How can adults cope everyday?

[lonerclown666]

I dont understand why some people have the motivation to go to work ,study and live a normal life without being sad or depressed the last years of my life i have lived with constant depression i cant enjoy anything anymore the things i liked have not effect in me anymore im just waiting CTB my death is unavoidable i dont want to spend the rest of my life being unhappy i wish i was happy like those persons who dont want to CTB

 

[Sunset Limited]

There is a market where I shop every day. I like the manager of the market. Sometimes we chat. He told me "I work 14 hours a day. It's only Sunday off". I'm sure he earns less than $500 a month. Still, he is cheerful and happy most of the time. I guess happiness or unhappiness doesn't really care about causes. They are already there. In our head. We find the reasons for them. Sounds like it's more about brain chemistry than causation.

 

[Circles]

That's what I don't get and it amazes me how most people are able to live life as a functioning human being. It's almost like it's not even real to me.

 

[Chiisai]

Work, study, hobbies, and all other "normal" things were my distraction. Though now, I feel I have done everything that makes meaning to me therefore I believe I have already outlived my stay.

 

[piger]

I believe we've reached similar conclusions for ourselves.

Short-term happiness only leads to emptiness. Material connections, giving into desires, and shallow relationships only get one so far: even if it takes 30 or 40 years. Those people you see as happy living life are living in blissful ignorance of the depressing reality around them and which they have contributed to building themselves. Those people are truly lost and the moment a misfortune happens to them they'll collapse. Nevertheless, actual fulfillment comes through living with purpose: Being able to find constructive passions, having genuine love and care of others (i.e wife, kids), etc. Sometimes fate makes it easy, but these sorts of feelings and meetings only come once. It's up to you to make do with what fate gives you seeds for; reap and sow it. If you don't, it's all downhill from there. Adult life is a really just a shitshow we're all living in and it's only gonna get worse.

I think the only reason we're all still here is because we're hesitant to actually make the jump. We like to think we can end it at any time, but we keep living through the mundane or hellish with the anticipation to keep seeing how unknown things play out. I've lived in a self-made hell for years and it'll be that for the foreseeable future. There isn't a moment where I don't pray for death, wish that things were different, and I do not understand why I haven't died yet. Yet, I'd rather not be blissfully ignorant or "normal".

 

[foreveralone]

This is the exact question that I had a few years ago and I 100% agree with @piger above.

My perspective has been that if you have absolutely nothing whatsoever like most of us here (love, friendships, purpose), there's a level of clarity you end up inheriting where you realize the futility of day to day life, and it makes people like us wonder why on earth people would tolerate such nonsense, because we can't.

I think that for most people, they have 'purpose' such as a loved one they can build a life with, or some other arbitrary purpose that makes the awful things in life worth living.

 

[Chiisai]

I believe we've reached similar conclusions for ourselves.

Short-term happiness only leads to emptiness. Material connections, giving into desires, and shallow relationships only get one so far: even if it takes 30 or 40 years. Those people you see as happy living life are living in blissful ignorance of the depressing reality around them and which they have contributed to building themselves. Those people are truly lost and the moment a misfortune happens to them they'll collapse. Nevertheless, actual fulfillment comes through living with purpose: Being able to find constructive passions, having genuine love and care of others (i.e wife, kids), etc. Sometimes fate makes it easy, but these sorts of feelings and meetings only come once. It's up to you to make do with what fate gives you seeds for; reap and sow it. If you don't, it's all downhill from there. Adult life is a really just a shitshow we're all living in and it's only gonna get worse.

I think the only reason we're all still here is because we're hesitant to actually make the jump. We like to think we can end it at any time, but we keep living through the mundane or hellish with the anticipation to keep seeing how unknown things play out. I've lived in a self-made hell for years and it'll be that for the foreseeable future. There isn't a moment where I don't pray for death, wish that things were different, and I do not understand why I haven't died yet. Yet, I'd rather not be blissfully ignorant or "normal".

I feel you. I posted earlier of similar thought but removed it to due to exposing several details. Living in my household that focuses more on rational and logical approach mixed with subservient religious doctrine, negative emotions were deemed illogical and unnecessary therefore when it comes to terms of happiness, it is based on practicality rather than self-indulgence and instant gratification. Being out in the real world working alongside coworkers dumbfounded me of their short-term happiness and "impractical" indulgences and over the years, I too have engaged in these "happiness". Though the experience was pleasing, I still find it impractical and in my own, devoid of real meaning. The more I spent time with society, the more I realize how prevalent this kind of happiness is. If this is how society see happiness, I realize that my principles is not fit for this world therefore, I am no longer fit for society as it is.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

They're not adults to me. And I'm not an adult to them. Or we're all adults, going by the strict definition. Not that it matters, just more status stuff/social garbage.

 

[sharky]

Because most of them don't suffer from major depression. If they do suffer depression at some point in life, it's temporary. Most people I know or meet seem happy or some i even asked and they told me they are fully happy in life. I never felt that so yeah it seems otherworldly to me. But it's possible for most people apparently.

 

[FuneralCry]

I do not understand people who want to live. How can anyone want to live in a world where there is so much suffering. To me, life is just a pointless struggle that we go through for the sake of it, it is so tedious and unnecessary. Life in itself is very depressing, all we have to look forward to is old age where we watch ourselves deteriorate. I have never wanted to live and I never will. I cannot cope with life and there is nothing here for me in this world. I am only still here as it is so hard to leave.

 

[Ednospatient]

I do not understand people who want to live. How can anyone want to live in a world where there is so much suffering. To me, life is just a pointless struggle that we go through for the sake of it, it is so tedious and unnecessary. Life in itself is very depressing, all we have to look forward to is old age where we watch ourselves deteriorate. I have never wanted to live and I never will. I cannot cope with life and there is nothing here for me in this world. I am only still here as it is so hard to leave.

Not everyone is as depressed as us.. its quite simple really.

 

[Chiisai]

Not everyone is as depressed as us.. its quite simple really.

True that. It might be that they still yearn for life experiences they havent felt yet. As for me, I believe I have experienced all I could in life therefore have no qualms in leaving.