Suicide Note

[Lily (Osako)]

The biggest thing I'm struggling with is my suicide note.
I know I need to leave one for my kid.
But do I leave one for anyone else? Those who hurt me? Those who pretend to care?
Idk.

 

[lionetta12]

The biggest thing I'm struggling with is my suicide note.
I know I need to leave one for my kid.
But do I leave one for anyone else? Those who hurt me? Those who pretend to care?
Idk.

That's completely up to you, and wheter or not you feel like that is the right thing for you to do. Personally, I will leave one specifically for each person of importance in my life, both good and bad people.

 

[U. A.]

I'm not at that stage, but you can always write whatever you want for whoever you want and decide later on whether or not to actually leave them behind. I find the act of writing in general can be quite cathartic, and maybe for those who won't receive positive notes, you just need to externalize certain things. Or maybe you'll want them to be delivered. Either way it's about how it makes you feel while you're still here, given once you're gone, well...ostensibly it won't really matter at that point. Good luck

 

[FuneralCry]

I feel like it's a personal thing, who to write a note for. I think that I would only write a note for those who deserve to have some form of closure and explanation as to why I decided to do this. Best wishes.

 

[Murasa]

The suicide note is a last message to those you leave behind. As I see it, the best thing is to write everything you think you should and want to express. If you feel like you should say something to a person, then do it.

Also, if you write a note for someone very special to you, try to be as explicit as possible, as this will help these people not find it so difficult to go through a mourning related to guilt, after the death of a suicide, those close to them may experience the "I could have done more for this person..." If you want to spare them a lot of pain, it's best to leave no room for them to take the blame for what happened to you. Of course, this in the event that they have nothing to do with your decision and you do not want to cause them any harm, a note to those who hurt you is something like a last "fuck you!".

Those are the conclusions I came to when thinking about my own notes and reviewing other suicide cases, leave with no regrets and be at peace with your decision.

If you are sure of your decision, I hope you can express your feelings and rest easy, I wish you only the best.

 

[atonofdespair24]

I recently wrote my note.

I wrote it, erased it, wrote more, erased more, countless times. I must have spent 10 plus hours on it in the span of 4-5 days.

I was never good at conveying what kind of person I was to 99.9 percent of people in my life, so I don't care if the people reading actually liked me or cared or whatever. I just wanted people to know who I was when I leave this place. What i didn't like, what I did. And why I was doing it! I kind of just gave my insight on life, and some final words on how I don't hold anyone accountable for this, it's between me and whatever entity created this life, and I guess life as a whole itself. It's just to solidify who I am. And I agree, writing it out actually made me feel better, I guess I'm still here so yeah.

Give it a go. I was super hesitant to start because I don't care about much anymore but once I did my fingers wouldn't stop going lol.

 

[Poor Stargazer]

I dont think you owe anyone, anything. I wish you peace and calm in this life or the next. ❤

 

[katagiri83]

The biggest thing I'm struggling with is my suicide note.
I know I need to leave one for my kid.
But do I leave one for anyone else? Those who hurt me? Those who pretend to care?
Idk.

Writing the note is one of the toughest task… re-writing it in one's mind for hundreds of times is so exhausting.

Apart from your note to your kid, maybe also a separate note for general public / authorities / coroner etc in order to lessen the impact for your loved ones and especially your kid. The post-mortem process can be brutal & insensitive. What are your thoughts on this?

 

[Lily (Osako)]

Writing the note is one of the toughest task… re-writing it in one's mind for hundreds of times is so exhausting.

Apart from your note to your kid, maybe also a separate note for general public / authorities / coroner etc in order to lessen the impact for your loved ones and especially your kid. The post-mortem process can be brutal & insensitive. What are your thoughts on this?

I think that's a really good idea.
What do you think I should put in it?

 

[katagiri83]

I think that's a really good idea.
What do you think I should put in it?

It can state that the decision was your own without assistance or coercion by any third parties (if that's the case); May also include the rationale / reasons for the decision. Depending on the circumstances, the method used can also be included.
Then again, it'll be your choice to leave one or not. Just the same as your final decision. Hope you can have some better days.