Do you think your significant other should also be neurodivergent or damaged?

[noname223]

When I look retrospectively with which women I had the best matches on dating apps they all had mental health conditions. Borderline, PTSD and autism. Actually, I barely can think of a woman that doesn't fit to this category that I dated.

I daydreamed about dating my dentist. She looks very gorgeous. But I realized we live in completely different worlds. She is successful, looks pretty self-confident and happy. But I think such people cannot really imagine how bad life can become.

I know some people are hiding in front of their significant other what is going on in them. I also did that in front of women (I was in a short relationship). I was really careful about what I say about the depths of despair I experience. I think I couldn't hide everything though. I am glad I can be fully transparent towards two close friends. But being in a relationship is different. I would be careful to date women who are as traumatized as me. The women who had been extremely abused in the past also were abusive towards me. Honestly, I don't think I am abusive. However, my happiness is way too dependent on the other person in a very very unhealthy way. And I think it would be very counterproductive to show that.

 

[FoxSauce]

I mean I dont think so? But I dont mind if they are "damaged" or not.

As long if that person loves you and you love them despite their flaws then its fine

However I dont condone a person using a mental illness as a sheild to be jerks to their significant other or anyone.

It all comes to context ig.

This is my opinion tho.

 

[Lamentice]

I have nothing in common with or anything to relate to with someone with a secure, cushy life. I don't even really desire those people as friends.

 

[Scythe]

Well, I used to not mind normies, but they seem to not like me so now I also don't like them.
So yes, significant other has to be on the mental disorder spectrum/suicide spectrum.

 

[Yakui]

probably not, but i quite frankly dont see how i would get along with someone who wasnt, or how they would put up with me

 

[_Gollum_]

I think my beliefs about life are unconscionable to the vast majority of people, including neurodivergent or mentally ill people, so I guess it doesn't matter