Venting zero social skills even online

[Eren]

Even when I make friends online, they usually stop writing to me. And I'm not blaming them, I'm really not a fun person and I don't usually know what topics to talk about. Everyone ends up walking away from me. Sure a lot of people read this and think it's not important, but I just want it to end.

 

[Wisdom3_1-9]

Hi @Eren. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I know I've certainly felt that in my "real life" relationships. I'm not sure about the specifics of your online relationships, but I can say in my experience those have been a little different. I find that when your only connection is online, it's a little easier to fall "out of touch" with people. When you meet friends offline, it's usually because life situations bring you into proximity with one another and you keep engaging with them. I've had several online relationships that have dissipated not because of any ill will or falling out, but just because my real life situation changed or my online habits changed. Might that be a possibility in your case?

I've noticed your posts on SS and I think you've made quite a contribution to this community. I think that in itself is a reflection that your social skills surpass your self-assessment of them.

 

[whywere]

I feel sorry for you becasue I am somewhat like that. Actually I am a combo motor mouth and rub people the wrong way and do not even know it. I am 64 years young and through the years I have had people get introduced to me and they would almost right off the bat say " I do not like you", and I would just stand there and wait for them to leave. Now also I have the habit of talking till people run from me. Now I had a girlfiend once, hey 1 girlfriend in 64 years, what a loser!, and she could walk up to everyone and no one and she was instantly loved. Never figured it out. So, yes I 100% know how you feel and my heart goes out to you. You are such a nice and caring person. LOVE and PEACE to you and lots of brillant sunny days with a soft breeze to pamper you!

 

[deleted]

basically i, even on this site i feel lost, imagine IRL, i only have two friends i made at school and they are so close to ctb

 

[After The End]

I'll talk to you.

 

[Ren Elsie Jewelria]

Guys, sorry, I know it's not fb, but look at your reaction score/ratio/likes. You guys are super popular online.

 

[Antigonish]

Even when I make friends online, they usually stop writing to me. And I'm not blaming them, I'm really not a fun person and I don't usually know what topics to talk about. Everyone ends up walking away from me. Sure a lot of people read this and think it's not important, but I just want it to end.

My life story.

What's your favorite tv show?

 

[Eren]

Hi @Eren. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. I know I've certainly felt that in my "real life" relationships. I'm not sure about the specifics of your online relationships, but I can say in my experience those have been a little different. I find that when your only connection is online, it's a little easier to fall "out of touch" with people. When you meet friends offline, it's usually because life situations bring you into proximity with one another and you keep engaging with them. I've had several online relationships that have dissipated not because of any ill will or falling out, but just because my real life situation changed or my online habits changed. Might that be a possibility in your case?

I've noticed your posts on SS and I think you've made quite a contribution to this community. I think that in itself is a reflection that your social skills surpass your self-assessment of them.

Thank you. I'm not sure if that's the cause, but it always happens to me.

 

[Marktheghost]

I have this problem too.

 

[Eren]

My life story.

What's your favorite tv show?

Im not sure, maybe two and a half Men

 

[MariV]

eso no es verdad...yo te hable por privado y me pareciste muy agradable.

thats not true, i sent you a pm and found you very pleasant

 

[Eren]

eso no es verdad...yo te hable por privado y me pareciste muy agradable.

thats not true, i sent you a pm and found you very pleasant

Gracias, aunque evidentemente no me refiero a ti.

 

[Cocoon]

I feel this! I've never really been able to keep friends. I was just always bullied, the two friends I ended up having in highschool became some of my worst abusers. I guess I'm lucky to have my partner and my one best friend now, but I have a lot of difficulty connecting to them and speaking my mind. Online is worse, I just don't have the energy to keep up with conversations and I even stopped writing/drawing. Loneliness everywhere, and not for a lack of trying for so many years. Now I just do not care for social stuff. Too much upkeep. But...there's a part of me that feels so sad for younger me.

 

[Sir_nihilist]

basically i, even on this site i feel lost, imagine IRL, i only have two friends i made at school and they are so close to ctb

You are one in a million haha.
PS I would want friends who are suicidal too. You can talk to them about stuff.

 

[Ghost2211]

I like you. I'm just not super social either

 

[DeadAimz]

Even when I make friends online, they usually stop writing to me. And I'm not blaming them, I'm really not a fun person and I don't usually know what topics to talk about. Everyone ends up walking away from me. Sure a lot of people read this and think it's not important, but I just want it to end.

feel free to message me anytime you want :) i have no friends and it'd always be nice to talk to somebody who also understands what each other is going through <3

 

[Antigonish]

Im not sure, maybe two and a half Men

I like that one, may hate me for saying it; but I stopped watching once Ashton Kutcher replaced Charlie sheen.

My favorite is American Horror Story, although they're all really crappy.

 

[KiraLittleOwl]

Same. Although I am little bit better IRL but not nearly enough to make meaningful connections

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

The lack of social skills is one of my reasons to ctb. I've always been treated like a weirdo because I'm quiet. I talk very little and that annoys some people.

 

[L I F E T O L O S E]

Even when I make friends online, they usually stop writing to me. And I'm not blaming them, I'm really not a fun person and I don't usually know what topics to talk about. Everyone ends up walking away from me. Sure a lot of people read this and think it's not important, but I just want it to end.

I think they think you are boring.if you want you can practice with me but i am very monotone.

 

[Ghost2211]

The lack of social skills is one of my reasons to ctb. I've always been treated like a weirdo because I'm quiet. I talk very little and that annoys some people.

That annoys people about me too. Why don't people like quiet people?

 

[TimeToBiteTheDust]

That annoys people about me too. Why don't people like quiet people?

I don't know. But I'm the opposite. I hate people who talk too much.

 

[greebo6]

Even when I make friends online, they usually stop writing to me. And I'm not blaming them, I'm really not a fun person and I don't usually know what topics to talk about. Everyone ends up walking away from me. Sure a lot of people read this and think it's not important, but I just want it to end.

Just wanted to say no one will walk away from you on here. After all ,many of us would describe ourselves in the same way .People will always welcome your posts. We may be broken but we can still care.
And totally understand its important to you and the feeling of wanting it all to end.

 

[Ghost2211]

I think most topics just die out over time. It's not personal to anyone. You can always start a new one, and new conversation comes.

 

[LonelyDude15]

Even when I make friends online, they usually stop writing to me. And I'm not blaming them, I'm really not a fun person and I don't usually know what topics to talk about. Everyone ends up walking away from me. Sure a lot of people read this and think it's not important, but I just want it to end.

Feel free to talk to me anytime. We can make a communion of losers.

 

[enuff]

Even when I make friends online, they usually stop writing to me. And I'm not blaming them, I'm really not a fun person and I don't usually know what topics to talk about. Everyone ends up walking away from me. Sure a lot of people read this and think it's not important, but I just want it to end.

yup, I can relate to that. i often say stupid offbeat offcolor offtopic and off-the-wall things, either out loud irl or in a forum like this. I feel awkward, stupid, embarrassed, and turned off so many times. I just stopped engaging with people because of it. I rarely go out anymore, I'm more than happy surfing the interwebs, programming and this place.

feel free to pm me if you want to talk about getting turned off

 

[Eren]

Thank you all very much for your encouragement, really!

The lack of social skills is one of my reasons to ctb. I've always been treated like a weirdo because I'm quiet. I talk very little and that annoys some people.

I understand you perfectly, it is one of the things that bothers me the most and one of my main reasons for ctb.

 

[Eren]

I think they think you are boring.if you want you can practice with me but i am very monotone.

Yes, I also think the same, it is frustrating and sad, it also affects my self-esteem a lot.

 

[Eren]

I like that one, may hate me for saying it; but I stopped watching once Ashton Kutcher replaced Charlie sheen.

My favorite is American Horror Story, although they're all really crappy.

I don't like him either since Ashton Kutcher appeared, Charlie is irreplaceable xd

 

[am1485]

The lack of social skills is one of my reasons to ctb. I've always been treated like a weirdo because I'm quiet. I talk very little and that annoys some people.

Same here. My lack of social skills have made it really hard to get by in life. Most of the time I don't know what to say to people and that is why I speak so little. It is probably related to my schizophrenia.