Venting "Looking for attention" is what they call it

[Bradux512]

I've been told my suicide attempts are me looking for attention... it's like people just don't understand how difficult it is, and how much pain you must be in to take your life.
No one knows how heavy it is to be alive just because u promised someone u won't die, and so ur parents don't have to question themselves next to your grave ...

 

[amyuwu]

These are same people think suicide is selfish act, Like you ever hang yourself before is extreme painful. But yeah my mum saying that to me while I was hanging partial and and I felt like I was about to pass out.

 

[wantingdignity]

Yeah. It comes from a misunderstanding on why a person is suicidal. They need help! They need attention! Something is horribly wrong!

I feel you. I'm starting to get better, but it's not for me yet. I spent months wanting to die desperately and only living so I wouldn't hurt other people. At some point, there has to be another reason. It feels really unfair to have to live just to not hurt other people. The guilt makes the depression worse.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

people are so stupid and annoying

 

[Bradux512]

These are same people think suicide is selfish act, Like you ever hang yourself before is extreme painful. But yeah my mum saying that to me while I was hanging partial and and I felt like I was about to pass out.

My ex-wife, was still my wife at the time, told me that on a video call while I was in hospital with tubes all over.. on Christmas day spiraling ever since

 

[hang in there]

I've been told my suicide attempts are me looking for attention... it's like people just don't understand how difficult it is, and how much pain you must be in to take your life.
No one knows how heavy it is to be alive just because u promised someone u won't die, and so ur parents don't have to question themselves next to your grave ...

I have been told that plenty of times. When I started high school I had been depressed for over 2 years already. I was checking out chemistry books from the library so I could find something quick and poisonous. I was even looking up suicide methods on the school computers because my parents monitored my internet use at home. I had seen several times and in many articles that overdosing on tylenol and aspirin was lethal. However I did not know that the lethality they described would have to take place over 3 to 5 days worth of liver failure. I just thought it was pretty much immediate, like the cyanide or mustard gas I had read about.
So I overdosed with a lethal amount but made the mistake of saying goodbye to a friend, thinking I would be dead within minutes to hours. Well that friend called the cops on me who interrupted me while I was still getting the pills down. I had still done enough damage that I had to sit in the ICU for about a week before they shipped me off to the psych hospital. All professionals I have ever interacted with recognized the lethal intent and absolutely zero "cry for help" aspects of that attempt.
But in my life, whenever anyone unfamiliar with the concept of sucidality finds out about that first attempt, that is all I am met with... "You wanted to be caught, that's why you informed your friend, you chose something unlikely to work because you didn't want to die, you just wanted attention, it was a cry for help, you weren't really out to die or you would have died," etc, etc, just the most hurtful trash spewing out of their mouth like they know anything at all.
I don't take any of their ignorant opinions seriously but they still hurt and I still hate them for it.

 

[Pale_Rider]

Yup. I heard that til I actually did it. After that they came up with real answers. I think there are people to our benefit that actually do gain attention from this. This has been a benefit for me in the past.

 

[Droso]

We gotta realize that when people say that it's not actually about us, they are just trying to cope with the fact that there are people who actually want to kill themselves. They don't want to admit it so they will make up lies to make us look bad. Happens all the time.

 

[Pale_Rider]

We gotta realize that when people say that it's not actually about us, they are just trying to cope with the fact that there are people who actually want to kill themselves. They don't want to admit it so they will make up lies to make us look bad. Happens all the time.

I agree with this. There are people who will literally say after an attempt that it was fake! So yea that makes a lot of sense to me thanks.
I know when I first became suicidal it was hard to accept. It took weeks of thinking to arrive at the position , but I can remember when I actually started having productive talks with a counselor I couldn't accept that I was actually suicide. That's to say I couldn't say it out loud, or admit it to another. It was a wild departure from who I used to be, but people change. As have I. Idk maybe it's easier to look at death rather then the fog, and pain of my mental illness that only gets worse. Not better with time.

 

[cait_sith]

We gotta realize that when people say that it's not actually about us, they are just trying to cope with the fact that there are people who actually want to kill themselves. They don't want to admit it so they will make up lies to make us look bad. Happens all the time.

Great observation. Many People can't process other people willingly choosing to abandon the thing that they are desperately clinging on to, that they want to prolong for as long as possible regardless of suffering. Once a suicide fails they are free to shame the survivor into telling both the survivor and themselves that they actually didn't really want to die, but if one is successful they will portray it was a great tragedy of a misguided individual that just has a limited perspective, both reactions are coming from the same place.