Sry for asking but ild rly like to know...

[Whenhopelostmemory]

Ik this is kind of a weird and rude question but can anyone who has lost their loved one to suicide try n answer... does the pain of losing ur loved one ever go away or atleast subside? Do u always blame urself for not being able to stop it or think that u could have helped or do u find peace in that they are finally where they wanna be

 

[GoodPersonEffed]

The pain eventually subsided over the course of many years, and I eventually stopped wondering if I could have done something. If he had left a note, it would have helped. He was a teenager (I was too), and no one expected it. I think that believing they could have done something gives people a sense of control. I know now, decades later, that there's nothing I could have done, and that things must have been pretty bad in his life for him to have suicided. There was evidence he'd prepared for it months before we met.

 

[Funkymonks]

I lost my brother 15 years ago.
I don't blame myself because it was his choice to make and I know that I was the best sister that I could have been to him.
I believe if he hadn't of taken his life the day he did, he would have done so another day.

I'm glad he is no longer in pain. Although I would give anything in the world for him not to have had that pain in the start.
I miss him lots, I miss the hugs.
Could I have have stopped it? No. He hid it well.

 

[Tabbyql]

I only lost my sister 2 weeks ago, so i guess i shouldn't have bothered answering this. But just wanted say I really hope the pain does subside eventually.

 

[anthos pal]

Ik this is kind of a weird and rude question but can anyone who has lost their loved one to suicide try n answer... does the pain of losing ur loved one ever go away or atleast subside? Do u always blame urself for not being able to stop it or think that u could have helped or do u find peace in that they are finally where they wanna be

Its almost six months since I lost my love, and I am stuck, missing beloved always... feeling the pain, just need a hug....

 

[DPJ187]

Pain doesn't disappear we just get better at dealing with it, that's all I can say. Time helps but doesn't fix

 

[StarryStarry]

Everyone is different. My little girl died by suicide (I say she was murdered because she was being molested and that's why she took her life). Not a day goes by that I don't feel overwhelming guilt (I didn't know she was being abused, but should have known). I live with the guilt that if I hadn't married this monster she would still be here. The pain has never gone away; never minimized; the pain is as deep as if it happened yesterday. I feel guilty for living ... I hope this answers your question.

 

[Glowarm]

Ik this is kind of a weird and rude question but can anyone who has lost their loved one to suicide try n answer... does the pain of losing ur loved one ever go away or atleast subside? Do u always blame urself for not being able to stop it or think that u could have helped or do u find peace in that they are finally where they wanna be

I thought about how to reply to your questions for quite a while. My original answer was both yes and no.
Does it ever completely go away? For me; no, never. Anytime I think of them there is some pain. There's also a shitload of good memories and happy times too, but the pain is there as well.
Does it subside? For me; Yes it does. It's still there though, It just doesn't sting quite as much. I've accepted it and I think that helps it not to be so bad.
Do I blame myself? Absolutely, 100%. I'm pretty sure he'd call me an asshole for blaming myself and maybe punch me in the arm, but I still do. I also know 100% that it was his decision and he wouldn't want anyone taking blame. But the 'what if I did....' will always be there. But again, time lessons the sting.

I'm really sorry for your loss. I hope the pain fades away as much as possible.

 

[thedaywillcome]

Everyone is different. My little girl died by suicide (I say she was murdered because she was being molested and that's why she took her life). Not a day goes by that I don't feel overwhelming guilt (I didn't know she was being abused, but should have known). I live with the guilt that if I hadn't married this monster she would still be here. The pain has never gone away; never minimized; the pain is as deep as if it happened yesterday. I feel guilty for living ... I hope this answers your question.

So Traumas are cause suicide . I do have traumas.

 

[Klo]

Ik this is kind of a weird and rude question but can anyone who has lost their loved one to suicide try n answer... does the pain of losing ur loved one ever go away or atleast subside? Do u always blame urself for not being able to stop it or think that u could have helped or do u find peace in that they are finally where they wanna be

I don't even care anymore that my brother killed himself. I don't know if you can say I've moved on. I'm suicidal though so very few things matter to me anymore.