My ex might be trying to manipulate me

[HarpoMarx]

Hi, it's been a while since my last time in the forum.

I never said this to anyone but... I finally had the courage to break up with my girlfriend and I ask her to move out from the house we live in (it was her idea to move out in the first place). It hasn't been easy to take this decision, as I am in her country because of her. Now I am alone, with 2 cats, and more than 10.000 km away from any friend or close family. Well, that's not the point for this post. I accept the reality.

The thing is, we have been having problems for a while now, all because of me and my eternal sadness. Not long ago, I committed the mistake of letting her know that I am in this forum and that I have been having suicidal thoughts for many years. I wasn't seeking for help, I was just trying to make her understand why we shouldn't be together and why I cant make her happy as she deserves.

So now she is asking me for any peaceful way to leave this world herself. I'm not sure whether she is trying to manipulate me to stay with her, or she really means it. What would you do in my place?, considering that: 1. im not going back with her by any chance, and there's no way back from this; 2. im not supporting anyone on their suicide, specially a person that has never given any sign of real desire to die.

I'm pretty surprised by all these sudden events. We have always had a "healthy" relationship, with no dramas. This only pushes me more in a deep darkness.

Thanks for reading.

 

[logan]

This is really a very difficult situation ...

Could you maybe go back to your home so that she can stay in your house?

 

[Life_and_Death]

im not supporting anyone on their suicide,

id just tell her this. "i dont feel comfortable 'helping' people with this, but if youre that serious theres resources online if you do some googling. or you can always try to get help first"

 

[HarpoMarx]

This is really a very difficult situation ...

Could you maybe go back to your home so that she can stay in your house?

She doesnt want to stay in the house, she never liked it, plus she cant afford it. It was her idea to break up in the first place, i simply agreed, and it was also her idea to move out and go to her family's place. She regretted later of her decision, and suddenly she started talking about suicide.

 

[logan]

She doesnt want to stay in the house, she never liked it, plus she cant afford it. It was her idea to break up in the first place, i simply agreed, and it was also her idea to move out and go to her family's place. She regretted later of her decision, and suddenly she started talking about suicide.

I think she might want to stay there with you after all and has now become aware of the seriousness of the situation.
And since she might not see any way out, she has such thoughts.

 

[HarpoMarx]

I think she might want to stay there with you after all and has now become aware of the seriousness of the situation.
And since she might not see any way out, she has such thoughts.

She will be better off without me. I clearly cannot make anyone happy, starting with myself.

 

[logan]

She will be better off without me. I clearly cannot make anyone happy, starting with myself.

These are your thoughts.
She might see things a little differently.
You certainly loved each other once.

But of course it's difficult to assess that as an outsider.

 

[filthyrottendirty]

She will be better off without me. I clearly cannot make anyone happy, starting with myself.

That's the depression talking