Have you lived a sheltered life?

[Depressed_Kettle]

Have you lived a sheltered life? I am meaning like little social contact, not travelling much or being lonely in general.

I've missed out on quite a few experiences in life because I have been depressed and had poor social skills. I have mental health issues that have kind of guided my path in life since I was very young. ADHD, OCD, Anxiety disorder and others.

 

[ClownMe]

Ive always had a really sheltered life, not many geuine friends and nobody in my family that I really like (unless were including my dog). I dont think ive missed out on too much though, it's just made me more socially awkward.

 

[BeansOfRequirement]

This isn't shelter, it's death.

 

[forgotten15]

Yes. It was kinda always like that. Because I didn't have friends i missed out on many things in life, except a few periods in highschool/faculty ( when i had some temporary "connections" with people who never really wanted me, but i tried you know). 90% percent of my life i was lonely. And right now i am completely lonely as i have absolutely no friends, just going to work and coming home.

Considering the state life got me to at my current age, I don't even care anymore, to me life means nothing and all I want is to end it. Having friends wouldn't change my perspective on life.
Of course there is a part of me that wished i was 'normal' like others, have friends, get married, but analising my soul and character i know i was not designed for that kinda life. I was designed to become nothing, i was not meant for this place, but right now i lack the courage to ctb.

 

[BrokenHopes]

I have missed out on alot in life. Never had the usual school proms or birthdayparties after the age of 12.
I was in institutions from 13-15 and did not have a normal adolecense at all.
I did have friends and went to some parties though.
From 23 to 30 I was totally isolated due to ptsd. Just in contact with a couple of people like my mom and counselars.
From 31 I worked on getting out more and break my isolation. But I had developed severe social anxiety and the ptsd still and forgotten how to be around people. The journey has been mostly hell, with some progress here and there. I can not be natural around other people and certainly not in groups, high anxiety and hypervigilance. Which makes it very difficult to make friends.

 

[Shadowplay]

Yeah my depression and anxiety robbed me of a lot, my mother who was super strict and sent me to a school I hated did her part. In may ways life passed me by, but when you are struggling with depression and anxiety getting by is all you can do. Hopefully once I CTB my family will understand that, to some degree at least.

 

[apathetic.]

Y'all going out? 0.0

I've rarely been outside because both my parents especially my father forbid us to go out or else he'll yell at us or punish us. Not even for school. His reasonings were " you guys will get kidnapped" or some other bs excuse. It's been 20 Years and I have seen very little of outside. No outing, no vacations, no going to the shopping, nothing. It's depressing.

 

[mentalhealthfighter]

I've been isolating myself for years. I'm starting to avoid people now because they always hurt me. I guess I will be alone for the rest of my life.

 

[FuneralCry]

Yes, I barely ever leave the house. I have never achieved or accomplished anything in my life. I have spent a lot of my life being unwell. My existence is very depressing and empty. I do not speak to anyone apart from family members. I do not have friends. I am very introverted. Of course I have not had many life experiences, like I have not travelled and things like that. I do not want to. All I want is to be free from existence. I just want to be nothing.

However I was in education when I was a teenager and even know it has been many years at this point, I still have all the awful memories. Of course I failed at that as I have very low intelligence. It is better for me to stay away from people. People can be very cruel.

 

[aBLEACHyindividual]

Yeah, I don't know how to do much things on my own. Mostly due to my parents tho. Never taken a train or rode on a bus (except for a school one) on my own without. Never really had any friends, still don't.

 

[fox_wannabe]

Father used to call me weird and asocial. Mom called me introverted and special.

I just learnt that humans are not good, violent and hostile towards me and my fragile, less masculine persona. It was learnt behavior.

I still do not see reason why to be around people. I can try to befriend them, which is something you can learn, and It can take maybe year or two. Being on online chatrooms and voice chats is the start, bonus points if it is some kind off competitive video game, you can learn group dynamics and accomplishing tasks. Like real life simulation. It is quite easy tbh, just need to find kind people. I still can communicate quite well.

I still do stray rom humans and they stray away from me. It is easier that way. Not everybody has to be social.

 

[apathetic.]

Yeah, I don't know how to do much things on my own. Mostly due to my parents tho. Never taken a train or rode on a bus (except for a school one) on my own without. Never really had any friends, still don't.

Can relate

 

[Darkmoon Queen]

Yeah, I have. None of my friends were any good, romantic relationships were suffocating and abusive, work was patchy. I tried to resolve these things by joining various classes, volunteering, going on city breaks but ultimately it just all feels meaningless and fragmented.

 

[Hurt]

Have you lived a sheltered life? I am meaning like little social contact, not travelling much or being lonely in general.

Yes. You have just described my life.

 

[demuic]

For 99% of my life I have been alone and isolated with little contact outside of my family. It was all due to circumstances outside of my control but it left a permanent mark on my psyche, I've had social anxiety that developed in elementary school and has never gotten better. Never traveled many places due to my family. Never went out much or did much like other people seemed to do, even though I wanted to, I couldn't. I have been and continued to be sheltered and it lead to a feeling of being trapped that I've felt all my life, which lead to the desire to want to escape, at first just where I live but now to escape life itself.

Life has been very empty to me. Even if I was able to do the things I missed out on the past no, it would be meaningless as I've lost any ability to enjoy most things. I've been damaged beyond repair.