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greenvelvet

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Jan 1, 2024
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Sincere apologies if there's already a thread for this, but I'm making preparations to end my life and want to know what I can do in advance to make things easier for my loved ones. So far my list includes:
- A will
- Writing goodbye letters
- Deleting accounts/making a complete and comprehensive list of any passwords they might need
- Instructions on what to do with my body after I die
- Funeral planning

I was wondering, to any of you who have lost someone, especially to suicide, is there anything you wish they'd done or left behind before they went? I was thinking of making lists of my favourite media and music in case it would help people feel close to me when I'm gone, but I don't know if that would put pressure on them and make them feel like I'm giving them homework.

Any input would be appreciated.
 
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glenn

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Save Your family from facing any legal action, this is all i'll suggest u. Otherwise everything is fine
 
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grapevoid

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Jan 30, 2025
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I set up emails for the people closest to me and put the log ins in their letters- I have sent photos of us, memories, song links from times we had together etc over time so if ever they want to, they'll all be compiled in one place and it will all be things that are personalized to them.
 
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ForeverCaHa

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Feb 16, 2025
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I lost my partner to suicide just under 3 weeks ago, and the most obvious thing to wish for is a more detailed note. He sent me (and only me, nothing to his family or friends) a brief message on WhatsApp. Its brevity tells me it was an action made on impulse, and has pushed me into the deep end with no chance of recovery. I beg anyone going through with this plan to really think about their note.

Aside from this, general 'admin' stuff. We lived together, so the housing contract has to be terminated. If I don't empty and clean the flat within 10 days I will be charged a full month's rent - I can't afford that. The landlord doesn't care that I'm still in major shock, grieving, he just wants new tenants ASAP. I can't bring myself to go into our flat, though. I can't handle being faced with all those memories and the visions of where/how he died, so I have to send my mum and friends to clear the place out. It sounds like such a minor thing, but having to throw away our bedsheets and kitchenware makes me feel sick. I can't imagine keeping them though.

As for social media: he blocked me on Instagram before ending his life. So many photos and videos that I can no longer access... If you are leaving behind people you love, please make sure they have access to this kind of thing. I still can't look at photos of him, but in the future (if I don't CTB on my planned date) I feel that those photos will be precious to me.

It is a horrific experience for those left behind, I can't imagine anything worse. Maybe I'm a hypocrite, since I am set to CTB in more or less exactly 5 weeks. There's not really anything we can do to alleviate the pain we will cause, but these small things will remove a lot of stress from the grieving process.
 
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greenvelvet

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I lost my partner to suicide just under 3 weeks ago, and the most obvious thing to wish for is a more detailed note. He sent me (and only me, nothing to his family or friends) a brief message on WhatsApp. Its brevity tells me it was an action made on impulse, and has pushed me into the deep end with no chance of recovery. I beg anyone going through with this plan to really think about their note.

Aside from this, general 'admin' stuff. We lived together, so the housing contract has to be terminated. If I don't empty and clean the flat within 10 days I will be charged a full month's rent - I can't afford that. The landlord doesn't care that I'm still in major shock, grieving, he just wants new tenants ASAP. I can't bring myself to go into our flat, though. I can't handle being faced with all those memories and the visions of where/how he died, so I have to send my mum and friends to clear the place out. It sounds like such a minor thing, but having to throw away our bedsheets and kitchenware makes me feel sick. I can't imagine keeping them though.

As for social media: he blocked me on Instagram before ending his life. So many photos and videos that I can no longer access... If you are leaving behind people you love, please make sure they have access to this kind of thing. I still can't look at photos of him, but in the future (if I don't CTB on my planned date) I feel that those photos will be precious to me.

It is a horrific experience for those left behind, I can't imagine anything worse. Maybe I'm a hypocrite, since I am set to CTB in more or less exactly 5 weeks. There's not really anything we can do to alleviate the pain we will cause, but these small things will remove a lot of stress from the grieving process.
I appreciate the insight but just want to say I am truly so sorry for what you're going through.
 

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