parents were the best to me. My dad was and still is my idol and best friend and while my mom stumbled she did her best. They gave me every oppurtunity to succeed and really tried to help me along the way.

I was the one that failed them and wasted everything they worked to give me.

 

[X-sanguinate86]

Mine were no good. Weak losers who should never had passed on their genes, least of all with each other, nor been caregivers or role models. Both socially and emotionally retarded. The consequence is that me and my siblings are destroyed.