I've been here for a year

[HappyForever?]

Nothing has gotten better. I'm still unattractive. I'm still single. I'm still lonely. No one likes me.
I will kill myself if things don't improve in 3 years.

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm sorry you are suffering so much. I know that for many people loneliness can be devastating. I understand that it can be dreadful when things just get worse. I wish you the best in whatever happens.

 

[Interloper]

Nothing has gotten better. I'm still unattractive. I'm still single. I'm still lonely. No one likes me.
I will kill myself if things don't improve in 3 years.

Don't take this the wrong way but what have you tried so far for improvement? If you're OK with listing these things.

 

[HappyForever?]

I'm sorry you are suffering so much. I know that for many people loneliness can be devastating. I understand that it can be dreadful when things just get worse. I wish you the best in whatever happens.

Thank you. You seem to be such a kind soul, radiating warmth wherever you are. I wish you good luck.

Don't take this the wrong way but what have you tried so far for improvement? If you're OK with listing these things.

Putting myself out there despite my (mild) anxiety. Joining a few hobby groups. Dressing better.
None of these worked but I think either I'm doing something wrong or I need to keep doing them for longer.
I'm giving myself 3 years to do everything in my power to improve. If I fail I will ctb.

 

[TheSDMan]

What are your hobbies? What do you do on a daily basis?

I'm asking as I spent my life playing video games and watching TV shows, and then I introduced regular sport / home workout in the equation and everything felt better (well until now my new skin issues stops me from doing any sport and well, being on this forum).

 

[HappyForever?]

What are your hobbies? What do you do on a daily basis?

I'm asking as I spent my life playing video games and watching TV shows, and then I introduced regular sport / home workout in the equation and everything felt better (well until now my new skin issues stops me from doing any sport and well, being on this forum).

Play weird video games, read books, occasionally eat at a restaurant and go have some fun with some acquaintances (not friends because they don't really care about me).
In college I played board games with people in the board games hobby group. However after the first few weeks fewer and fewer people went to the games and I stopped going for this reason. I also play video games regularly ( if that counts as a hobby) but I mainly play obscure single player games so it does nothing for my social life.
College haven't started yet so I'm unable to meet people of my age regularly.
Exercise might be a good idea, I'm taking a badminton course next semester and I hope it will improve my life, even if just slightly.

 

[TotallyIsolated]

I'm so sorry OP - I can totally relate to everything you've posted, and I have nothing but sympathy - especially on this shitty day.

I'm impressed with all that you've done to try to improve and I can't help but feel like those might be things that have changed. Self improvement is commendable one of the most difficult things any of us can do.

I don't want to solutionize, but I'd hate to just post hollow words and leaving you to it. Plus I'm a total hypocrite cos I don't follow my own advice, and I'm the last person who should give advice about this relationships, buuuut...

Dating is largely about numbers and the more people you meet the more likely you are to find a connection. There are loads of reasons why people might click or not, and attractiveness is just one of them.

I wonder if you, like me, are putting too much emphasis on your appearance. I mean, I get it - it totally sucks feeling ugly and its 10x worse when other people make us feel that way. However, ugly people get dates and find relationships and get married and so on... there could be another explanation for why you're still single.

It sounds like you've put a good deal of work into improvement "out there", but how about inside? How is your relationship to yourself?

I really hate that BS about "you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you" because its super unhelpful and makes it sound like we're trapped being lonely forever. Of course it comes with the caveat that a relationship wont magically fix you, but I'll give the benefit of the doubt that I suspect you know that already.

I shouldn't project my own issues onto you, but its not uncommon for fear of rejection to hold us back, or for us to feel unworthy of love or affection because of past experiences.

Sorry I hope this helpful and not totally off-base.

I know its not what you meant, but I like you OP, and really hope that life is kind to you and that you find what you're looking for.

 

[Interloper]

Thank you. You seem to be such a kind soul, radiating warmth wherever you are. I wish you good luck.

Putting myself out there despite my (mild) anxiety. Joining a few hobby groups. Dressing better.
None of these worked but I think either I'm doing something wrong or I need to keep doing them for longer.
I'm giving myself 3 years to do everything in my power to improve. If I fail I will ctb.

What do you believe makes you unattractive?
Dressing helped me only a bit, I personally started feeling better after finding a hairstyle that I think fit me better. And also changed from my black rectangular frames to more circular ones. (would have preferred lenses but that was just too much work for me lol) But these are all subjective of course, won't work for everyone. I guess you might have heard these things a 100 times already though.

Working out as mentioned might also help, I know it did for my confidence; I stopped feeling meek. But I got bored of that. (and it was a lot of effort for me)

 

[HappyForever?]

What do you believe makes you unattractive?
Dressing helped me only a bit, I personally started feeling better after finding a hairstyle that I think fit me better. And also changed from my black rectangular frames to more circular ones. (would have preferred lenses but that was just too much work for me lol) But these are all subjective of course, won't work for everyone. I guess you might have heard these things a 100 times already though.

Working out as mentioned might also help, I know it did for my confidence; I stopped feeling meek. But I got bored of that. (and it was a lot of effort for me)

Weird proportions of face (big nose and mouth), short, somewhat boring personality, mild anxiety, low self-esteem.
I have yet to find a good hairstyle, will probably try it in the future.

I'm so sorry OP - I can totally relate to everything you've posted, and I have nothing but sympathy - especially on this shitty day.

I'm impressed with all that you've done to try to improve and I can't help but feel like those might be things that have changed. Self improvement is commendable one of the most difficult things any of us can do.

I don't want to solutionize, but I'd hate to just post hollow words and leaving you to it. Plus I'm a total hypocrite cos I don't follow my own advice, and I'm the last person who should give advice about this relationships, buuuut...

Dating is largely about numbers and the more people you meet the more likely you are to find a connection. There are loads of reasons why people might click or not, and attractiveness is just one of them.

I wonder if you, like me, are putting too much emphasis on your appearance. I mean, I get it - it totally sucks feeling ugly and its 10x worse when other people make us feel that way. However, ugly people get dates and find relationships and get married and so on... there could be another explanation for why you're still single.

It sounds like you've put a good deal of work into improvement "out there", but how about inside? How is your relationship to yourself?

I really hate that BS about "you have to love yourself before anyone else can love you" because its super unhelpful and makes it sound like we're trapped being lonely forever. Of course it comes with the caveat that a relationship wont magically fix you, but I'll give the benefit of the doubt that I suspect you know that already.

I shouldn't project my own issues onto you, but its not uncommon for fear of rejection to hold us back, or for us to feel unworthy of love or affection because of past experiences.

Sorry I hope this helpful and not totally off-base.

I know its not what you meant, but I like you OP, and really hope that life is kind to you and that you find what you're looking for.

I think the reason is a combination of below average appearance, boring personality and not knowing enough girls. The part about fear of rejection is spot on, the majority of my anxiety comes from it.
Thank you for your helpful advice and kind words. I hope everything goes well for you.