Suicide note tips (?)

[InterstateFlowers]

I wanted tips to write a suicide note because apparently this is the only place I can find any. Tried to look it up but all I got was the suicide hotline and pro-lifers telling sufferers to keep living so family doesn't feel bad or that it'll get better. If it's okay, I just thought it would be interesting to hear what people said in theirs.

My family is really important to me because they care a lot about me so I made sure of a few things in my note:

• Let my family know that it wasn't their fault and nobody pressured me into doing this
• Made sure to strongly advocate therapy and medicine and getting help
• Didn't die feeling unloved, unwanted, or scared
• That I love my family very much
• Nothing my family could have done would have prevented this ( this is a lie but I don't want my family to feel guilty )

I don't know how to feel, like is this wrong or bad, but I wrote in my mom's letter how to kill herself peacefully using the SN method. From the things she's said, she's the only family I'm concerned will actually kill herself. One of my greatest fears is that she dies a slow and painful death or becomes a vegetable trying to die the wrong way. If she did kill herself, I wrote that I understood her decision.

I'm not a selfish and cruel hypocrite that I would ban my mom from her ending her life after doing what I did. But I also brought up questions to ask herself if she did do it. Like who would take care of my sister, who's a minor? Did she need to rewrite her will? Does she want to make a DNR? I also told her ways she shouldn't kill herself and made it clear how OD'ing on OTC drugs and shooting herself the wrong way wouldn't kill her. Actually, I made sure to say not to shoot herself because I don't believe my mom will do the proper research.

All of this is unique to my mom. But I also wrote things unique to my dad like strongly advising him to go to therapy and how to do it through his PCP. He's not the type to show his emotions and told me he cried in his car because he didn't want to cry in front of me when I first attempted suicide. Even though he doesn't drink, I don't want him to turn to alcohol to cope because in this case, alcohol is nothing but a road to a bullet when dealing with these things.

Knowing all this, is there anything you wrote in your suicide note that's unique to you? To the people whose parents only hurt them and drove them to suicide, do you tell that you died because of them or guilt-trip them? I'm asking not only because I'm curious (sorry if I'm being nosy, please tell me if I am) but also because I don't know what I'd write if that was my case. For those who have known someone close who committed suicide, what do you wish they told you?