Why do bad people get away with hurting you whilst you suffer?

[Hyperbunny]

I know many people who harmed me but they live a cushy, uncomplicated, life whereas I suffered greatly.from their actions. Do evil people ever get what they deserve in this life??

 

[Birdie]

People hurt others and get hurt. I don't worry about that, each person who ever hurt me is suffering too, because everybody suffers.

 

[watchingthewheels]

Great question. Short answer: sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. But it catches up with them, eventually. "He who lives by the sword..."

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

By "getting over" you refer to not thinking about the trauma and the subsequent difference in perceived life quality between you and the perpetrator. (Thoughts come before feelings). Then one solution is the tried and true: distraction.

 

[blue_muse]

When bullies like to kick someone when they're already down, I liken it to them desperately extending their 15 minutes of fame. They mess up eventually, just a matter of when.

 

[Dr Iron Arc]

I get hurt by perfectly good people all the time though my suffering is also caused by me, a very bad person and I don't let him get away with it at all.

 

[Rünomai]

I know many people who harmed me but they live a cushy, uncomplicated, life whereas I suffered greatly.from their actions. Do evil people ever get what they deserve in this life??

This is probably not the coup de gras of why these individuals seem to live modest, unintensive, normal lives, but it could explain some cases: People with lower-than-average intelligence (e.g. an IQ in the 90-75 (SD15) range), generally speaking, have a propensity to be more violent than people with above-average intelligence. The hypothesis is something like this: A corollary of low intelligence is lack of empathy, which is most likely resultant of their inability to produce complex thoughts, develop abstractions, look beyond solipsism, etc.

My hypothesis:

With lower intelligence comes a proclivity to avoid anything baroque or even semi-complex in the same way that individuals with AD/HD attempt to avoid anything that requires strenuous demands of working memory; therefore, we will more often than not see borderline mentally disabled people live somewhat simplistic lifestyles, as they innately avoid complication -- probably inadvertently, too.

 

[Busridin'26]

I dunno tbh. Any answer I've been given or any answer I somehow found myself, isn't satisfactory...

Like I sometimes cry like wtf did I do to be treated like this/life left to shit while the people that hurt me seemed to just move on to their next mess, unscathed...

I don't think there will be a good enough answer...

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

Second amendment is an option for this in US

 

[WornOutLife]

Because if there's a hell, we're already living in one. That would explain why the world and life are so unfair.

 

[it's_all_a_game]

I feel like most people get away with mistreating me. For example, most people who have bullied me over time have many friends, whilst I have zero friends. If only karma was real...

 

[OpheliasFlowers]

I understand logically that everyone suffers, and that the people who've treated me the most cruelly and thoughtlessly and hurt me the most suffer too (and many things I don't and will never know about) - but from my vantage point, it SEEMS like those same people cruise through lives that are nowhere near the shitshow my life has been and they are happy, and have families, careers, friends, homes, money, good health and have experienced things I can only ever dream of. So I do have this kneejerk bitterness and anger about them and how unfair it all is that they can do and act the way they have with no consequences or repercussions. It's hard to bear in mind that a lot goes on behind those IG and FB posts and the things they claim in real life if I ever run into them; that they're likely putting on a good facade for a lot. I've tried to just trust that somehow karma will even things out. And let me make clear -- I don't wish ill on them or hope they suffer disaster or anything. I just want them to understand the pain they inflicted on me (and most likely others too). I just want fairness. But...life isn't fair. So I don't know what I"m even saying, I guess. :(

 

[Panna]

Because the cruel and strong are the ones that thrive, the ones that have no care or concern for the hurt they cause and it allows them to walk over the crumpled bodies of their victims without any cares.

 

[Toptock]

The fact that so many people who are in power are capable, and often openly willing to commit such atrocities toward their fellow humans should be proof that there is no divine karmic justice. The powerful don't fall because of justice, they fall because they are powerless themselves against the wave of retribution. The powerful live in castles and wait for the commoners to die as they take another bite of their golden thrones.
In the objective universe, power is power. Power is wielded and people expect justice, yet justice is a tool created by the powerful for their own benefit.

We're weak, so we die. If you need a reminder, ask yourself why sheep live in a fence, yet can still be killed by wolves in the night. There is no farmer to protect you, you're a human, but so are the wolves you have to protect against

 

[Apathy79]

My understanding is karma catches up with everyone eventually. Those of us who were awful in past lives have a chance to redeem it here by feeling what we once inflicted. Those of us who are awful here have a bunch of lives coming up which aren't going to go well until that's worked off. That's a scary idea to those being awful now, but the flip side is it removes the ability to blame anyone else for our current circumstances.

My solution is to focus on avoiding bad karma and generating good karma, knowing either way it will catch up eventually, in this life or future ones.

 

[Panna]

My understanding is karma catches up with everyone eventually. Those of us who were awful in past lives have a chance to redeem it here by feeling what we once inflicted. Those of us who are awful here have a bunch of lives coming up which aren't going to go well until that's worked off. That's a scary idea to those being awful now, but the flip side is it removes the ability to blame anyone else for our current circumstances.

My solution is to focus on avoiding bad karma and generating good karma, knowing either way it will catch up eventually, in this life or future ones.

By that logic, I must've been a jerk who made people want to feel alone(??) and so now Im the one isolated from everything. Does that mean in the next life I'd have friends and be able to reciprocate like a normal person?

 

[Apathy79]

I like to think so but of course depends on a lot of things.

 

[demuic]

The worst thing in this world is to be a caring or compassionate person.

Sociopaths and narcissists always make sure to get what they want.