Venting Having a vagina is a curse and I'm tired of pretending it's not.

[MoralApathy]

A couple years ago there was this website called novni and on it was a thread called "I hate being a girl so much it makes me wanna kms" and I found a couple stories of women who transitioned hoping to feel better and saying it didn't help them. like a month after I found it the whole site got taken down. Next I go to reddit and find similar threads about people hating being cis women and they get belittled, called misogynists and told to just transition. I go to trans men threads and they agree that they feel worthless without a penis but don't wanna say anything. And finally, I search for similar thoughts online and I find a channel with a video where a cis and trans woman were discussing "oppression Olympics" and the cis woman (not disclosing names cuz I don't want people harassing them.) referred to transphobic women not feeling heard or cared about compared to trans women as a "trauma response." Complete with eye rolling and everything. And yet another channel with a video called "transphobic women hate being women." I hate complaining. I hate being vulnerable. But I can't be the only one who feels like im just worthless for being born with a vagina. Regardless of gender. I cant be the only one that feels like cis men and trans women are just more loved (and hated) by society while cis women, trans men and basically anyone with a vagina are just pushed to the side and told to shut up for having feelings. And then men complain about bottling up their emotions. I'm so over this shit man. Phallocentrism is going to kill me and I have no one to talk to about it without being shut down when all I really want is to know how to deal with it. I wanna cry. It feels like women can't have anything while men are allowed to shit on trans men non stop and no one says a fucking word. I'm so over it. I'm over pride. I'm over everything. Shit on me if you want. I'll get used to it. We always do.

 

[MeSauce]

it pains me to see you feeling this way, it sounds like you are deeply troubled by society's treatment of women.
I can't say what will help you, but I can offer my unsolicited 2 cents on the matter. I try not to play the "which sex has it worse" game and try to recognize that both have issues. I have a theory(not my own theory, nor a new one) that society isn't nearly as radicalized as social media and the news portray it as. I feel like there is a silent majority of people living right now that just try to live a good and moral life. the things you've encountered online may not be representative of how most people would respond to you in real life.
but that is just my opinions, and i've learned that logic can explain an emotion without curing it. Your feelings are valid and you don't deserve to suffer like this. I don't have any answers, just my thoughts. I wish you well, take care of yourself. ~<3

 

[violetforever]

I can't be the only one who feels like im just worthless for being born with a vagina

because we see and hear so much that its all women are minimized to and its degrading…

 

[iw2begone]

Trans women reduced to amab, love to see it. (I really don't know where you see that love, all I see is hate towards trans people in general)

Honestly, there is just a lot of hate in the world in general, and it makes me not want to be here. I do hate the fact that a lot of the world does seem to be centered around the cis white male, that much is plain and obvious, but it's not where it ends. The reason you hear all sides bringing up their emotions and blaming the other sides is because we are all in pain, and screaming it out into the void in the hopes that that pain goes to someone else instead.

It's awful, and the only way out of that cycle is to try and put as much optimism back into the world, but it's fucking hard and I struggle to do that also.

 

[dirkw83]

Well. Ten years ago I transitioned (M2F) and then detransitioned. I still have the manboobs to prove it from that experience. I was passing not flawlessly but I was never misgendered, also I was passing very well from voice. And then I detransitioned and now am living as a CIS GUY again. My experience is just like the song, everywhere you go // you always take the weather with you. If you are a cool person, you will end up surrounding yourself with cool people. It doesn't mean you will be happy necessarily, but. Other people won't be the problem. Unless ofcourse you live in a shitass place. That's just my opinion. Both men and women have reasons to complain, not sure how much they should tho. Just my 2 cts. game on.