Autism and permanent isolation

[SchizoPolyGymnast]

I was diagnosed autistic in the early 90s and with a severe learning disability later on in life, and something that has always been part of me is a sense of deeply rooted otherness, loneliness and emotional isolation. The eternal sense of being behind plexiglass.

I have had close relationships with friends and family for years now. I'm accommodated at work and I have an active social life. Yet the sense of isolation remains like an intractable personality trait. It's something I think you're born with and it has nothing to do with society or what the people around you are doing or not doing. Everyone's quick fix is to just say that, if only people were more accepting, this wouldn't happen. And I know they're well-meaning but damnit, they don't get it.

Does anyone else experience this?

 

[Leonard_Bangley39]

inwas diagnosed with aspergers at a young age and i understand how you feel. it feels like I'll ne er be able to relate to anyone around me or truly make any real friends

 

[SchizoPolyGymnast]

inwas diagnosed with aspergers at a young age and i understand how you feel. it feels like I'll ne er be able to relate to anyone around me or truly make any real friends

You can never truly be loved by anyone because they can never truly know you.

 

[Pluto]

 

[X-sanguinate86]

That's horrible and real but I feel like some people use autism or other neurodivergent diagnoses as a way to wash away their culpability in being shitty parents. Just because their children are neurodivergent doesn't mean they have nothing to do with that person feeling bad.

 

[SchizoPolyGymnast]

My mood right now. I played this song when I was 20, on evenings when I was stuck with my sugar daddy. Convinced I would never be useful in any other fashion and that I was destined to fade out of sight like the very end of this song.

 

[Mr.Tristesse]

sense of deeply rooted otherness, loneliness and emotional isolation. The eternal sense of being behind plexiglass.

That's just a refrain sung by countless autistic people. Membership to the broader autistic community does not do all that much to alleviate it.

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

Idk, I'm not autistic, but as a friend of someone who is, that's what our interactions feel like. Like he's behind plexiglass. That being said, I hope that's not how he feels he's experiencing things. He's a pretty happy and positive person, so if it is, he doesn't seem to let it get to him.

 

[SASU-KE]

Yeah, I get it. I spent a lot of my life wishing I wasn't this way. But I just AM and it can't be changed. It's the way I'm built. I have good family and friends but I just still feel alone.I've just accepted it and now I have built my life around it.

 

[Macedonian1987]

inwas diagnosed with aspergers at a young age and i understand how you feel. it feels like I'll ne er be able to relate to anyone around me or truly make any real friends

I was diagnosed with asperger's too and because of it I always felt like I didnt belong in this world, even when i was a small kid. I never had a true friend nor a relationship. I spent my life all alone with uncomforting and cold parents on top of all that.

 

[thelostautistic]

Yes. It doesn't matter who I'm with or what I'm doing I feel like an outsider all the time. I just feel incompatible with this world and it's so lonely.

 

[avalon_]

Yes, in my old church group they tried really hard to make feel welcome and treat me like a normal person, but I always felt like an outsider regardless. Lack of faith wasn't the only reason I stopped showing up.

It took me a few years to begin to apprecuate how much effort they put into this. It makes me cringe in hindsight.