Help advice for coping with loneliness?

[revivals]

hello all. i am very lucky to have dear friends in my life, and i try to meet and talk to strangers and make new friends when i can, but often times even while around others i feel this deep crushing loneliness. i often feel like when i am alone i will never stop being alone, and when i am spending time even with trusted others i feel like eventually i will have to go back home and feel the empty nothingness inside of me. no matter how many friends i have or how often i am seeing people i feel isolated and purposeless. is there any advice to cope with loneliness on ones own? this is not an issue of not having enough people in my life, it is more of a flaw deep within myself that i would like to try and heal by myself. thank you very much for your time and attention!

 

[Mr.Ruben]

Reminds me seeing my closest friends after we all finished high school, but I didn't, and after having a wonderful night and it was time to get home, I could only cry to not being honest with them, returning home and feeling nothing.
What has helped me revivals, is Art, it's the sole audio visual experience I've grasped since I saw princess mononeke when I was 6, and until now "eating/absorbing" art as I would feed a bowl of cereals for not having the energy to cook. I truly believe that eating good art, will slow my loneliness by a high margin, which it has, great movies, great story wise games, drawing with people on friendly competitions.
but more deeply in the case of loneliness is not really something we can fix, I feel lonely in this moment, its late at night, but maybe I could think less about it, watch this movie everyone is talking about, (for example, Amelie Poulain might have changed my life, even more with an audio experience so well crafted from the composer Yann Tiersen) Cry over a silly story (one perhaps called Before Your Eyes) and understand how much we should share love to everyone despise they will probably not engage with you.

there are things art cannot cure, at least not by consuming it, perhaps create something if you have time, any creation, hold it tight

 

[vitbar]

For me it was therapy, medication, aging, and a poorly matched relationship.

Therapy and medication have given me stability and more space to respond better to my emotions. Also improved self esteem. Enjoying being with myself, by myself. Less severe depression means I enjoy my hobbies again.

Aging has made me more emotionally self sufficient. Less impacted and reliant on what others think of me.

Once I got out of the relationship the sense of freedom was a revelation. Haven't felt the same urgency to pair up since.

Still it can be gutting after a fun social event. Like a hangover from your own feel good chemicals.

 

[revivals]

Reminds me seeing my closest friends after we all finished high school, but I didn't, and after having a wonderful night and it was time to get home, I could only cry to not being honest with them, returning home and feeling nothing.
What has helped me revivals, is Art, it's the sole audio visual experience I've grasped since I saw princess mononeke when I was 6, and until now "eating/absorbing" art as I would feed a bowl of cereals for not having the energy to cook. I truly believe that eating good art, will slow my loneliness by a high margin, which it has, great movies, great story wise games, drawing with people on friendly competitions.
but more deeply in the case of loneliness is not really something we can fix, I feel lonely in this moment, its late at night, but maybe I could think less about it, watch this movie everyone is talking about, (for example, Amelie Poulain might have changed my life, even more with an audio experience so well crafted from the composer Yann Tiersen) Cry over a silly story (one perhaps called Before Your Eyes) and understand how much we should share love to everyone despise they will probably not engage with you.

there are things art cannot cure, at least not by consuming it, perhaps create something if you have time, any creation, hold it tight

art is probably the guiding force in my life. i am deeply passionate about storytelling and visual design, i try to look for art and its intentions everywhere i go. sometimes it makes me feel very lonely to not have anyone to share such beautiful things with. other times i feel like art has changed me so much i feel strange and off kilter when trying to interact with other real people again. creating art will continue to be my passion. thank you so much for such a lovely message.

For me it was therapy, medication, aging, and a poorly matched relationship.

Therapy and medication have given me stability and more space to respond better to my emotions. Also improved self esteem. Enjoying being with myself, by myself. Less severe depression means I enjoy my hobbies again.

Aging has made me more emotionally self sufficient. Less impacted and reliant on what others think of me.

Once I got out of the relationship the sense of freedom was a revelation. Haven't felt the same urgency to pair up since.

Still it can be gutting after a fun social event. Like a hangover from your own feel good chemicals.

i do think i have felt less empty inside the older i get. im still in early stages of therapy and not on medication yet, but i really think it could help me. i guess i still have a long time ahead of me to see if things change for the better. thank you for your message!

 

[bagel12]

hello all. i am very lucky to have dear friends in my life, and i try to meet and talk to strangers and make new friends when i can, but often times even while around others i feel this deep crushing loneliness. i often feel like when i am alone i will never stop being alone, and when i am spending time even with trusted others i feel like eventually i will have to go back home and feel the empty nothingness inside of me. no matter how many friends i have or how often i am seeing people i feel isolated and purposeless. is there any advice to cope with loneliness on ones own? this is not an issue of not having enough people in my life, it is more of a flaw deep within myself that i would like to try and heal by myself. thank you very much for your time and attention!

how do you spend your alone time? this may not apply to you, but i feel this type of loneliness most acutely when i spend my alone time in unfulfilling ways. for me, this sense of nothingness/purposelessness stems from the way i spend my alone time, not the actual "being alone" part of it, and spending time with others is a temporary escape from my day to day life.

 

[revivals]

how do you spend your alone time? this may not apply to you, but i feel this type of loneliness most acutely when i spend my alone time in unfulfilling ways. for me, this sense of nothingness/purposelessness stems from the way i spend my alone time, not the actual "being alone" part of it, and spending time with others is a temporary escape from my day to day life.

i try to draw, read, play a game or watch a movie or spend time on schoolwork whenever im alone. often times i feel more lonely after reading/watching/playing something great or making something im very proud of since i want to share it with someone but feel as if i cant.

 

[Ben 111]

Totally relate to you..i wish I could just push a fucking button and peacefully ctb

 

[bagel12]

i try to draw, read, play a game or watch a movie or spend time on schoolwork whenever im alone. often times i feel more lonely after reading/watching/playing something great or making something im very proud of since i want to share it with someone but feel as if i cant.

why do you feel as though you can't share it with others? i love hearing about what my friends are up to

i totally get that though, it hurts to experience something that you want to to talk about, but not have someone to share it with. or having people who you technically could share it with, but they don't "get it" so it just makes things feel more isolated :(

 

[Mr.Ruben]

art is probably the guiding force in my life. i am deeply passionate about storytelling and visual design, i try to look for art and its intentions everywhere i go. sometimes it makes me feel very lonely to not have anyone to share such beautiful things with.

I'd be happy to see another's artist work, I did once a storyboard for a short film which I played as the main character during high school, perhaps if it's okay so share and talk about art I'd be glad :) there is also an art channel in off topic