Discussion What's your view on uni life?

[EternalHunger]

Anyone else who's university classes is starting soon again? I'm going into my second year while 19, so I'm just curious on others' perspectives on it; how do you view uni life?

 

[usernamegoeshere]

im just replying to keep an eye on this thread!! i'm going into my first year of uni but since i graduated with my AA im gonna be a junior already ough...

 

[princexhhn]

Personally, uni is the secret 10th ring of hell. Idk if I just got unlucky but all my schoolmates I've met so far are just… the worst. Irresponsible, immature, and somehow doesn't know anything about business despite being a business major on our second year already. The teachers are relentless, just give me the task and leave me the hell alone. You'd think they'd stop making you do stupid unnecessary bullshit by now. My friend is in med and had to memorize and identify 9 pages of human anatomy, but according to her teacher, that wasn't enough. She had to colour all 9 pages. We are not 5, what the hell.

 

[iamanavalanche]

going onto my third year of uni and im dreading it so bad. it definitely makes me stressed but it distracts my brain from all the suicidal ideation. i guess theres a pro and con to it

 

[EternalHunger]

Personally, uni is the secret 10th ring of hell. Idk if I just got unlucky but all my schoolmates I've met so far are just… the worst. Irresponsible, immature, and somehow doesn't know anything about business despite being a business major on our second year already. The teachers are relentless, just give me the task and leave me the hell alone. You'd think they'd stop making you do stupid unnecessary bullshit by now. My friend is in med and had to memorize and identify 9 pages of human anatomy, but according to her teacher, that wasn't enough. She had to colour all 9 pages. We are not 5, what the hell.

Oh no, business major? I can already imagine the pain... The issue is that literally everyone defaults to business when they don't really care about uni, especially the type of people who found it fun to be delinquents in school/hella immature so it's always sort of expected for people to not care/learn out of that major...

Also yeah, I've learned to just do everything I'm given immediately so I don't have to think about it ever again; it's annoying as hell with how often my professor gives us all sorts of work, like how we wrote a 3k essay on how TNCs (Transnational companies) affect LDCs from a liberal, critical and economic nationalist viewpoint without it even counting towards our grades yet we will be deducted if we didn't complete it. It genuinely is hell, but at the same time it's been one of my very few lifefuels so I try to stick to it, I FEEL YOU SO MUCH THOUGH!

going onto my third year of uni and im dreading it so bad. it definitely makes me stressed but it distracts my brain from all the suicidal ideation. i guess theres a pro and con to it

Yeah, it distracts me a lot from my own mind, I'm honestly trying to prep myself for the amount of things I'll have to slug myself to so I'm glad I'm not alone in that feeling

 

[WhatCouldHaveBeen32]

Full of know it all kids. Basically high school but now instead of having to deal with high-schoolers I have to deal with high-schoolers who classify themselves as adults. Don't worry this is not a prejudice against kids of this age demographic, half the planet is like this and never grows up but yeah it's a little more common in uni's.

 

[EternalHunger]

Basically high school but now instead of having to deal with high-schoolers I have to deal with high-schoolers who classify themselves as adults.

Literally the perfect description

 

[katofumiko45]

I find the studies somewhat easy but half the people feel like f**king animatronics. Maybe it's because universities in my country are highly political, so people are constantly trying to give a fake impression and discuss politics.

Seriously, the first time I talked to a university student (I was in high school), I got genuinely creeped out with how synthetic the interaction felt.

 

[FoxSauce]

I only been a year but I did like freinds but is super anxiety enducing plus the projects and everything makes my stress go up but i needed to bottle that up somehow

 

[batmanreal]

i completed one semester of uni and then had to leave during the beginning of my second semester coz my doctor fucked me over now i have to pay like... $3k back in financial aid. so idk if i have enough experience to provide an answer. regardless, i really enjoyed uni. i loved the environment, i loved having things to work towards, i loved the campus. i enjoy learning, and i even enjoyed the stress to an extent. the people were hit or miss, but that goes for every environment.
i really miss it all. life still sucked and i was still suicidal, but that environment made me a lot happier. if i didn't have plans to ctb soon, i'd definitely be dropping all my checks into that financial aid debt so i could start attending uni again

 

[Forever Sleep]

Uni was decades ago for me. I was too boring really to live the typical student life. I just worked really hard. Halls of Residence was pretty awful. People coming back drunk and trashing the place. Some refusing to comply with the cleaning rota we were given. Fire alarms going off in the early hours.

The second/ third years, I rented with friends. I guess that was a good introduction to 'adulting'- paying bills etc. It was a relief to be away from home anyway. The second year was a tough one though, on both courses I did.

 

[EternalHunger]

i completed one semester of uni and then had to leave during the beginning of my second semester coz my doctor fucked me over now i have to pay like... $3k back in financial aid. so idk if i have enough experience to provide an answer. regardless, i really enjoyed uni. i loved the environment, i loved having things to work towards, i loved the campus. i enjoy learning, and i even enjoyed the stress to an extent. the people were hit or miss, but that goes for every environment.
i really miss it all. life still sucked and i was still suicidal, but that environment made me a lot happier. if i didn't have plans to ctb soon, i'd definitely be dropping all my checks into that financial aid debt so i could start attending uni again

Sorry it didn't work out for you but i'm atleast glad you had a good experience with it, I think it's mostly how 'fulfilling' it feels as though it gave some direct purpose and tangible results for the amount of effort put into it, like clear proof of being able to at least change one thing in a life that seems so... pointless and fatalistic but that's just my perspective on it.

Also I'm glad for your response so don't apologise any experience is a valid experience in my opinion!! i don't want to overstep or anything so I'll just say that I hope in some way you do find your peace, and there is nothing wrong with feeling as though you'd want to push the date or anything if it doesn't work out so you could experience anything you'd still want to do (and it definitely doesn't mean the suicidal intent was never there or smth, no matter how long a ctb takes/whether or not someone backs out of it doesn't change all of us being here due to a genuine desire to die that's just been kind of ignored/muted by society, that isn't any less erased for any of us)

Uni was decades ago for me. I was too boring really to live the typical student life. I just worked really hard. Halls of Residence was pretty awful. People coming back drunk and trashing the place. Some refusing to comply with the cleaning rota we were given. Fire alarms going off in the early hours.

The second/ third years, I rented with friends. I guess that was a good introduction to 'adulting'- paying bills etc. It was a relief to be away from home anyway. The second year was a tough one though, on both courses I did.

I'm sort of the same right now, I just been focusing on genuinely working through university and everything without focusing on the sort of hectic stuff some people do in their time, i don't think it's 'boring' at all it's just our own silly way of enjoying it all; i try to stay friendly but keep a distance and embrace uni the way i like it, though it does get lonely at times. Renting with friends sound so cool, I'm not really sure on group housing since I went for single ones that my uni owns, did you guys just find a student housing that had multiple rooms or was it more of where you guys owned a certain area in the housing with your own kitchen and things?

Also yeah, Halls of Residences certainly have NOT changed overs years so I understand you completely i learnt to mute it all out pretty quickly though, until I look at the mess I got to walk through (though surprisingly not so messy where it's super gross, just a bit all over the place). I haven't started the first lesson for the optional modules I chose but I feel as though my second year might be just as hard as yours worse as I chose the ones that were considered most challenging Thanks for the reply btw!!



Sorry for the late replies i was thinkin about someone hope you two have an alright day today at least, and remember take care of yourselves!

 

[Forveleth]

I really wish I could go back and do university with what I know now. It would have been a much better experience.

My parents were very overprotective and strict with me growing up, so I didn't get much socialization until university. Which means all of the awkward understanding how to interact with people, experiences you have in high school, I had in college. It was very embarrassing learning how to not only take tougher courses but how to build and maintain friendships at the same time.

High school was also very hard for me and the issues followed me into college. My depression started getting bad than. My parents just yelled at me for not doing well enough in my classes and socializing too much instead of realizing something was very wrong with me.

I no longer speak with any of the friends I made there, which means all of the socialization I did was pretty much for nothing. I honestly regret not spending more time advancing my studies in my career. I could have learned so much more than I actually did had I really put my mind to my studies.

I did enjoy that fresh new feeling of freedom though. Being able to walk around campus, go get your own food, have your own living space, independent from parents, it was very nice. I also very much enjoyed taking some extremely weird classes to fill gen eds. There was not a ton of diversity at my school, as far as student population, but the classes opened me up to a lot of new ideas. I very much enjoyed stretching my brain in that way.

TL; DR the freedom was fun, but I struggled socially and academically. I wish I had focused more on classes.

 

[Forever Sleep]

Sorry it didn't work out for you but i'm atleast glad you had a good experience with it, I think it's mostly how 'fulfilling' it feels as though it gave some direct purpose and tangible results for the amount of effort put into it, like clear proof of being able to at least change one thing in a life that seems so... pointless and fatalistic but that's just my perspective on it.

Also I'm glad for your response so don't apologise any experience is a valid experience in my opinion!! i don't want to overstep or anything so I'll just say that I hope in some way you do find your peace, and there is nothing wrong with feeling as though you'd want to push the date or anything if it doesn't work out so you could experience anything you'd still want to do (and it definitely doesn't mean the suicidal intent was never there or smth, no matter how long a ctb takes/whether or not someone backs out of it doesn't change all of us being here due to a genuine desire to die that's just been kind of ignored/muted by society, that isn't any less erased for any of us)


I'm sort of the same right now, I just been focusing on genuinely working through university and everything without focusing on the sort of hectic stuff some people do in their time, i don't think it's 'boring' at all it's just our own silly way of enjoying it all; i try to stay friendly but keep a distance and embrace uni the way i like it, though it does get lonely at times. Renting with friends sound so cool, I'm not really sure on group housing since I went for single ones that my uni owns, did you guys just find a student housing that had multiple rooms or was it more of where you guys owned a certain area in the housing with your own kitchen and things?

Also yeah, Halls of Residences certainly have NOT changed overs years so I understand you completely i learnt to mute it all out pretty quickly though, until I look at the mess I got to walk through (though surprisingly not so messy where it's super gross, just a bit all over the place). I haven't started the first lesson for the optional modules I chose but I feel as though my second year might be just as hard as yours worse as I chose the ones that were considered most challenging Thanks for the reply btw!!



Sorry for the late replies i was thinkin about someone hope you two have an alright day today at least, and remember take care of yourselves!

Sounds like you have a good approach. Not being pressured into doing stuff 'just because' kind of thing.

We actually went to lettings agents that were student friendly. The first experience was terrible- the guy was in the process of buying a council flat so- it would have been illegal to let it! It all fell through at the same time as my Grandma dieing- she did the bulk of bringing me up so- it was a really stressful time.

We actually landed on our feet in the end though, with a much nicer flat but- paying more than we had hoped. There were 3 of us though, in a 2 bed flat so- that helped somewhat.

It wasn't an all together good experience but, a useful one- getting used to ringing round utility companies etc. We ended up with a much nicer lettings company too. Their children weren't far off our ages so- they had that paternal/ maternal kindness about them.

I hope the year goes well for you. Do you have nice class mates?

 

[EternalHunger]

I really wish I could go back and do university with what I know now. It would have been a much better experience.

My parents were very overprotective and strict with me growing up, so I didn't get much socialization until university. Which means all of the awkward understanding how to interact with people, experiences you have in high school, I had in college. It was very embarrassing learning how to not only take tougher courses but how to build and maintain friendships at the same time.

High school was also very hard for me and the issues followed me into college. My depression started getting bad than. My parents just yelled at me for not doing well enough in my classes and socializing too much instead of realizing something was very wrong with me.

I no longer speak with any of the friends I made there, which means all of the socialization I did was pretty much for nothing. I honestly regret not spending more time advancing my studies in my career. I could have learned so much more than I actually did had I really put my mind to my studies.

I did enjoy that fresh new feeling of freedom though. Being able to walk around campus, go get your own food, have your own living space, independent from parents, it was very nice. I also very much enjoyed taking some extremely weird classes to fill gen eds. There was not a ton of diversity at my school, as far as student population, but the classes opened me up to a lot of new ideas. I very much enjoyed stretching my brain in that way.

TL; DR the freedom was fun, but I struggled socially and academically. I wish I had focused more on classes.

I think that it should be cherished for what you found was nice out of it as a sweet memory rather than beat yourself up over not doing this or that when it's clearly not your fault, I'm not at all good at socialising either so I understand you a lot on how all this feels especially with how it feels as though a lot of my life been stripped away from me; I'm at least glad for you that you were able to still have good experiences with it despite all this, and it's never too late for knowledge!

I'm sorry to hear about how your parents too, although I can only comfort you through text I hope you at least found some solace and comfort within this community, people just seem to struggle to understand how depression is really like...

Sounds like you have a good approach. Not being pressured into doing stuff 'just because' kind of thing.

We actually went to lettings agents that were student friendly. The first experience was terrible- the guy was in the process of buying a council flat so- it would have been illegal to let it! It all fell through at the same time as my Grandma dieing- she did the bulk of bringing me up so- it was a really stressful time.

We actually landed on our feet in the end though, with a much nicer flat but- paying more than we had hoped. There were 3 of us though, in a 2 bed flat so- that helped somewhat.

It wasn't an all together good experience but, a useful one- getting used to ringing round utility companies etc. We ended up with a much nicer lettings company too. Their children weren't far off our ages so- they had that paternal/ maternal kindness about them.

I hope the year goes well for you. Do you have nice class mates?

I'm glad you at least found a decent place in the end and at least gained something useful from how stressful that all seems, though I'm sorry to hear about your grandma...

Thank you btw, and kind of; although I generally get a bit freaked out and avoidant around people getting too close now for personal reasons, most of my classmates been nice; maybe a bit silly and hectic but like how WCHB32 said before it's sort of expected I just seem to have bad luck on group stuff last year though since I was always the one who eventually had to do most of it since the rest of my members seem to not care about the tasks really; i get that it isn't part of the final grade but we still would get deducted if we all failed... Hopefully some of the time I got left is spent with better members (I don't fault them much since it is annoying to do stuff that isn't counting towards anything but still!!!)

 

[Irisse]

Better and easier than high school, but then again I'm not exactly a model student so take that with a grain of salt.

 

[mysticatedwine]

(Student in France, lyon)

it's kinda better than high school i suppose. it's harder to socialise because the classes are bigger, it took me longer than a year to even make a single friend i'm in my third year of studies now, i have two friends with whom i have my ups and downs.

i'm really happy to be more independant and away from my parents' place, it was a living hell at times there

 

[KuriGohan&Kamehameha]

After being alone pretty much all of my life, university was the first time where I was able to have a group of friends and feel like I belonged somewhere. That is an extremely rare feeling for an autistic person like me, especially because I was a couple years older than everyone else and worried I wouldn't make any friends or find my footing. I was suffering a lot from physical illnesses, and PTSD, but I made so many wonderful memories that I will forever cherish. Besides the socialization aspect, I really love learning, and it was the perfect environment for me.

Then, one day it was just... All gone. My life has been terrible since I finished university. All of the disability accomodations that made my life manageable, and a part time job that wasn't extremely stressful, being able to socialise consistently, it all vanished overnight. I think no one warned me of how empty life can become when your education is finished, especially if you're the type of person who isn't chasing the default marriage, kids, and buying a house lifestyle. Being around my friends and doing something meaningful gave my life purpose, and made me feel at times that my chronic illness might not always be a burden.

Now, I spend the vast majority of my time alone, struggling, and work a menial job that gives me no satisfaction and very little money. It's been almost two years since I finished undergraduate studies and I don't think I'll ever be able to feel happiness like that again. A lot of my friends I know I'll never see again or maybe once every few years, because they're all scattered across the world in different cities or countries now.

It's crazy to go from seeing the people around you posting fun memories with friends, advertising events, parties, etc, to only suddenly only posting pictures of the gym, occasionally dinner pics when there's actually money to go to restaurants, and the rare holiday. So much solitude. I really miss those days. I've been suicidal for 10+ years now but the life I've lived after uni has been very despair inducing in its own way, because I did feel some happiness during those times and it all went away.