Venting Non-Tiktok users VS ppl around them

[idfwlnh]

I have social issues. But I do understand the importance of having relationships. I often think the more relationship you have, the more social power you have. So despite my awkwardness, I still tried and speak up to ppl around me.

First, a little about me, in my country, Reddit is extremely rare used, then comes Discord, and also any other English media is uncommon. However, I use Reddit and Discord most of the time as my social media. However, the youth here prefers Tiktok, Instagram and Threads. I use none of them. Even if I do, I would prb end up in English media.

So return to the main thing I wanna talk about, whenever I try to join in with their conversations, I just basically can't catch up. When I ask them, they'd say it's tiktok trends blah blah, then they'd grew tired of even explaining, thus I also am afraid of asking in the first place. But really, I can't just because of ppl around me that I change my preference in what I like to watch. This happened for years, ever since I was in secondary school, like 12 13yo or so.

And sadly, I'm not academically good enough or mentally strong enough nor well-off enough to study abroad in a English speaking country just to have friends. Still, I don't like Tiktok

 

[swan7o7]

I feel so old when I say that lol

 

[idfwlnh]

I feel so old when I say that lol

True! I'm an average GenZ but feeling like a boomer when joining their conversations lol

 

[LilGhost]

I have social issues. But I do understand the importance of having relationships. I often think the more relationship you have, the more social power you have. So despite my awkwardness, I still tried and speak up to ppl around me.

First, a little about me, in my country, Reddit is extremely rare used, then comes Discord, and also any other English media is uncommon. However, I use Reddit and Discord most of the time as my social media. However, the youth here prefers Tiktok, Instagram and Threads. I use none of them. Even if I do, I would prb end up in English media.

So return to the main thing I wanna talk about, whenever I try to join in with their conversations, I just basically can't catch up. When I ask them, they'd say it's tiktok trends blah blah, then they'd grew tired of even explaining, thus I also am afraid of asking in the first place. But really, I can't just because of ppl around me that I change my preference in what I like to watch. This happened for years, ever since I was in secondary school, like 12 13yo or so.

And sadly, I'm not academically good enough or mentally strong enough nor well-off enough to study abroad in a English speaking country just to have friends. Still, I don't like Tiktok

Trust me bud, changing yourself doesnt worth it. I use insta but i cant imagine talking about tik tok trends, sounds hella boring. And if thats smth like AI slop . You are dodging a bullet
My advice: try having token of your interests on you. Like I have bunch of shark stuff i crochet, my anarchy patches (careful if its not safe to be open with your political views), pokemon hood etc, etc. You just need to find people who are into same shit as you. Using your appearance as a way to say "this is what I like" helps a lot, cause people you approach/that approach you can immediatly see if they click with you or not

 

[idfwlnh]

You just need to find people who are into same shit as you. Using your appearance as a way to say "this is what I like" helps a lot, cause people you approach/that approach you can immediatly see if they click with you or not

Right! This is the most straight forward way, though it does take a lot of courage to do so! I'll try to use that advice sometimes! Thks