Why I am not an incel

[Busticket]

I am 29 male and I never had a gf.
It's one of the main reasons I want to ctb.

But unlike incels who are angry at women and blame women, I don't.
I realize I simply don't have what it takes to get a gf.
I have nothing good to offer , I have no money or a good job and in looks I am average at best.
I also have low social skills because of my social anxiety.
It's pure free market capitalism at play really.
I am not angry at Apple for not hiring me, I don't have the intelligence, experience and social skills needed to work for Apple.
So in the same way I am not angry at women.
It's still sucks though because I am lonely.

 

[Lmd]

This isn't a competition. Maybe you are not in the best spot but that doesn't mean you don't have anything to offer. Money and beauty aren't everything.

 

[Futile]

Cool

As for me, it's because I am ugly (for genetics factors) and I am constantly discriminated because of it. So yeah, I'll keep blaming society

 

[Busticket]

This isn't a competition.

I respect your opinion but from my experience, it is.
Life is a cruel competition for limited resources - jobs, romantic partners and even housing.
It's the survival of the fittest.
Losers like me are destined to not find a mate and not continue on their genes.
It's simple biology really.
We would like to think of ourselves(humans) as evolved from this reality but we are still very much in it like all other animals.

 

[LifeQuitter2018]

Same for me. I guess even if I ever find a relationship, I will mess it up soon due to my personality.
In fact, at least 2 girls that I crushed on have turned "green light" to me but I never get the courage to speak up.
I'm better to be alone to be honest. It's for the best of me.

 

[Meditation guide]

Men who are broke and ugly do get girlfriends. I've seen this happen. They usually have the ability to engage in conversation, and live in a place where there are available females. I'm sure social anxiety is a major roadblock to interactions with the opposite sex. You have my sympathy.

I've seen very hideous guys who could dress nicely and be fun to interact with do very well socially.

 

[WornOutLife]

Exactly! Just because something is not working for us, there is no need for hatred.
However, I think you could get a gf because we've been talking and you are really a nice person.
Nobody knows what the future has in store for them so, just keep on trying to feel better both mentally and physically and see what happens!

That's what I'm doing at least!!

Hugs and love,

Matt

 

[BluesRunTheGame]

I realize I simply don't have what it takes to get a gf.
I have nothing good to offer , I have no money or a good job and in looks I am average at best.
I also have low social skills because of my social anxiety.

Says your depression.