Ego Sum Medusa
I am the Crone.
- Sep 28, 2021
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I've looked around a little bit and haven't seen a thread specifically for this particular topic so I thought I'd bring it up as it is of interest to me and I thought might be so to others, as well.
Does anyone else find comfort in designing their own last day and funeral? I do; it eases my pain, comforts me, when I'm struggling.
I have been looking at designs and examples for my funeral dress, which I would like to make for myself but will resort to buying if necessary. It is going to be a long, hooded, long-sleeved, medieval-type dress and I will lying be in, hopefully a cardboard box, as I am being cremated, surrounded by some flowers and holding a bunch of them at my waist. My hair, which is partially emerald, teal green and brown right now, will likely be all green by that time and I would like it pulled forward.
My daughter will know how to apply my liquid moisturizer, mascara and eyeliner. I would like my fingernails to be painted a light shell pink and my toenails to match. No shoes and just the tips of my toenails showing beyond my dress.
Also I would like there to be no memorial service as I am reclusive and it would only be a useless waste of money for my family and my one very close friend from childhood. They can have a little service at our house if they want to and actually, It's part of my plan, now I think of it. My only requirement (or wish I suppose is a better word) for the "after party" is the presence of enchiladas, good chocolate and excellent coffee.
I have researched funeral homes and crematoriums and put some information in a folder for my family so that they won't have too much to think/worry about and, importantly, won't have to spend too much money.
I actually found a cremation service that was having an urn sale, as in you get a free urn with your cremation. That cracked me up because we have always been very frugal and I would just love that; it would make my people laugh.
That's about as far as I've gotten, but as I say, it comforts me, the planning. I am extremely unlikely to die by my own hand, but I know that I will die someday and when things are hard I find this exercise quieting.
I did see a thread about choosing funeral songs which is something I had not considered. I'll have to think about that because I think that's something nice that I would like to have at my little family memorial.
Anyone else do this?
Does anyone else find comfort in designing their own last day and funeral? I do; it eases my pain, comforts me, when I'm struggling.
I have been looking at designs and examples for my funeral dress, which I would like to make for myself but will resort to buying if necessary. It is going to be a long, hooded, long-sleeved, medieval-type dress and I will lying be in, hopefully a cardboard box, as I am being cremated, surrounded by some flowers and holding a bunch of them at my waist. My hair, which is partially emerald, teal green and brown right now, will likely be all green by that time and I would like it pulled forward.
My daughter will know how to apply my liquid moisturizer, mascara and eyeliner. I would like my fingernails to be painted a light shell pink and my toenails to match. No shoes and just the tips of my toenails showing beyond my dress.
Also I would like there to be no memorial service as I am reclusive and it would only be a useless waste of money for my family and my one very close friend from childhood. They can have a little service at our house if they want to and actually, It's part of my plan, now I think of it. My only requirement (or wish I suppose is a better word) for the "after party" is the presence of enchiladas, good chocolate and excellent coffee.
I have researched funeral homes and crematoriums and put some information in a folder for my family so that they won't have too much to think/worry about and, importantly, won't have to spend too much money.
I actually found a cremation service that was having an urn sale, as in you get a free urn with your cremation. That cracked me up because we have always been very frugal and I would just love that; it would make my people laugh.
That's about as far as I've gotten, but as I say, it comforts me, the planning. I am extremely unlikely to die by my own hand, but I know that I will die someday and when things are hard I find this exercise quieting.
I did see a thread about choosing funeral songs which is something I had not considered. I'll have to think about that because I think that's something nice that I would like to have at my little family memorial.
Anyone else do this?
