Self diagnosed BPD???

[Mia Wallace]

Oh man after hanging around and reading posts, I feel like I have BPD and its breaking my heart! Jesus from what I read we are like horrible and there is no hope? Like literally no cure? That's so reassuring. Anyone here who had it and beat it or like can control it and willing to chat?

 

[iDieUDie80]

I mean, you're probably gonna hear pretty despairing language given the nature of this site. I don't know if there is a cure for any mental illness, but there is always treatment. DBT, or Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, is a type of cognitive behavioral therapy specifically created to treat BPD. You're not a horrible person for having a mental illness.

 

[Mia Wallace]

I mean, you're probably gonna hear pretty despairing language given the nature of this site. I don't know if there is a cure for any mental illness, but there is always treatment. DBT, or Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, is a type of cognitive behavioral therapy specifically created to treat BPD. You're not a horrible person for having a mental illness.

Thank you and I should clarify it's the stuff I read outside of here on it that makes it seem so much so. The no cure freaked me out especially bc I had a burst of optimism for the first time in forever today. It's so disheartening. I'm tired. So tired of just trying to feel what others feel as just their baseline. :(

 

[iDieUDie80]

Thank you and I should clarify it's the stuff I read outside of here on it that makes it seem so much so. The no cure freaked me out especially bc I had a burst of optimism for the first time in forever today. It's so disheartening. I'm tired. So tired of just trying to feel what others feel as just their baseline. :(

I have OCD. There's no cure for it, but there is exposure therapy that is extremely effective. In my experience, googling your symptoms can make things so much worse. I would wait to get an official diagnosis from a licensed psychiatrist. I wouldn't give up on hope right now.

 

[Linda]

For 3 years I had a boyfriend who was somewhat bipolar, and it wasn't the reason we eventually split up. I'm no expert, but I think the severity of the condition can vary from mild to severe. At the milder end it's really no big deal.

 

[Life_and_Death]

I have BPD. I'm working towards recovery. If you'd like we can talk :)

 

[Aap]

BPD 1 and 2 are very different. I'd encourage you not to try to diagnose any illness at home, particularly a mental one. While not curable, it can be well managed, but you need a doctor. Before you lose hope, why not explore that?

 

[heavyglow]

Are we speaking about bipolar or boderline?

 

[Life_and_Death]

Are we speaking about bipolar or boderline?

BPD is borderline

 

[Kotochan]

I mean the thing is that with most mental illness and even BPD there are good recovery rates - there are people who don't recover even after 10 years, and it's a significantly sized group if I remember right. But there is hope in that regard

 

[Kaugummi]

Been officially diagnosed with it this year and I hate it. Mainly because of the stigma and how horrible you get treated by a lot of professionals as soon as they read your diagnosis. They instantly cease to see or even try to see the individual but automatically assume that you're a manipulative drama queen.

That aside, yes BPD patients have a reputation of being 'difficult' hence why a lot of therapist won't even see them but 'recovery' is definitely possible. BPD actually has a really high rate of remission (around 80% of people don't even qualify for the diagnosis anymore after ten years). You cannot 'cure' it because curing something means 'removing the cause of sickness' which you cannot do in case of trauma and life experiences for example. But you can absolutely improve symptoms even to the point where people don't meet the diagnostic criteria anymore.

All that being said.... Guess who's about to be kicked out by her therapist? Hahaha. Fml.

 

[autumnal]

Oh man after hanging around and reading posts, I feel like I have BPD and its breaking my heart! Jesus from what I read we are like horrible and there is no hope? Like literally no cure? That's so reassuring. Anyone here who had it and beat it or like can control it and willing to chat?

As @Aap already mentioned, don't start working yourself up until you've gotten a proper diagnosis. And even then, BPD is not the end of the world. Reading the worst anecdotal accounts of anything will give a skewed picture. There are treatments.

 

[heavyglow]

I have not been officially diagnosed with borderline but with emotional instability and yes I think I do have it. but I am soneone who is high functional with it as I started early to cope. Yes it is difficult emotionally but on the other hand I wouldnt want to lose it entirely because it has its beautiful aspects. Its what you make out of it I guess

 

[EmbraceOfTheVoid]

I don't believe in most of the labels associated with "mental illness". What psychology calls personality disorders are various symptoms or coping mechanisms for being traumatized. People use these labels to stigmatize others and people that have been diagnosed with it use it as an excuse to absolve themselves of responsibility for their actions and overall shitty behavior.

"The primary problem with modern psychiatry is its reduction of mental illness to bodily dysfunction. Objectification of those identified as mentally ill, by insisting on the somatic nature of their illness, may apparently simplify matters and help protect those trying to provide care from the pain experienced by those needing support. But psychiatric assessment too often fails to appreciate personal and social precursors of mental illness by avoiding or not taking account of such psychosocial considerations. Mainstream psychiatry acts on the somatic hypothesis of mental illness to the detriment of understanding people's problems."― Thomas Szasz, The Myth of Mental Illness: Foundations of a Theory of Personal Conduct

"When and why do we attribute a person's behavior to brain disease, and when and why do we not do so? Briefly, the answer is that we often attribute bad behavior to disease (to excuse the agent);never attribute good behavior to disease (lest we deprive the agent of credit); and typically attribute good behavior to free will and insist bad behavior called mental illness is a "no fault" act of nature." ― Thomas Stephen Szasz, Cruel Compassion: Psychiatric Control of Society's Unwanted

The concept of disease is fast replacing the concept of responsibility. With increasing zeal Americans use and interpret the assertion "I am sick" as equivalent to the assertion "I am not responsible": Smokers say they are not responsible for smoking, drinkers that they are not responsible for drinking, gamblers that they are not responsible for gambling, and mothers who murder their infants that they are not responsible for killing. To prove their point — and to capitalize on their self-destructive and destructive behavior — smokers, drinkers, gamblers, and insanity acquitees are suing tobacco companies, liquor companies, gambling casinos, and physicians."― Thomas Stephen Szasz

 

[Toobrokentofix]

I have BPD and I struggle a lot with the diagnosis. Am having hard time committing to CTB or recovery at the minute. I don't feel it's possible to get well as I've tried for almost 30 years. That being said there's a number of reasons I desperately want to get better and stay alive. A part of me that is clinging on.

I have BPD and I struggle a lot with the diagnosis. Am having hard time committing to CTB or recovery at the minute. I don't feel it's possible to get well as I've tried for almost 30 years. That being said there's a number of reasons I desperately want to get better and stay alive. A part of me that is clinging on.

P.S if you ever want to chat I'm happy to