Is there anyone you trust?

[!WILL!]

Is there anyone that you trust (in real life, not online) to keep your plans to ctb a secret? I personally don't. It saddens me that when I ctb I won't be able to warn anyone ahead of time but I'd rather keep it to myself than risk being found out.

 

[rationaltake]

I have two friends who know and understand. They are both amazing people. They know me and therefore understand why I want to go. I am very lucky to know them.

 

[idiot_dad]

I told my wife once, but it was too much for her. I've since determined it would be irresponsible for me to kill myself and leave her alone with our children, so I haven't spoken about it with her since then.

 

[everydayiloveyou]

No. I don't talk about this stuff with anyone. I've only told my psychiatrist how bad it can get but i always speak in generalities so that I don't get sectioned.

 

[rationaltake]

I told my wife once, but it was too much for her. I've since determined it would be irresponsible for me to kill myself and leave her alone with our children, so I haven't spoken about it with her since then.

I understand that. I think it might be easier to discuss with friends. It's a different sort of relationship.

 

[ClownMe]

No, I have nobody I trust in real life.

 

[Ness]

It's really hard to know who you can and can't trust with these kind of things, especially irl where telling the wrong person can lead to a lot of problems not just in general between you and others, but also problems for going through with your plans if you decided you want to. I prefer to keep it to myself because I know everyone I know irl would make it almost impossible for me to go through with it, but there seem to be people who do find someone to trust. I guess my general advice is to make sure you know what kind of person they are, what they believe about choices and so on, before inching your way into the subject. And maybe don't go into details, unless you're sure they can take it and won't share further?

 

[ChaseBees]

I wish I could tell my boyfriend. It would be lovely to actually say goodbye. I tend to already say, "I'm going to miss you" so at least I have that.
No one though

 

[lugerepair]

Nope, no one. Which is unfortunate but oh well. I trust some people generally, but not with that specific thing.

 

[NearlyIrrelevantCake]

My best friend.

He died 9 years ago.

 

[Crazy4u]

no one. Even if i do, nobody cares

 

[sfree]

nobody cares

You think there are no individuals who tries to ruin friendships and relationships?

 

[ItsTimeToExit]

Tried it once and got severely punished for it.

 

[Crazy4u]

You think there are no individuals who tries to ruin friendships and relationships?

What I mean is: nobody cares if I try to ctb or stay alive

 

[FuneralCry]

No. I do not trust anybody in general. People can let you down. I keep everything to myself and I think that is for the best. In regards to ctb, others would not accept and understand my decision, they would want me to stay alive for selfish reasons.

 

[Pisceslilith]

Nope, nobody could be trusted in general. I have no one, I am all on my own.

 

[sfree]

When the people who need help, who are poor, are not be trusted, know that the current world is closer for its demise.

 

[VoidDesirer22]

Is there anyone that you trust (in real life, not online) to keep your plans to ctb a secret? I personally don't. It saddens me that when I ctb I won't be able to warn anyone ahead of time but I'd rather keep it to myself than risk being found out.

I do not even remotely trust anyone and I believe my right to die outweighs any misery that it would cause.

 

[Maaizr]

i dont trust a soul, lmfaoo anxiety and paranoia do not allow it

 

[AntHydra]

There is one person who I might be able to trust with it, but he's also the one who could most easily inform my family.
He's struggled with suicidal thoughts to a similar degree to me.
I might tell him. I don't know.
Probably not. Definitely no one else.

 

[Marktheghost]

No. I'll probably tell people the week before that I'm going to kill myself next week, but I won't tell them what day or give details about how.

 

[TheHatedOne]

nope, I don't even trust myself at this point.

 

[Anxieyote]

That's what the suicide note is for. Explain your reasoning afterwards, so there's no chance of being locked up in a psychiatric ward by reactionaries.

 

[forgotten15]

No one. I will leave a note and that's it. I actually wrote it today, just in case i get the courage to end it all. Have reached a certain limit so I am trying to do my best to find a way to ctb by hanging.

 

[arie]

No way, way too risky. And I don't even feel the need to tell anyone. The two friends that I trust the most both have their own struggles going on so I feel like telling them is just cruel

 

[Deleted member 10090]

I trust nobody. I have a hard time trusting in general due to things that have happened to me in the past. it saddens me deeply I won't be able to say an actual goodbye to those I want to. a note will never be enough.

 

[Ash]

No. Not that I actually trust anyone anyway.

Actually puts me in a conundrum as I want to be able to ask a friend and her husband (who my dogs adore) if they'll give them a home but as she knows I've been suicidal in the past, I can't ask her in case it sends up a red flag.

 

[Makko]

I thrust everyone.

 

[motel rooms]

I think it's more than enough to tell the people you trust you're severely depressed/desperate. If they're willing & able to help you, they'll do it; there's no need to mention suicide plans, that never ends well.

I thrust everyone.

You stole that from me & you're not even aware of it

 

[Bone]

there's no need to mention suicide plans, that never ends well.

Yeah, any mention or even implication of this and it goes awry quickly, at least the people I know who haven't been in this place before can't wrap their heads around how to have actual conversations about it. We just aren't there as a society; if the right to die concept progressed further over time eventually the knee-jerk reaction people have to the topic would wane a bit. Not happening anytime soon, though, that's for sure.