How do you guys cope when you feel unwanted, useless or hopeless?

[Require_love]

I watch porn. Or cut myself. I'm sure those aren't great coping methods, give me suggestions.

 

[Jadeith]

I'm trying to be useful. To family. If they don't want me - to friends, If i don't have one in need atm - stranger would be good too.
That's my excuse for taking the oxygen.

 

[DivineSpark]

Food and internet. Although, I have my own set of hobbies but I cannot enjoy them when I feel miserable.

 

[Require_love]

Food and internet. Although, I have my own set of hobbies but I cannot enjoy them when I feel miserable.

Same. Every hobby seems dull and boring in those times. I just want to knock myself out if I could in those times.

 

[DivineSpark]

Same. Every hobby seems dull and boring in those times. I just want to knock myself out if I could in those times.

Yeah, anhedonia is really nasty condition.

 

[Require_love]

Yeah, anhedonia is really nasty condition.

Unironically that's a big oof man.

 

[Jadeith]

Yeah, anhedonia is really nasty condition.

Amen to that. What once stirred some positive emotions now is just a burden at best.

 

[Pale_Rider]

I think about suicide, and the time I did it, or times I tried. Im a cry baby about loneliness, because my ailments DID. and PTSD make it very hard for me to even make a freind. Im basically left out in the cold.

 

[hang in there]

I drink.
And I drink, and I drink, and I drink, until I hit the floor and pass out
Sweet nothingness

 

[FoxSauce]

Umm mostly doom scroll and cry and daydream?

Idk how I survive those moments

 

[SecretDissociation]

Cut myself, cry if I have some emotion left in me, stare at a wall while paralysed in bed... Doomscroll... Maladaptive daydream while pacing or listen to music to block out the thoughts

 

[Require_love]

Cut myself, cry if I have some emotion left in me, stare at a wall while paralysed in bed... Doomscroll... Maladaptive daydream while pacing or listen to music to block out the thoughts

I do the exact same things lol, daydreaming feels so comfortable doesn't it

 

[nobody_oac]

When I'm rattling loose and unable to handle the feelings, I also cut. The immediate physical discomfort draws focus. My preferred option is to pop a bunch of benadryl and hope I can sleep for 12-15 hours. When I am functional, doing as much as I can to help, but it doesn't take long for me to start hating myself again.

 

[Message In A Bottle]

I workout hard, and daydream excessively of all the things I probably won't ever get to experience (but still wistfully dream of anyway) or just random fantasies I act out in my head through music.

Plushies also soothe me. Though I wouldn't want to be a plushie if I was them…I give them death choke holds in my sleep. But thankfully, they don't seem to mind.

 

[DeathIsJustAJourney]

My heads been in such a dark place for so long I don't know how I've coped tbh,but recently I saw a thing on TV about mercy & receiving mercy on judgement day and it was a bit of an eye opener for me as I will require some mercy on my judgement day but God says if you show no mercy in life none will be given in return on judgement day,so all my bitterness,anger hate and need for revenge I knew I had to ditch in favour of forgiveness which I did 2 days ago and tbh it's like some huge 1billion tonne weight got lifted off my shoulders,I've had to forgive people for some pretty nasty stuff but in order to save my soul I'm willing to do it and have,so my coping strategy is thinking about the long game,our eternal life when we die and it's made me strive to be a better version of myself which is working pretty good so far

 

[bankai]

I don't think porn is terrible if you watch it once in a while.Not a fan of cutting though, people judge too much. When they see the scars it's definitely going to affect your life,jobs etc.No need to make things even tougher.

 

[trashhologram]

My healthier coping mechanisms are watching YouTube or some good show, playing mobile games and going for a walk if the weather isn't shit.

Not a fan of cutting though, people judge too much. When they see the scars it's definitely going to affect your life,jobs etc.No need to make things even tougher.

I have lots of self harm scars and they haven't affected my life. I've also worked several jobs. Cut the bullshit. No need to make people feel even worse.

 

[GhostInTheMachine]

Ask myself why I feel that way and see if it's a valid train of thought. I have plenty of people who want me, I find myself to be extremely useful to others, and my loved ones all hold out hope for me.

However, I do not want me, I do not find myself useful to me, and I do not hold out hope for myself. I'm basically riding on the ability to feel love for those who love me.

 

[seizmic_purple]

I usually tend to sleep or numb myself somehow.

 

[LostHope556]

I don't think porn is terrible if you watch it once in a while.Not a fan of cutting though, people judge too much. When they see the scars it's definitely going to affect your life,jobs etc.No need to make things even tougher.

Makes sense. I doubt it's a very rational choice though mate. This is coming from someone who hasn't cut though, so maybe I'm just a dumbass

 

[INYGTRMTFMO]

I feel useless a lot, but I've gotten a lot better at "Yeah but anyway..."ing myself to the next minute.

"Yeah, yeah, I'm a worthless idiot, but I'm a worthless idiot who is going to at least take out the trash." "Yeah, yeah, they're going to all realize that I'm an [r-slur] and fire me one of these days, but until then let me send this email."

 

[Griever]

I can't cope with anything anymore

 

[jaefr12]

I rewatch my comfort shows and try to look for something new to be obsessed about. The last show was friendly rivalry.