can you bar people from your funeral?

[finish.me]

i was just thinking about how i'd hate to have certain people at my funeral. is there like, any way you can keep people from attending? has that been done before? i'm wondering if theres anything you could do legally basically

 

[Grumpy Bear]

How could you hate the attendees of your funeral if your dead? If you are dead you would know of nothing including who attends your funeral.

 

[weepingfree]

He can hate the idea of what's going to happen in the future when he's dead. I say let the man plan his funeral

 

[finish.me]

How could you hate the attendees of your funeral if your dead? If you are dead you would know of nothing including who attends your funeral.

yeah, i know. i would just rather certain things and secrets die with me, which might not happen if certain people intermingle when im gone. like obviously it wont matter but im alive now and the thought of it is uncomfortable to me lol

 

[Grumpy Bear]

yeah, i know. i would just rather certain things and secrets die with me, which might not happen if certain people intermingle when im gone. like obviously it wont matter but im alive now and the thought of it is uncomfortable to me lol

My bad. I was being insensitive. That makes sense.

 

[xBrialesana]

THIS!!!! I'm literally doing research trying to figure this out. My rapist relative who, on many occasions has talked about necrophilia ffs. "Jokingly", but idgaf? Ugh. Yes my family knows and they know my wishes and told me to get over it :) I'm going out of my way to be sure there's no ceremony. Fuck, nobody hit me up for my birthday in June why do I want them with my body

 

[Mia Wallace]

I'm not sure of that but I did just write out a will and what I included in my last wishes was for absolutely no funeral, wake, no services of any kind including no posts on social media. They didn't give a fuck about me while I am alive so please don't start when I'm dead.

 

[Life_and_Death]

im fairly confident here in canada that you can say certain people arent allowed. im personally probably going to have a longer 'keep out' list then i am 'youre invited' listed
(is it bad i made my funeral sound like a party? lol)

 

[Alwaysbadtime]

Just write in your suicide note that you don't want x person at your funeral. Perhaps you won't have a funeral.

 

[suisuiforum]

I'm not sure of that but I did just write out a will and what I included in my last wishes was for absolutely no funeral, wake, no services of any kind including no posts on social media. They didn't give a fuck about me while I am alive so please don't start when I'm dead.

Seconding this. I don't believe it's enough to write your last wishes in a suicide note, especially since people don't consider it as a legal document when it is seen to be written under an "impaired state of mind." It's also a good idea to create a will if you have substantial assets and don't want to deal with distribution before CTB. People may open court cases over it, but it's better than not having anything prepared.

 

[Wintered]

I also have specified the person I don't want his/her presence in my will.
I strongly emphasized they must be banned and should not enter from the entrance of my funeral.
I don't know it will work or not. I just want my relatives and friends to respect my last wish.

 

[Hercules]

Yes, you can. You don't have to have a wake/funeral service if you don't want to. I have also looked into this. There are 2 ways you can do this.
1. The first is if you don't want a wake/funeral service at all. You would have a meeting with a funeral director. You tell him that you want to pre-pay for your funeral. Tell him that you want a Direct Burial or a Direct Cremation. This means that after your death, the funeral director will arrange to have you buried or cremated immediately. There won't be a wake/ funeral beforehand. You have to pick out your coffin or urn ahead of time, sign a contract, and prepay. I have looked into this. It is perfectly legal to do so.

2.The second option is you can request To have a private funeral service. You write a list of all the people you want at your funeral and print out the invitations ahead of time. You would also have it written in your obituary that there is going to be a private service- by invitation only. You could arrange this with a funeral director ahead of time and pre-plan your funeral. You could also discuss this with a relative or close friend ahead of time, if you think you could trust them, and they would respect your wishes. A friend of mine had a private funeral a few years ago. She arranged it with the funeral director ahead of time. The only people allowed were members of the immediate family and a few close friends. No one else was allowed to enter.

 

[xBrialesana]

Yes, you can. You don't have to have a wake/funeral service if you don't want to. I have also looked into this. There are 2 ways you can do this.
1. The first is if you don't want a wake/funeral service at all. You would have a meeting with a funeral director. You tell him that you want to pre-pay for your funeral. Tell him that you want a Direct Burial or a Direct Cremation. This means that after your death, the funeral director will arrange to have you buried or cremated immediately. There won't be a wake/ funeral beforehand. You have to pick out your coffin or urn ahead of time, sign a contract, and prepay. I have looked into this. It is perfectly legal to do so.

2.The second option is you can request To have a private funeral service. You write a list of all the people you want at your funeral and print out the invitations ahead of time. You would also have it written in your obituary that there is going to be a private service- by invitation only. You could arrange this with a funeral director ahead of time and pre-plan your funeral. You could also discuss this with a relative or close friend ahead of time, if you think you could trust them, and they would respect your wishes. A friend of mine had a private funeral a few years ago. She arranged it with the funeral director ahead of time. The only people allowed were members of the immediate family and a few close friends. No one else was allowed to enter.

Thank you for this; this is very informational.