Venting So, my family really doesn’t care about me at all.

[Lullaby]

I don't know why this is so surprising, I've been treated like a black sheep for years but it still hurts.

My brother is in town visiting because it's my nephews birthday this upcoming weekend. He stopped by the house with his new girlfriend before going out. Then my mother and her boyfriend left not too long after, she told me they were just going to the store.

They all just got back together, and it turns out they all went to go eat out at a restaurant. Didn't even bother asking if I wanted to go or anything. They're all drinking and having a good time in the living room, while I'm in my bedroom crying.

Again, I don't know why I'm surprised. My mom emotionally, physically and verbally abused me when I was growing up and my siblings distanced themselves from me when I got depressed. Whenever I would end up hospitalized, my mom would get angry at me because she'd be worried about what others would say. Even at my lowest, they've never cared.

It just hurts when I'm already feeling completely unwanted that stuff like this happens and makes it feel worse.

My family treats me like I have leprosy and I can't seem to hold onto any friends or make any new ones. I really just feel like I don't belong here at all, like being born was a complete mistake.

 

[Water-Lily]

I relate so heavily to the isolation, the abuse, and the neglect, along with struggling to make friends. I am processing the trauma left over by my mother (who has since died) along with how my family contributed to that

Today is a special day, happy birthday to you. Your family isn't taking the time to experience the joy of you and it's their loss. Is it possible to go outside and do something for yourself away from them? You deserve to give yourself that especially with everything

 

[houseofleaves]

Fuck them. You deserve better.

 

[Water-Lily]

Fuck them. You deserve better.

agreed

 

[FuneralCry]

Some people really are so cruel. I'm sorry that you have to deal with people like that, this life is just so unfair. I hope you find relief from your suffering, I wish you the best.

 

[Huntfish34]

Agreed Fuck'em... And Happy Birthday, hope you can find someone peace and serenity throughout the day!

 

[needforvoid_]

Like a bunch of snobs.
From seeing you post here, it's not even comparable - you're way better than them. Just outnumbered.

 

[shrek34]

I don't know why this is so surprising, I've been treated like a black sheep for years but it still hurts.

My brother is in town visiting because it's my nephews birthday this upcoming weekend. He stopped by the house with his new girlfriend before going out. Then my mother and her boyfriend left not too long after, she told me they were just going to the store.

They all just got back together, and it turns out they all went to go eat out at a restaurant. Didn't even bother asking if I wanted to go or anything. They're all drinking and having a good time in the living room, while I'm in my bedroom crying.

Again, I don't know why I'm surprised. My mom emotionally, physically and verbally abused me when I was growing up and my siblings distanced themselves from me when I got depressed. Whenever I would end up hospitalized, my mom would get angry at me because she'd be worried about what others would say. Even at my lowest, they've never cared.

It just hurts when I'm already feeling completely unwanted that stuff like this happens and makes it feel worse.

My family treats me like I have leprosy and I can't seem to hold onto any friends or make any new ones. I really just feel like I don't belong here at all, like being born was a complete mistake.

Yeah I agree with what others are saying, fuck them. Maybe you should try looking for people in a similar situation, or join some sort of group with people with similar interests as you? There will always be people who would make great friends with you, you just need to find them.

 

[Lullaby]

Thank you guys. I sometimes get really embarrassed about venting on here, but I always appreciate the support that I get. It means a lot.

Yeah I agree with what others are saying, fuck them. Maybe you should try looking for people in a similar situation, or join some sort of group with people with similar interests as you? There will always be people who would make great friends with you, you just need to find them.

I definitely need to make some friends again. Its so much harder when you're getting older and I feel like I have a hard time fitting in enough, but I'm going to keep trying.

 

[Achlys]

I'm sorry to hear how poorly they treat you. I know firsthand the emptiness and loneliness that can accompany such familial exclusion.

After my mother died, I stayed with extended family for years. Several times, they'd head to restaurants in my absence or go on outings without considering extending an invite. It was heart-wrenching hearing them return cheerfully each time. I tried to rationalize that since I wasn't directly related to them, I shouldn't expect to be included as if I was. It only hurt more whenever they told me how much they loved me—like I was their child/sibling. Their love felt inconsistent and inevitably fell short compared to what my mother gave.

You deserve better, and I hope you can find those who appreciate you.

 

[dissociatedmess]

I'm so sorry, it must be so difficult to experience this. I know we likely have very different circumstances but I do understand this type of pain. You aren't alone and you deserve care and support.

 

[Lullaby]

I'm sorry to hear how poorly they treat you. I know firsthand the emptiness and loneliness that can accompany such familial exclusion.

After my mother died, I stayed with extended family for years. Several times, they'd head to restaurants in my absence or go on outings without considering extending an invite. It was heart-wrenching hearing them return cheerfully each time. I tried to rationalize that since I wasn't directly related to them, I shouldn't expect to be included as if I was. It only hurt more whenever they told me how much they loved me—like I was their child/sibling. Their love felt inconsistent and inevitably fell short compared to what my mother gave.

You deserve better, and I hope you can find those who appreciate you.

I'm really sorry you had to go through that, I can't imagine how horrible it is to lose a parent and then be excluded like that. You deserved better than that too.

I guess family is just a word at the end of the day and what you make it.

 

[ikadasui]

i'm sorry this happened on your birthday. i hope at least our well wishes can brighten your evening at least a little

 

[Journeytoletgo]

Happy belated birthday. I'm sorry they are mistreating you. You don't deserve any of that bs. I hope you tried to enjoy a little of what you could at least