Venting if you're so clever, why are you on your own tonight?

[lilichka]

hi all, ive been thinking about this ever since i first listened to the smiths,

If you're so funny
Then why are you on your own tonight?
And if you're so clever
Then why are you on your own tonight?

If you're so very entertaining
Then why are you on your own tonight?
If you're so very good looking
Why do you sleep alone tonight?

i find myself asking these same questions a lot to myself every day. people say that im so funny, that im clever, entertaining, good looking - everything. so why am i alone? why is it that at the end of the day its just myself and my thoughts? its not even love that im after, i just want someone to be there for me and to bond with. i dont have anybody i can call and just talk to, nobody whose shoulder i can cry on, nobody i can hold on to. i try to reach out, i try everything to be in people's good graces and when i ask for just a crumb of their companionship and their support, its either that theyre busy or they dont reply, or worse: that im being selfish. i am always there for people when theyre in need, but no one is ever there for me. i am sure a lot of people here feel this way too. i know youre talented and good natured, but we are all still alone. why are we alone when we have so much to offer? is there some sort of malaise to our souls that just naturally repels people? ive been struggling with this kind of crippling loneliness since i was a child and it is fucking killing me. i dont know what to do. ive tried. ive tried so hard.

 

[brokeandbroken]

hi all, ive been thinking about this ever since i first listened to the smiths,

i find myself asking these same questions a lot to myself every day. people say that im so funny, that im clever, entertaining, good looking - everything. so why am i alone? why is it that at the end of the day its just myself and my thoughts? its not even love that im after, i just want someone to be there for me and to bond with. i dont have anybody i can call and just talk to, nobody whose shoulder i can cry on, nobody i can hold on to. i try to reach out, i try everything to be in people's good graces and when i ask for just a crumb of their companionship and their support, its either that theyre busy or they dont reply, or worse: that im being selfish. i am always there for people when theyre in need, but no one is ever there for me. i am sure a lot of people here feel this way too. i know youre talented and good natured, but we are all still alone. why are we alone when we have so much to offer? is there some sort of malaise to our souls that just naturally repels people? ive been struggling with this kind of crippling loneliness since i was a child and it is fucking killing me. i dont know what to do. ive tried. ive tried so hard.

It's a rare friend that's not only there when you are in good times but also bad. Simply put people only want to be there when times are good.

 

[Nervous young man]

I love the smiths, I know this isn't a music thread but you have great taste in music OP :)

 

[SmilingNoMore]

Good question ... maybe you are just too good a human being, or too genuine. I don't know, but lately I just see more fake around me. Like I don't even belong. I feel as if most people play certain "roles" as in they have these jobs and they don't care to take advantage of others. I find less people that I can relate to on a "human" level if there even is such a thing. I don't mean to lash out at the world or make everyone bad, just in general I find more people seem to care less. Why are we alone on here? Well, we have each other, and yes, I think we are different to the ones out there. They've not been where we have to be here, and I'd rather be here with genuine people who care, than out there where I feel I don't belong. And sometimes I wonder if there really are lizard people ... sorry for the rambling.

 

[lilichka]

It's a rare friend that's not only there when you are in good times but also bad. Simply put people only want to be there when times are good.

but then how do these people cope? because i dont think everyone feels the same that you and i do.

I love the smiths, I know this isn't a music thread but you have great taste in music OP :)

you too x

Good question ... maybe you are just too good a human being, or too genuine. I don't know, but lately I just see more fake around me. Like I don't even belong. I feel as if most people play certain "roles" as in they have these jobs and they don't care to take advantage of others. I find less people that I can relate to on a "human" level if there even is such a thing. I don't mean to lash out at the world or make everyone bad, just in general I find more people seem to care less. Why are we alone on here? Well, we have each other, and yes, I think we are different to the ones out there. They've not been where we have to be here, and I'd rather be here with genuine people who care, than out there where I feel I don't belong. And sometimes I wonder if there really are lizard people ... sorry for the rambling.

its sad to think that being a good or genuine human being is such a rare quality these days that being one makes you alien to most people already.

 

[brokeandbroken]

but then how do these people cope? because i dont think everyone feels the same that you and i do.

Most people's aren't in that terrible of a place in life. There's a floor. Drop below the floor doesn't matter why even if it isnt your fault. People leave. People don't want to be in the trenches fighting they'd rather just be around for the good times and hope good times come around for you soon. Also I think the reality is most people in America at least today are pretty alone. Statistically we have significantly less friendships then 30 years ago. There's a loneliness epidemic. Which in turns amplifies this even more.

 

[Nervous young man]

you too x

I'm sorry and your pfp too, impeccable taste.

 

[RinneOfAragon]

I love the smiths, I know this isn't a music thread but you have great taste in music OP :)

I second this ️

 

[shadows_and_silence]

i feel very similarly
people don't usually care, which really hurts, because once you have someone there for you that did care it hurts to not have it anymore

 

[Oublivien]

I don't know how to tell you this, but give up.
Become only reliant on yourself. You'll only be enough when you are already enough for yourself.