What is more difficult for you making friends or finding a romantic partner?

[Apathy79]

I was actually discussing this with someone I just met the other day. She asked if I was looking for a friend or a partner.

I said my whole goal was to go from stranger to familiar stranger. If I can pull that off, acquaintance seems like it is within hailing distance. Then we'll see what happens from there. What about you?

She said yeah friends is a pipe dream isn't it? So far down the line. Yet partner could happen overnight. Funny how it works.

I think that's right. Maybe it's just me but it feels like when you're young, friends are easy to make. But in your 40s, the odds of finding a partner are way higher than finding a friend. Something shifts along the way that makes the friend hump seem like it will take forever.

 

[usernamesarehard]

I think finding a partner is harder for me. I've had issues making friends when I was a kid. I went on a group hike recently and while I didn't make any friends I feel I'll have an infinitely easier time making friends than finding a partner.
I guess finding a 'real friend', a person who you actually have a connection with for years is difficult. But I think I'm ok with the amount of friends I have. If I only had 1 friend for the rest of my life I'd be ok with that. I think I need human interaction, but I don't need friendship. I'm ok with just talking with coworkers and random strangers when I do a group thing.

 

[FoxSauce]

Both im not great keeping relationships. I try rely hard tho.


Even tho ik is my own head

 

[goatmonster :3]

i'm not great with committing to relationships, but i'm in one. i started dating this person when i had not decided i was gonna be CTB this year. i feel really guilty about it but i don't think it's gonna stop me