help w suicide note please

[www.NicoIsDead.com]

hi so what should i write on my note to make my parents and sibling less devastated about my death? my sibling said they would Die if i did and im so fucking scared he's actually gonna do something stupid when i die, and i want to prevent that from happening.

someone help please!

 

[Originaldon]

hi so what should i write on my note to make my parents and sibling less devastated about my death? my sibling said they would Die if i did and im so fucking scared he's actually gonna do something stupid when i die, and i want to prevent that from happening.

someone help please!

Why is it stupid of him to do something but not you?

 

[vold3m0r†]

been thinking about the same thing, so i following the thread lol

 

[www.NicoIsDead.com]

Why is it stupid of him to do something but not you?

Because.... because...... . dude i dont fucking know. all i know is i wanna get out of this hellhole forever!!!! i really dont wanna hurt him, but at the same time i need to die.

 

[Originaldon]

Because.... because...... . dude i dont fucking know. all i know is i wanna get out of this hellhole forever!!!! i really dont wanna hurt him, but at the same time i need to die.

I wasn't trying to be hostile there by the way. I'm currently battling with my own mentality and logic and just find the suicidal minds logic interesting.

unfortunately for those of us with family we love this is the hardest obstacle. It sounds callous but the choice you have to make is if your suffering outweighs the guilt. I personally go through deep mental thinking states of picturing what will happen after I go but I also have states of just not caring and feeling like I just want to do it regardless of the consequences. I'm trying to meet it in the middle.

 

[Tomoko]

Ultimately, nothing you can write will make them any less devastated. That's just the sad fact about these things.

 

[FuneralCry]

In the case of my note, I plan to say things that could give them some closure such as 'there is nothing you could have done' and 'now I am at peace'. It will not make them less sad, but it means they will not be left with unanswered questions. I hope it will help the grieving process.

 

[Beau]

In the case of my note, I plan to say things that could give them some closure such as 'there is nothing you could have done' and 'now I am at peace'. It will not make them less sad, but it means they will not be left with unanswered questions. I hope it will help the grieving process.

I think this is a good way of looking at it. I don't want anyone to be haunted by unanswered questions that will make it harder for them to heal. I also want to be very clear about my reasons.

I'm not including this in the note, but honestly, if they were in the same situation as me, I would want them to be able to have the same choice. Maybe that's how I know this is the right thing to do.

 

[ItsTimeToExit]

Ultimately, nothing you can write will make them any less devastated. That's just the sad fact about these things.

True. The point of a note is not to lessen the heart ache because that will happen regardless.

What notes (imo) should aim for is closure and to alleviate responsibility. Don't make the leftovers feel they were responsible for your decision.

Unless you want to hurt them in which case have at it!

 

[toforigivelife]

If you opt to leave a note you'll really have to think it through.

You'll have to cover all of your bases and make it crystal clear that this was no one's fault, no one failed you, that there is NO "if only we had done x, y or z they'd still be here" aspect of the situation, that the decision to end your life was purely your own decision and ask them to accept your decision and to do their best to deal with your passing, heal and live their best life possible.

As someone posted above, there's really no way to make this less painful, but if you feel an explanation might help you will definitely want to go with the theme I described.

 

[damienralph]

Christ I plan on being scathing in mine! You are clearly a better person than me