I am feeling closer than ever.

[luckycharms101]

My relationship is falling apart right in front of me. The only thing keeping me going right now and he is slipping away. He refuses to do couples counseling with me, makes up excuses about money when it is literally free (thanks to my insurance). I am not going to force him but holy fuck it hurts.

It has been almost 5 months now with no job, no one will hire me. It is killing the relationship even more that I am stuck home all day.
All I can think of is how if he leaves me I will be homeless and jobless.

Our relationship is so good during the summer, but once November hits it's like he is a different person and has no interest in spending time with me. He literally vanishes during our movie nights and I find him playing games on his computer. We don't have sex, go on dates, anything. I feel like I am desperately trying to save us on my own.

It feels so real now, I have no one in my life except him, I have become isolated due to having no job and no money. He pressured me into buying this stupid house that I don't even want, and these animals who I love but he doesn't even take care of them. It's all me, running everything all by myself, and he just comes in and out as he pleases.

I wish I at least had friends, it feels like the moment I am not seeing a person every day they lose all interest in being my friend, and even then I am always plan b.

I know this is just me feeling sorry for myself for a situation I had some control over, it just sucks because in the moment, I think I am doing the right thing.

Anyways, I am setting an ultimatum for myself. If things aren't better by the end of this year, I am done.

 

[SuicidallyCurious]

Your post is very sad and is reinforcement for me for why I never wanted to cohabitate long term

 

[whatevs]

It's a desperate situation when you depend on another person in such a way. Not a lot of people will carry that burden. I have nobody but my family, and I think I can see how much I have taxed my mother, particularly. It seems to me that what normally works is to have "options" and "independence", and distribute your affect, company and misery among different persons.

I have known at least one couple that didn't mind being always together and seemed very prone and comfortable cutting off outside connections, but they were two mentally-ill petty criminals, basically. Not an example of neurotipy, particularly.

 

[VoidDesirer22]

My relationship is falling apart right in front of me. The only thing keeping me going right now and he is slipping away. He refuses to do couples counseling with me, makes up excuses about money when it is literally free (thanks to my insurance). I am not going to force him but holy fuck it hurts.

It has been almost 5 months now with no job, no one will hire me. It is killing the relationship even more that I am stuck home all day.
All I can think of is how if he leaves me I will be homeless and jobless.

Our relationship is so good during the summer, but once November hits it's like he is a different person and has no interest in spending time with me. He literally vanishes during our movie nights and I find him playing games on his computer. We don't have sex, go on dates, anything. I feel like I am desperately trying to save us on my own.

It feels so real now, I have no one in my life except him, I have become isolated due to having no job and no money. He pressured me into buying this stupid house that I don't even want, and these animals who I love but he doesn't even take care of them. It's all me, running everything all by myself, and he just comes in and out as he pleases.

I wish I at least had friends, it feels like the moment I am not seeing a person every day they lose all interest in being my friend, and even then I am always plan b.

I know this is just me feeling sorry for myself for a situation I had some control over, it just sucks because in the moment, I think I am doing the right thing.

Anyways, I am setting an ultimatum for myself. If things aren't better by the end of this year, I am done.

Job hunts are depressing. I think getting some financial stability would allow you to potentially move on from this apathetic person. No sex is hardly a relationship. More like roommates imo.

 

[FuneralCry]

I'm sorry you are going through this. I know that it can be dreadful when everything seems hopeless. People can often be very disappointing and they can let us down. I can imagine it must be painful knowing you are losing what you once had. This life can be very depressing. Whatever happens, I wish you the best.