Discussion How did your mother react when she saw your self-harm scars?

[kittyangelwings]

What was your mother's reaction when she saw your self-harm scars??? My mother cried and cursed at me and beat me

 

[lainsito]

My mom when she first found was shocked, we were outside and until we arrived to our home, she started giving me a whole speech of why I shouldn't do it. The second time she got angrier, and told me that I was ungrateful, but still told me that I shouldn't do it and got send to a profesional.
I am sorry for what your mom did to you, you didn't deserved it.

 

[Blue&Grey]

For me, she saw it once when I was in bed about to pass out. She looked disgusted at me and I believe she left. Later she called my dad, and I believe my dad said only stupid/psychotic people do it. Then sometime later I think she asked, 'Do you still do it?' I believe she also mentioned it once to one of my past psychologists that i barely went to not even two times, but after that she didn't care anymore haha. No talking just pure discomfort. I think she forgot about it its been a while.

 

[FoxSauce]

She didnt yell nor scream but she just said : ok what if I did that to myself? I would feel sad ? (I dont remember the rest) but i dod self harm i think she would say I cant let my emotions get the better of me (which shes right) but i dont tell her or i try to hide it as best I can.

 

[Blueberry Panic]

She never cared

 

[sadbones]

She pretended not to notice.

 

[Lady_V]

She put her hands on my head and started praying for me, I hit them off my head so fast and cursed at her.

 

[astroproto]

Sorry to hear about your experiences.

My mother kept asking if it was from lifting weights lol. Think she caught on recently because she sheepishly told me to stop doing stuff to my wrist.

 

[Pale_Rider]

I dont think she's ever seen them.

 

[Namelesa]

Very concerned and worried and sadabout me and wanted me to stop. Went to then hide all knives and razors but i always kept something to cut with so didn't make any difference. At some point she just accepts me doing it now and doesn't stop me as i said it helps me cope and it isn't to kill myself with.

 

[doomedforsure]

she didnt see it yet

 

[dendritedandruff]

i was wrapped in a towel about to take a shower when she walked by and noticed. she very plainly asked me "what's going on with your arm?", i panicked and just told her not to worry about it while rushing to close the door. heard nothing about it from her after that until i was talking to my sister a couple years later who offhandedly mentioned my mom reaching out to HER and talking to HER all about it for about a week. it makes me think all her neglect was habitual and not personal, like maybe she literally just forgot about it lol

 

[somethingisntreal]

I've forgotten most of it but i think a lot of crying and screaming was involved. Then got told it's just a dumb teenage thing and I'll get over it. Made me strip everyday to check for new wounds. I was clean for a few months but then we both chose to act like it never happened and she probably thinks I've quit

 

[littlecutecorpse]

i mean pretty sure my mom hardly ever took it seriously. when i was younger, once we were done arguing i would overhear her talking to someone on the phone saying: "now she's going to cut herself again and steal my bandaids like a little girl." or idk, something along the lines of that. never spoke directly to me about my sh scars or did anything about it. she just expected it after each argument (which was true, but well, again, she didn't care).

 

[heroingirl]

my dad saw my open cuts once because i hit an artery and panicked and ran downstairs. he panicked which made me panic more and i locked myself in my room. my dad called basically everyone in the family because no one knew what to do. no one could get in. they called my ex and he came over and busted my door down. my ex stayed with me for hours to stop the bleeding. my dad didn't mention it again until about a year later when he saw my scars. he simply just asked why i did it to myself and i didn't know what to say. he called my sister and asked why people do that and she explained that when you grown up in a household that punished you with physical pain, when that stops, it's not too surprising if you find a way to hurt yourself when you need "punishment"