I'm ashamed to post this

[x_LittleAmy_x]

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As a 20 year old I feel ashamed to write this but does anybody else feel that they don't want to die a virgin?
Is it weird of me to want to have experienced 'closeness' before I ctb?
Anyone?

 

[Makko]

It's not weird at 20. If you live longer, the feeling will slowly go away.

 

[popcorn]

try not to worry, your only 20 there is plenty of time. some are late bloomers its no real biggy

 

[x_LittleAmy_x]

It's not weird at 20. If you live longer, the feeling will slowly go away.

Are you sure. It has got more as I got older??

 

[notsure04]

I had a friend back in 2012 who said once she was suicidal but bc she was a virgin she couldn't see herself dying. I never had that. I often feel lame knowing I'll ctb without ever having a boyfriend, I never got my license therefore I don't know what driving feels like... A lot of things I didn't do make me feel lame.

 

[WatermelonMel]

I'm ok dying a virgin, also this thread is alright there have been plenty like it, you won't get in trouble.

 

[Makko]

Are you sure. It has got more as I got older??

I felt inadequate about not having relationships when I was 20. I'm 28 now and I don't care at all anymore.

 

[EmbraceOfTheVoid]

I'm 31 and it doesn't bother me. What does bother me is a lack of meaningful relationships.

I don't think you're missing out on anything considering all of the friends I had in the past. They all had twisted relationships where they cheated on their partner and the ones that were single used people as inanimate objects and degraded them behind their back.

 

[x_LittleAmy_x]

I'm 31 and it doesn't bother me. What does bother me is a lack of meaningful relationships.

I don't think you're missing out on anything considering all of the friends I had in the past. They all had twisted relationships where they cheated on their partner and the ones that were single used people as inanimate objects and degraded them behind their back.

Well that's true I wouldn't want all of that drama.

 

[lofticries]

I'm in the same boat. But I mainly wanna lose my virginity because I'm curious/horny.XD For a long time I thought I was asexual until a couple of years ago. Like the thought of me having sex either freaked me out or disgusted me. But only when it came to me since I still consumed porn and other forms of erotica. TMI: Didn't even masturbate until last year. Honestly never felt the need before. Generally was once one of those type of people who were just looking at the aesthetic of sex.

If I were to lose my virginity I'd prefer it to be to a one night stand. The thought of being in a long term or even short term relationship exhausts me. But everyone is different. Regardless of how you lose it make sure its with someone you feel comfortable with and of course always use protection. Also now might not be the time to start hooking up or even dating(unless you wear a mask all through out) since we are in the middle of a pandemic.

 

[A Desperate Fool]

There's nothing to be ashamed of. I was a virgin at 20. I also wanted to experience closeness. It's… nice. Now I'm getting divorced and am more ready than ever to say goodbye to this life.

 

[Trisolaris]

Nothing to be ashamed of. Nowadays, a lot of people don't do it until their 20s.

 

[UterEntonaur]

Is it weird of me to want to have experienced 'closeness' before I ctb?

I think sex and even relationships in general are overrated.

Saying that, I do miss the tactical intimacy of physically being with someone, like cuddles, or holding someone, or being held, or drifting off to sleep together... if you're in the right frame of mind then that stuff hits differently and it's awesome