Do you feel isolated?

[Justsogone]

I'm not an extrovert person, I'm still a little shy sometimes, but I have to say that I like to be a quiet person even if I don't have enough social skills I should have, but when I started to feel hopeless, also I started to feel really isolated deleting my account from social media and avoiding people. Despite I never had a big circle of friends there were a couple of closest friends which I was communicating sometimes. But now I see it's pointless untill I realize that I haven't had real friends or gfs since 2 years ago and I feel behind.

If you can correct my grammar mistakes I'd appreciate it, It doesn't bother me at all.

 

[Julgran]

Your situation is not unusual at all - even people who weren't lonely before the pandemic are reporting a high degree of loneliness and isolation due to the pandemic.

Many of us are lonely in today's world.

How do you see your own situation progressinf in the future? Do you have any plans on trying to change your situation? Not that it's easy, but I'm just interested in your thoughts about this.

 

[Fadeawaaaay]

I was an extrovert. Life collapsed. Now I'm hiding.

 

[FuneralCry]

I am isolated from other people, but that is the way I want it to be. I need to be alone, people are tiring and I cannot stand most people.

 

[Starryeyes]

I am isolated from other people, but that is the way I want it to be. I need to be alone, people are tiring and I cannot stand most people.

Same :( I went shopping for my Xmas food yesterday just doing that having to be around people I felt so tired after

 

[Justsogone]

Your situation is not unusual at all - even people who weren't lonely before the pandemic are reporting a high degree of loneliness and isolation due to the pandemic.

Many of us are lonely in today's world.

How do you see your own situation progressinf in the future? Do you have any plans on trying to change your situation? Not that it's easy, but I'm just interested in your thoughts about this.

If you ask me I'm hopeless about the situation, Sometimes I've thought to move abroad again, however I'm not quite sure this is gonna work but meanwhile I'm stuck here and I don't feel like living.

I was an extrovert. Life collapsed. Now I'm hiding.

And don't you feel a need to socialize or hangin' out with someone? I mean extroverts needs that

I am isolated from other people, but that is the way I want it to be. I need to be alone, people are tiring and I cannot stand most people.

Same most of the time

Same :( I went shopping for my Xmas food yesterday just doing that having to be around people I felt so tired after

In fact I just came from the downtown and I couldn't put out people's behavior around me.

 

[Julgran]

If you ask me I'm hopeless about the situation, Sometimes I've thought to move abroad again, however I'm not quite sure this is gonna work but meanwhile I'm stuck here and I don't feel like living.

Your reaction is understandable. I wish people would come to realize that it's unhealthy to raise children with certain expectations of life - such as everyone will be able to get an interesting education and job, and to find a significant other. It causes too much misery for the adults of tomorrow, who are then blamed for not living up to society's expectations.

 

[Myl]

Yea I'm extremely isolated.
Always have been.
Hard not to be when you spend all of your time in one room and don't interact with anyone apart from online.

Interacting with anyone irl is really tiring to me.

 

[Justsogone]

Your reaction is understandable. I wish people would come to realize that it's unhealthy to raise children with certain expectations of life - such as everyone will be able to get an interesting education and job, and to find a significant other. It causes to much misery for the adults of tomorrow, who are then blamed for now living up to society's expectations.

It's overwhelming, in my case I feel like I'm wasting my time cuz I have a degree but I couldn't find any fucking job related to my career this year and I'm not taking advantage, on the other hand, burning which supposed to be my Best years of my life. I already tried to move abroad and to be independient but lockdown messed up everything and I had to come back to my country living in my parent's again therefore I feel like a burden and my incomes and pretty unpredictables and most of the times low due to the fact that are kind of partimes.
Sorry about that

 

[Julgran]

It's overwhelming, in my case I feel like I'm wasting my time cuz I have a degree but I couldn't find any fucking job related to my career this year and I'm not taking advantage, on the other hand, burning which supposed to be my Best years of my life. I already tried to move abroad and to be independient but lockdown messed up everything and I have to come back to my country living in my parent's again therefore I feel like a burden and my incomes and pretty unpredictables and most of the times low due to the fact that are kind of partimes.
Sorry about that

Your reaction is completely justified. I would suggest to everyone - no whatter which issues one faces in life today - to see these pandemic years as a long pause in life, because it has upset the balance for all of us. In other words, if you can't accomplish anything in life within a few years from now, know that it's not your fault, because everyone needs to pause their lives during these difficult times.

If you stick around until the pandemic is eventually over, you can continue progressing in life afterwards. These are just my thoughts, though - perhaps there are people who are able to live completely normally during the pandemic.

 

[Justsogone]

Your reaction is completely justified. I would suggest to everyone - no whatter which issues one faces in life today - to see these pandemic years as a long pause in life, because it has upset the balance for all of us. In other words, if you can't accomplish anything in life within a few years from now, know that it's not your fault, because everyone needs to pause their lives during these difficult times.

If you stick around until the pandemic is eventually over, you can continue progressing in life afterwards. These are just my thoughts, though - perhaps there are people who are able to live completely normally during the pandemic.

Thanks for your answer, It's pretty kind and yeah that's the truth though most of the times I feel guilty and useless.

 

[redd1993]

Yes I feel very isolated especially since the pandemic began. I already spent most of my time alone in pre-covid times but at least I would hang out with a group of friends about once a month to play video games and chill. But now I don't see those guys anymore, I only see my family once every few weeks and my best friend's job has him traveling all over the world so I havent seen him in almost a year. I don't even go outside of my apartment except to sometimes get groceries (most of the time I get it delivered instead). There was a time when I relished living on my own and having my space and while there's still a part of it that I like for the most part it's crushing how lonely it feels. I miss simple things like watching a dumb tv show with someone or playing a game of mario party with a group. The worst is that I can't even blame the pandemic for most of it since I had already started isolating myself more and more way before it all began. It just sucks waiting for my friend to finally take a break from his job so we can spend a few days together and then just wait another year till he's able to be there again.

Being able to share how I feel online doesn't really solve anything but at least it makes me feel a bit better so thank you for sharing. It helps me feel less alone.

 

[Justsogone]

Yes I feel very isolated especially since the pandemic began. I already spent most of my time alone in pre-covid times but at least I would hang out with a group of friends about once a month to play video games and chill. But now I don't see those guys anymore, I only see my family once every few weeks and my best friend's job has him traveling all over the world so I havent seen him in almost a year. I don't even go outside of my apartment except to sometimes get groceries (most of the time I get it delivered instead). There was a time when I relished living on my own and having my space and while there's still a part of it that I like for the most part it's crushing how lonely it feels. I miss simple things like watching a dumb tv show with someone or playing a game of mario party with a group. The worst is that I can't even blame the pandemic for most of it since I had already started isolating myself more and more way before it all began. It just sucks waiting for my friend to finally take a break from his job so we can spend a few days together and then just wait another year till he's able to be there again.

Being able to share how I feel online doesn't really solve anything but at least it makes me feel a bit better so thank you for sharing. It helps me feel less alone.

I totally understand you, your situation is not as different as mine. We can't blame the pandemic for all, even though our situation got worse. Well there's no doubt this site can relieve us and thanks to you for comment I hope you feel better

 

[Justsogone]

Yea I'm extremely isolated.
Always have been.
Hard not to be when you spend all of your time in one room and don't interact with anyone apart from online.

Interacting with anyone irl is really tiring to me.

Totally agree

 

[Marktheghost]

Yes I'm extremely isolated. Sanctioned suicide is my entire social life!

 

[Justsogone]

Yes I'm extremely isolated. Sanctioned suicide is my entire social life!

It's a relieve

 

[AstroV]

Hey I've never had friends in my life lol. But it's all good I guess

 

[LingeringUnreal]

Yup. Live in a super rural area with zero local friends. I moved back home when the pandemic hit and there's not even like a movie theater for 50 miles or so...

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

Yes. Even with friends, I don't feel fully connected to any of them. No matter where I go or who I'm with I always feel like there's just some bit of nuance or contrarianism setting me apart from them which makes me feel fundamentally lonely. It's like I'm always at a party where I don't know anyone and the people I do know don't fully know me enough, not even my closest friends and family.

 

[rationalis]

Yup. Live in a super rural area with zero local friends. I moved back home when the pandemic hit and there's not even like a movie theater for 50 miles or so...

Sounds good so far. Haven't been to a movie in many years. Being able to be outdoors has been a real bonus these years, and rural is at least away from the riots in the US.

 

[LingeringUnreal]

Sounds good so far. Haven't been to a movie in many years. Being able to be outdoors has been a real bonus these years, and rural is at least away from the riots in the US.

That's fair. I found it relaxing for the first....maybe 4 months? After that it was just boring. Doesn't help that the houses that ARE around me are just snoopy family members who are total rednecks so I can't even go for a walk in the woods with Billy Bob calling my mom (which, wtf, I'm like 30 lol). I miss the convenience of city living, being able to walk on sidewalks, stuff like that. I'm not built for rural living

Being here during the big riots last year though, that was definitely a hidden benefit... can't imagine me still being in Portland when that was going on. Scary stuff.

 

[rationalis]

Rural living without privacy would be hard.

Living in a few hundred square foot big city apartment during lockdown would be the worst.

All the big cities seem bad today.

 

[charlottewilts]

yes and tbh i saw a flyer for AA meetings and even though i don't drink that much anymore I'm thinking of going just to have some social contact before i forget how to speak lol

 

[NormaJeane]

People can be isolated and tormented by overpopulation at the same time if they live alone in an apartment in a densely populated city.

 

[little helpers]

I am isolated from other people, but that is the way I want it to be. I need to be alone, people are tiring and I cannot stand most people.

me.

I'm a hugely sociable introvert. yeah, I mean that. cuz socializing for me still means being in my own head. I think about what they say/express instead of being distracted by them. it's just getting to know people.

but that feeling when I get out and know that 9 out of 10 people are fucking racist ableists, 9 out of 10 others are gonna insist on misgendering me, and 9 out of 10 in the rest will despise a junkie… okay, I know how to do elementary school maths. 10% cube is 0.1%. now tell me how I "just go out and meet people". I go out and meet fascism.

it's definitely not "all in my head" (to all you normies out there! shit, they're not on SS.) cuz it reflects my experience irl. and the only places I make friends offline are on the streets, in activism groups, and psych wards. safe spaces.

normies even laugh at "safe spaces". they can go fuck themselves.

yes and tbh i saw a flyer for AA meetings and even though i don't drink that much anymore I'm thinking of going just to have some social contact before i forget how to speak lol

if you're a bi/straight woman (or body is afab) you better be careful with this… there's enough peeps there who'd just use that connection for sex… that's not addicts behavior. that's "I'm entitled to women's body at any time" behavior.

but maybe you already know that. maybe you're looking for a hook up. who knows.

 

[Justsogone]

Hey I've never had friends in my life lol. But it's all good I guess

If you're an introvert it doesn't affect you at all, but obviously we need to socialize sometimes , It's another SI haha

Yup. Live in a super rural area with zero local friends. I moved back home when the pandemic hit and there's not even like a movie theater for 50 miles or so...

I see, I live in a town the friends that I had they moved abroad almost all of them.

Yes. Even with friends, I don't feel fully connected to any of them. No matter where I go or who I'm with I always feel like there's just some bit of nuance or contrarianism setting me apart from them which makes me feel fundamentally lonely. It's like I'm always at a party where I don't know anyone and the people I do know don't fully know me enough, not even my closest friends and family.

Yep. In fact this year I've been met a lot of people but despite that they don't really know me.

yes and tbh i saw a flyer for AA meetings and even though i don't drink that much anymore I'm thinking of going just to have some social contact before i forget how to speak lol

If you're feeling that you need it, do it.
Sometimes we need some social contact

Sounds good so far. Haven't been to a movie in many years. Being able to be outdoors has been a real bonus these years, and rural is at least away from the riots in the US.

I don't know why I prefer to live in big cities instead of rural areas or towns
It must be due to the fact that I was born in a small town.

That's fair. I found it relaxing for the first....maybe 4 months? After that it was just boring. Doesn't help that the houses that ARE around me are just snoopy family members who are total rednecks so I can't even go for a walk in the woods with Billy Bob calling my mom (which, wtf, I'm like 30 lol). I miss the convenience of city living, being able to walk on sidewalks, stuff like that. I'm not built for rural living

Being here during the big riots last year though, that was definitely a hidden benefit... can't imagine me still being in Portland when that was going on. Scary stuff.

I totally understand you these places makes you feel more isolated and with less freedom

Rural living without privacy would be hard.

Living in a few hundred square foot big city apartment during lockdown would be the worst.

All the big cities seem bad today.

I'd rather live in a big city than in a rural area.
I need to see people and environment.
Although the cities are chaotic.

People can be isolated and tormented by overpopulation at the same time if they live alone in an apartment in a densely populated city.

I met a girl that almost kill herself just in that situation during lockdown

me.

I'm a hugely sociable introvert. yeah, I mean that. cuz socializing for me still means being in my own head. I think about what they say/express instead of being distracted by them. it's just getting to know people.

but that feeling when I get out and know that 9 out of 10 people are fucking racist ableists, 9 out of 10 others are gonna insist on misgendering me, and 9 out of 10 in the rest will despise a junkie… okay, I know how to do elementary school maths. 10% cube is 0.1%. now tell me how I "just go out and meet people". I go out and meet fascism.

it's definitely not "all in my head" (to all you normies out there! shit, they're not on SS.) cuz it reflects my experience irl. and the only places I make friends offline are on the streets, in activism groups, and psych wards. safe spaces.

normies even laugh at "safe spaces". they can go fuck themselves.


if you're a bi/straight woman (or body is afab) you better be careful with this… there's enough peeps there who'd just use that connection for sex… that's not addicts behavior. that's "I'm entitled to women's body at any time" behavior.

but maybe you already know that. maybe you're looking for a hook up. who knows.

Getting a little feedback sometimes it makes me feel better even though I barely talked during the meeting. It's weird.

 

[BrokenUntilTheEnd]

I'm usually an extrovert. I need people. But when I feel even the slightest instability I lose my ability to talk to people. I just get trapped in my self-made isolation and hate myself more.

 

[charlottewilts]

me.

I'm a hugely sociable introvert. yeah, I mean that. cuz socializing for me still means being in my own head. I think about what they say/express instead of being distracted by them. it's just getting to know people.

but that feeling when I get out and know that 9 out of 10 people are fucking racist ableists, 9 out of 10 others are gonna insist on misgendering me, and 9 out of 10 in the rest will despise a junkie… okay, I know how to do elementary school maths. 10% cube is 0.1%. now tell me how I "just go out and meet people". I go out and meet fascism.

it's definitely not "all in my head" (to all you normies out there! shit, they're not on SS.) cuz it reflects my experience irl. and the only places I make friends offline are on the streets, in activism groups, and psych wards. safe spaces.

normies even laugh at "safe spaces". they can go fuck themselves.


if you're a bi/straight woman (or body is afab) you better be careful with this… there's enough peeps there who'd just use that connection for sex… that's not addicts behavior. that's "I'm entitled to women's body at any time" behavior.

but maybe you already know that. maybe you're looking for a hook up. who knows.

i hadn't thought about hooking up at all but now that you mention it if by some slim chance i met another lesbian or bi woman i would definitely hook up with her tbh, what better place to meet women with absolutely no standards. also possibly to find connects because it's less sus if i do it at AA rather than NA right? lol

 

[noname223]

I feel isolated. It is partly existential loneliness. Similar to something what DFW said I can express my words and feelings to someone but for the other person they are just words. I feel like trapped in my consciousness and cannot solve my problems. They approach me every day more and more. Feeling desperate.
When I am around people I just feel that most people have a consciousness without all this pain. WIthout worrying and existential problems which confront me 24/7. I have contact with my friends though I really have the strong desire for a partner. Maybe this would alleviate this isolation-state.
Though I am too much of a wreck. Dreaming about having a partner remains a naive dream. This existential isolation with all this pressure made socially awkward. Thinking everyday for hours about suicide does something to a person.

 

[Bleunoir]

I am extremely isolated even though I live with my husband and a teenage child . I just don't have the mental strength to face the world anymore and I am not interested in human interaction since ppl always end up disappointing me. I wish I could just go to sleep and never wake up . I started drinking excessively to ease the pain .