Anybody else super pro choice for themselves... and not for friends? 😅

[Firaga]

If a friend were to tell me they want to die, or I'm browsing this forum for example, my goal isn't to make both choices look equally viable, it's to try to get them to maintain their will to live and make it to the next moment until they think life might be worth living again.

But for me, I know what I want dammit, and nobody can tell me otherwise.

Anybody else relate?

 

[Chemi]

I think that's just ingrained in our DNA. Letting go of somebody and seeing somebody you like suffering is just really hard. I usually just try to remember that they deserve the same freedom and autonomy I want for myself.

 

[Dr.Duck]

Absolutely. I would try to help but I wouldn't know if doing the usual try to help is what they want or if they'd want subtle help. Cause my the usual is too annoying and makes them not want to talk more. Maybe the subtle makes them think you don't care enough about them so you're only half trying to help them. That's what I'd worry about, if I chose the right way to help.

 

[Dejected 55]

I'm pro choice consistently for anyone.

But... I have definitely tried to talk other people out of suicide even as I see if as perhaps my only option left to fix me. I think that makes sense because, I can be more objective about someone else... and I won't badger or dismiss them, but if I can offer a different viewpoint then I will. In the end, I have to respect and appreciate their decision, though... because I know there are things about me that are almost impossible for others to understand fully... so I have to accept that I can't know them either.

Still, I'll try if I can to give someone else a different option so that they can make the decision for themself.

 

[littlecutecorpse]

a lot. when i was younger i had a friend online who just chose to take his own life. not that i tried to discourage him or talk him away from it or any usual preventative methods any normie would use, but it saddened me a bit seeing him leave.

thinking about it now though, it's probably just the fact that we're selfish at heart, to some extent. although i hate those who try to keep suicidal folks alive for their own selfish needs, i can't help but feel empty when i lose someone sometimes. i guess that's how nature works

 

[SASU-KE]

Actually, not at all. It is OK for each person to want that for themselves. Never OK to want it for anyone else. So in that respect, I would say that it's a good thing that you're not pro-choice for your friends.

 

[ABadPerson]

Yes, I can tell it was always more so down to my attachment issues rather than me looking at anything objectively…

When I genuinely felt attached to someone I struggled to let them go a lot, although it made for times where I genuinely would stick through thick and thin no matter their mental state, it also always made me be always slightly more biased towards pro-life rather than pure pro-choice…

Well, I haven't felt that kind of attachment in ages though.