Having a Crush

[victorisunlucky]

For the first time in my life, I've made steps in actually approaching a girl. For context, both of my previous relationships were initiated by the other party, but i've been single since august and its getting to be really lonely.
I saw a really attractive girl sitting alone in my vector calculus class and spent 2 weeks working up the nerve to actually do something. 2 weeks ago I asked if i could sit next to her, and last Tuesday I complemented a hair wrap she had in (she smiled and said thank you).
These are all firsts for me and it makes me super nervous. I feel like I'm getting my hopes up for nothing, I dont know anything about her really, and i dont really know how/where to take this. It's bittersweet, on one hand, this is the farthest I've gotten on my own terms, on the other, i have no idea what to do.

 

[pointblank]

Keep on flirting and rizzing her

 

[Christian5483]

Keep trying. You have nothing to lose

 

[yehxlder.666]

I feel like I'm getting my hopes up for nothing

Honestly better than having no hope at all. I wish you good luck!

 

[avalokitesvara]

Girls like it when you see them as a person and not just "an attractive girl". Ask her questions about herself, maybe her other classes, how she likes the subjects, what's her major, what are her graduation plans, things like that.

 

[Alexsei]

Good luck dude. Hope it works out.

 

[drakflowerfire]

Good luck!

 

[Ashu]

If you're so dishonest with yourself about what you want from this girl that you're too nervous to even ask her anything about herself, not even her name,

This is ugly.

maybe you should stay well away from her and contemplate suicide like anyone else.

This is urging someone to suicide.

 

[steppenwolf]

This is ugly.

No it isn't. What is ugly is talking on a suicide discussion forum about the hopes you hold for your latest abortive campaign of stalking a strange girl to see how far you can get with her this time.

This is urging someone to suicide.

No it isn't. It's resolving a potentially ugly situation by means of irony.

 

[victorisunlucky]

You introduce yourself and ask her name. Then she's a person and not just someone you're stalking. You volunteer basic information about yourself and ask basic questions like 'Where are you from?' You adapt your questions to things you seem to have in common. Then a conversation starts.

But what do you mean by 'getting your hopes up' and 'this is the farthest I've gotten on my own terms'? What exactly are you hoping for from this girl? How far do you expect to get on your 'own terms' and towards what exactly? And why would it make you 'super nervous'?

If you're so dishonest with yourself about what you want from this girl that you're too nervous to even ask her anything about herself, not even her name, maybe you should stay well away from her and contemplate suicide like anyone else.

Fellas is it stalking to have a class crush? Also, im not going to talk about every single little interaction ive had with this girl on a suicide forum, you're implying things that just are not true. You've been out of the game for 20 years, I don't want advice from you, why even post in the recovery subforum?

 

[rainwillneverstop]

No it isn't. What is ugly is talking on a suicide discussion forum about the hopes you hold for your latest abortive campaign of stalking a strange girl to see how far you can get with her this time.


No it isn't. It's resolving a potentially ugly situation by means of irony.

Please keep in mind this is the recovery sub forum.

 

[Dot]

Fellas is it stalking to have a class crush? Also, im not going to talk about every single little interaction ive had with this girl on a suicide forum, you're implying things that just are not true. You've been out of the game for 20 years, I don't want advice from you, why even post in the recovery subforum?

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[LivingDeadTGirl]

Hey, OP, let me give you advice. Don't put this girl up too high on a pedestal. A lot of girls are just nice and it could look like they're interested when they're really truly just being nice. Only way to know is to ask them out for dinner. If they decline, move on fast. Chances are high they're not into you like that and you will only ever be their friend. You'll get better at it. Do it while you're young.

Also, what Steppenwolf said, and continues to say, is revolting. And while the mods deleted some of his comments, I would prefer to see a temp ban or mute. We have enough toxicity in our lives as it is.

 

[itbelikethat]

I'm happy for you op, I truly am. These feelings are just so wonderful and nice.

But be warned, ive been down this road, twice. You need to assess yourself, do you feel as though you can handle rejection? Do you feel as though you can be fine if things don't work out? If so then go for it, and make sure you keep your head up high and be respectful no matter what happens.

You should be aware of the affects this could have on your mental health, and hers.

Either way I wish you luck.