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peacefulout

peacefulout

it’s rough out here
Jul 13, 2025
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feeling useless and don't have real goals or anything to work for. tell me to do something, and I'll do it. tell me to get a coffee, I'll do it. i need anything to stay sane. tell me to do what you're afraid of or what you hate or what you love I dont care . thank you
 
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Hollowman

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Dec 14, 2021
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No one's going to tell you to run in front of a train. Go for a walk and pick up some litter.
 
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hippiedeath

hippiedeath

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Jul 12, 2025
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Don't let people tell you what to do. Do this now.
 
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Nah

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feeling useless and don't have real goals or anything to work for. tell me to do something, and I'll do it. tell me to get a coffee, I'll do it. i need anything to stay sane. tell me to do what you're afraid of or what you hate or what you love I dont care . thank you

Go to the gym. It's something that keeps me sane.
Try to get a 24hour one. Then, when you're having a sleepless night, go to the gym.

Or just go every few days.

Or go for runs every morning.
 
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CatLvr

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Aug 1, 2024
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Don't let people tell you what to do. Do this now.
This. A bazillion times THIS!!

BUT ... Since you are letting me boss you around do this:

Sit with yourself and just let your mind focus on the clouds in the sky. Or the little bug flitting around in the grass. Or the bird sitting on the fence looking at you like you have lost your mind.

Do this every morning and every evening for at least 15 minutes. Bonus points if you take your shoes and socks off and put the soles of your feet in firm (but not hard, don't have to push down) contact with the grass and soil.

You will eventually "see" things you need to do for your soul. It won't make sense to your "logical" mind. In fact, you will probably think you are losing it completely. I will NEVER forget the first time I actually had "that" thought -- lol -- I was SO sure something profound was gonna come to me. Nope. I was minding my own business, watching the chickens gather themselves up and go inside for the evening (believe it or not chickens are actually VERY orderly creatures), and I thought "Dammit!! You NEED to get some housework done before you go to bed! That living room is a disaster. What if someone comes over?" 🤨😳🙄🤬🤬 First of all, it wasn't THAT bad -- probably needed vacuuming -- but other than that it was fine! Second of all, I don't have any friends! 🙄🙄 Nobody's gonna come knocking on my door. 🤣🤣

But guess who went and picked up, dusted and vacuumed before she went to bed. 🤦🏻🙋🏻🤷🏻🤷🏻
 
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Blurry_Buildings

Just Existing
Sep 27, 2023
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Buy a coffee and a pastry you like to go with it at a cafe. Buy the nice expensive kind, not just plain black coffee.
 
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Apr 21, 2025
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Buy a coffee and a pastry you like to go with it at a cafe. Buy the nice expensive kind, not just plain black coffee.
building off this. cookies or cake is what i would usually want to get at a cafe/bakery. affogato (espresso and vanilla ice cream) is also really good!
 
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VargosMelon

Attempting to Live A Fulfilling Life
Feb 5, 2023
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Go watch or play or consume your favorite piece of media -- or something brand new that came out. Pick up a new hobby.
 
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Sergeant45

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Jun 11, 2025
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Run a few laps around something until you want to go home, just for fun. Fresh air helps slightly to stay sane too....
 
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kittyloverxd

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Jul 15, 2025
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Start going for jogs more often like 2-3x a week, try to learn new skills and learn new cooking recipes
 
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CC123

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Mar 2, 2019
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If there is one in your area, volunteer at a no-kill animal shelter.
Pick an author (Agatha Christie, Tom Clancy, someone with lots of published works) and read all that they have written.
 
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the-high-end-of-low

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Jul 9, 2025
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feeling useless and don't have real goals or anything to work for. tell me to do something, and I'll do it. tell me to get a coffee, I'll do it. i need anything to stay sane. tell me to do what you're afraid of or what you hate or what you love I dont care . thank you
i posted this online a while ago, it's from a tv show extra scenes and stuff, and it got a million views and lots of people said it helped and inspired them and showed them that there is love in everything. watch this :) i don't know if it will help, but it helps me.
 
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author

they/them
Jul 13, 2021
89
Get something to write with and some paper, preferably some kind of notebook or journal with lines. You can also use your phone notepad but I find it helps more to have a physical Thing I can hold in my hands for this, it makes it feel more real. Maybe that's just me.

Write a list of things you like. It doesn't matter what it is, how stupid you think it is to like it, how abstract it is - any judgements you have about it are moot. It can be as simple as "blue" or as specific as "episode 5 season 6 of my favorite show paused at 15:10". You like it, you write it.

Expand this list every single time you think of something new. It's okay to write the same thing twice on accident. Just keep expanding the list. This works best with a lined notebook because you can ideally write one thing per line and fill the book overtime. Feels like making progress.

Here's the most important part; every time you feel like shit and can't think of anything good, you can look in the notebook and remind yourself that sometimes things aren't shit. Sometimes you have a funny moment from a show. Sometimes you have a cool game that sticks with you. There's things you like, and they exist no matter how you feel. Just because you can't remember the joy it gave you doesn't mean it never existed, and the list is proof that it made you feel something good. Maybe it won't make you feel immediately better, or even happy, but you'll remember that it's possible to feel that way again.

This is one of the things that got me through my worst years. Hoping it's of some help. If not, at least you have something to do.
 
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Pluto

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