Thoughts on leaving a note

[uklad38]

What's everyone's thoughts on leaving a note for their partner or children or friends.

Once or if my SN arrives I'm going to attempt to CTB, I'm hoping it's successful as my first attempt months ago was a fail and nothing has changed in my life since, it's gotten worse if anything.

I keep thinking in my head messages I'd like to leave loved ones. But would I be best to not leave a note at all?

 

[Redacted24]

I think leaving a note is a good and right thing to do, it helps others grieve and have closure so they don't suffer as much from uncertainty. Plus you can reassure them that they shouldn't blame themselves...or any other things you'd want to let them know.

I most certainly will not do one however, as I'm very confident nobody will miss me in the least.

 

[Bishop]

There is no right or wrong, as it's purely subjective. Personally I'm not planning to write an autobiography or feel the need to explain everything or anything to anyone. It's quite obvious what a suicide is. It's the most obvious statement one can make. If I wanted people to "understand" what is going on in my life (suffering etc) then I'll share that while I'm alive. I don't see the need to drag out "drama" after I'm gone. Just my own thoughts.

 

[uklad38]

I think leaving a note is a good and right thing to do, it helps others grieve and have closure so they don't suffer as much from uncertainty. Plus you can reassure them that they shouldn't blame themselves...or any other things you'd want to let them know.

I most certainly will not do one however, as I'm very confident nobody will miss me in the least.

I'm in 2 minds to be honest. So wanted to see other people's opinions. I get your points though. Also I'm sure some people would miss you. Everyone has someone that would miss them, in my opinion

There is no right or wrong, as it's purely subjective. Personally I'm not planning to write an autobiography or feel the need to explain everything or anything to anyone. It's quite obvious what a suicide is. It's the most obvious statement one can make. If I wanted people to "understand" what is going on in my life (suffering etc) then I'll share that while I'm alive. I don't see the need to drag out "drama" after I'm gone. Just my own thoughts.

I get your point. And absolutely, you're entitled to your own thoughts and opinion. I'm on the fence about it, one day I'm for it and next I'm against it. I attempted before and my partner knows. So I don't think it'd be a shock either way.

 

[Matchaaa]

Personally, I would leave a general note
for friends who want some understanding of my decision, and a separate private note for my loved ones (family), So they could decide what they want to read — like my reasons, thought process, random thoughts, or little things about me, etc.

 

[uklad38]

Personally, I would leave a general note
for friends who want some understanding of my decision, and a separate private note for my family, So they could decide what they want to read — like my reasons, thought process, random thoughts, or little things about me, etc.

Yeah I get you, it's tough as I keep changing my mind every day. I was thinking of leaving a delayed email, but again still unsure. When the sn arrives I'll have to make my decision then

 

[Echo]

I think I'd probably leave a note explaining why and that there was nothing that they could've done that would of helped or changed my mind. I cant say goodbye before ctb but would like to in the form of a note after I'm gone, maybe a form of closure.

If I remember correctly from what I've read somewhere, quite a lot of people dont leave notes.
Completely up to you.

 

[uklad38]

I think I'd probably leave a note explaining why and that there was nothing that they could've done that would of helped or changed my mind. I cant say goodbye before ctb but would like to in the form of a note after I'm gone, maybe a form of closure.

If I remember correctly from what I've read somewhere, quite a lot of people dont leave notes.
Completely up to you.

Yeah it's a tough one, I can kind of see both sides. I think it's gonna be a last minute / last few days decision

 

[coolcow1289]

If done right it makes things better for those left behind. If done wrong it makes things worse.

 

[E4syW3y0u7]

I thinl something is better than nothing but you should do it for yourself and not others... I'm a bad writer but i still comtemplate the fact that i might want to get words out of my heart before i ctb, so it's done, might aswell before everything is over...

 

[taker_of_insulin]

I wish my dog could read. He's the only one that I care about

 

[ih34rty0u]

idk what my note could even say. everyone would know why i did it. everybody knows that im a lost cause, academically and socially (romantically) wise. i think ive said enough while im alive and nobody really cares that much.
i sometimes feel jealous of people whose notes would actually matter to someone.

 

[HNR_]

Well, I've already written 3 pages (both sides) explaining my reasons because I know my father's completely clueless about how much I wish I was gone

I seem to be doing just fine, can joke around and everything so I know that, when he learns about it after the fact, he's going to be shocked so I made sure not only to list all the reasons but also to clarify it has nothing to do with him as I don't want him to ever think that

Under my circumstances, I think that it'd make the most sense to leave at least some explanation behind if there's someone you care about

 

[AnxiousLife]

I wouldn't leave a note, as there is no one I'm in contact with, who would deserve it

 

[Leidensgenosse]

I'd need to leave one. It'd be important to reassure friends and family that it wasn't their fault. I'd want to give some context. I've personally struggled to write one though. So far it's been too difficult to keep it focused and avoid unnecessary tangents.

 

[uklad38]

If done right it makes things better for those left behind. If done wrong it makes things worse.

Yeah I was planning if I was going to do one that it would be a scheduled email. That could be cancelled if the plan didn't work

Well, I've already written 3 pages (both sides) explaining my reasons because I know my father's completely clueless about how much I wish I was gone

I seem to be doing just fine, can joke around and everything so I know that, when he learns about it after the fact, he's going to be shocked so I made sure not only to list all the reasons but also to clarify it has nothing to do with him as I don't want him to ever think that

Under my circumstances, I think that it'd make the most sense to leave at least some explanation behind if there's someone you care about

Yeah I get you, I guess I should maybe leave one for my partner and kids and maybe some very close friends

I'd need to leave one. It'd be important to reassure friends and family that it wasn't their fault. I'd want to give some context. I've personally struggled to write one though. So far it's been too difficult to keep it focused and avoid unnecessary tangents.

This relates, I've been in two minds on writing one or not, anytime I start thinking in my mind of different things I write I just get emotional

 

[HNR_]

I'd need to leave one. It'd be important to reassure friends and family that it wasn't their fault. I'd want to give some context. I've personally struggled to write one though. So far it's been too difficult to keep it focused and avoid unnecessary tangents.

What helped me with that was to condense my reasons to bulletpoints in Notepad then write down a paragraph or more by bulletpoint and finally transcribing everything

 

[ravendrops]

The only people I want to send a note to (i.e. my kids) are young and the situation too complex. And I don't really know how crazy I am, so why overstate sanity in a note, ya know?

I go back and forth a lot.

 

[Cepheuss]

I was originally against it the thought of it grossed me out but now i feel like i owe the people in my life that much you know. Now ive got a note ready with some instructions and i have messages prepared for all of my friends to send through instagram delayed messages. I think they should atleast know my reasoning for doing this.

 

[blackorchid]

I was originally against it the thought of it grossed me out but now i feel like i owe the people in my life that much you know. Now ive got a note ready with some instructions and i have messages prepared for all of my friends to send through instagram delayed messages. I think they should atleast know my reasoning for doing this.

hi, have you used the instagram delayed messages before? I plan on sending notes to my friends like that but do you know if it still works even if I delete Insta from my phone? sorry for the question

 

[Boardwalk]

I think the ambiguity of no note could make it easier, I got screwed over by a note and failed attempt

 

[Cepheuss]

hi, have you used the instagram delayed messages before? I plan on sending notes to my friends like that but do you know if it still works even if I delete Insta from my phone? sorry for the question

Not too sure on that one all i can tell you is it doesnt tell the other person theres a delayed message and theyre easy to cancel. You'll have to test the deleting insta one unfortunately

 

[blackorchid]

Not too sure on that one all i can tell you is it doesnt tell the other person theres a delayed message and theyre easy to cancel. You'll have to test the deleting insta one unfortunately

thank you!!

 

[SadGirl]

What's everyone's thoughts on leaving a note for their partner or children or friends.

Once or if my SN arrives I'm going to attempt to CTB, I'm hoping it's successful as my first attempt months ago was a fail and nothing has changed in my life since, it's gotten worse if anything.

I keep thinking in my head messages I'd like to leave loved ones. But would I be best to not leave a note at all?

I'm in favor of leaving at least a note, an explanation, since it's going to be gone forever. So yes, for me you should leave a letter for someone important to you.

 

[peacebenow]

There is no should. It's a deeply personal choice and decision based on your own specific circumstances.