Discussion [Poll] Are you receiving therapy/ professional MH care?

[whosready4tmrw]

Never, too scared of the consequences of seeking help.

It's just not worth it, no matter what anyone says. If you get it and they force you to live, they're just gonna make your life hell anyways.

 

[starryend]

I've tried both therapy and medication, It seems sort of ineffective for me. Also very hesitant to be completely honest with my therapist. It feels like they just give me some generic advice out of a brochure and then charge me an arm and a leg.

 

[slowlydying2mrrw]

I've been under mh services for the best part of a decade now and, numerous times, have had short courses of therapy which have provided slight relief in the moment, although this has never been sustained post-treatment. I've now been accepted onto a longer term MBT (mentalisation-based therapy) course for my BPD, which I've heard has been really helpful for other people, so I am hopeful but this is a last resort for me. I do not wish to spend the rest of my life in and out of treatment, taking medication several times per day, and if I'm no better after completing this therapy then I believe I was not meant to be.

I have BPD and notice I project a sense of perfectionism in the therapists I've seen for it, that their mistakes are the reasons why I can't see them. I've had one who mixed details of my case with someone else, and another one on betterhelp who was suggested to me based on my personalized issues and they admitted to me they never dealt with borderline personality disorder.... I've only had one therapist where it did work, but she knew me as a child in therapy and we developed a genuine relationship.

Do you ever feel that way in your situation?

 

[LoveMumTTMAB]

I had a therapist for a few months before covid started.
He was amazing! He was a great listener, he knew exactly when to interject, and respond like a friendly human. He was helpful in the sense that I finally had someone to talk to, and who responded back in a way that made me feel happy. That man had loads of empathy and it showed.
I moved to the UK a few years ago, and have not been able to make friends locally, so I really needed someone like that.
He also gave me a few tools to deal with anxiety, which I still use.

I have been struggling so much these past few years, with deep deep sadness, and difficulty dealing with society in general, completely crumbling in the face of expectations and obligations. I have finally been able to see a psychiatrist through the NHS after a 6 year wait, to have an ADHD and autism evaluation.

That psychiatric consultation was awful! the doctor had lost my diagnostic test, he had not even read it. I had done a lot of introspection and taken notes based on the questions on that test.
Instead, he insisted to have a casual conversation where he asked me very open ended questions. I really struggled to remember on the fly what could be relevant for adhd/autism. He interjected in the weirdest places. He kept insisting that "that's nice, kids these days don't have nice experiences like that" (ok, I saw ponies when I was 3 years old, that doesn't mean I am now cured, what the hell?!) He also was annoyed whenever I asked him to explain better what he was asking. He refused to expand on anything, he kept telling me to just answer his questions. He was robotic and as neutral as possible, right there in the uncanny valley of human behaviour. I saw no empathy in him, nothing seemed geniuine besides his irritation.

I ended up just giving him a bland overview of my entire life, with very few relevant point for sure.
He then told me I had ADHD and autism traits, but we all do, and that it doesn't mean I have ADHD or autism. He prescribed an SSRI. I have yet to have my follow up consultation scheduled, so I have no help until they remember I exist.
I did have a couple of good days since I started medication little more than a month ago, but I mostly have mediocre days, or awful ones when I really have to fight the urge to end it all from the moment I wake up until I go to sleep.

I think I had too much faith in the help that was coming. The hope that help was coming was what kept me going for 6 years since I had asked for that referral.

hey! Are you at university / if not yet, do you plan on going? I actually got diagnosed for free through a diagnosis group/organisation that works within Unis, it's not very spoken about and they try to keep it under the radar to avoid blocking that waitlist up as well keeping it only for people they think 'really' need it. I only had to wait 2 months via that process so if you are at university or planning to go it's a great resource for a diagnosis!!

 

[meiherasoru_]

I haven't been to therapy for a year; I don't need help

 

[Al_stargate]

Nah I dont believe in it. Psychiatry just makes things worse, like ruin your health with psych drugs or having to pay therapist obscene amount of money for them to nod along and say hmmmm. It's all fugazzi, you can only help yourself really if thats possible. Others will just gaslight you and even try to take advantage of your volnurable situation.

 

[throwawaygirl]

Lots of therapy and medications since I was a kid, hasn't helped and on occasion has made stuff much worse.

 

[sanctionedusage]

medication helped; now i dont need it anymore

tried therapy for anorexia; developed worse anorexia, ocd, agoraphobia, and became disabled as a result of therapy abuse lololol