NSFW Have anyone here has been stalked or experience anything similar?

[FoxSauce]

Hello! Just a little discussion

Just general curiosity has any of you have been a victim of stalking? How did you deal with the afteemath afterwards?


Ofc if anyone is being followed is important to report it. No dont ever think it was your fault or thinking if have done something else everything would turn out differently.

Im aware that stalking is not taken as serious as it should. And yes I that both men can be stalked as any other gender.


anyhow feel free to tell your thought or story or anything

Hope yall have a great day! ♡


Edit: I did have a few experiences, one was in elementary school with an autistic kid I think. I have nothing against with people on the spectrum but he used to stalk me and my sisters for some odd reason I'd never knew why. He would chase us, stare, one time he choked us with a seat belt. We'll a woman who had her personal business would pick us up. He wouldn't let us leave in our drop off to the point I tried to protect my sisters but I got pinned down on the floor after a chase. Ofc I didnt report it beacuse I thought I was to blame and well he was on the spectrum so I felt guilty.

Another time in elementary school with another kid and then in highschool he was really weird but ig now he's cool.

As aftermath left me pretty scared people didn't take me seriously not even my parents so I would be super paranoid to say no or offended anyone a still don't like when people grab my wrist. But I guess that's in the pass

 

[Unhumanly.]

I've been stalked, not in the most extreme extent, people are just curious to dig something out of my life to judge and spread a rumors about when it comes to my life, but only I can tell if what they investigated out of their assumption on me is true or is it just an assumption, at least they'll never knew

Although it's not too extreme, it's definitely so irritating, I wish people actually start seeing me for who I am in what I'm willing to share, instead of inventing me through their assumptions and painting bad image of me

 

[LostLily]

Had a friend who wanted to date me. And kept insisting that we date, even though I told him I just wanted to be friends. It got creepy, he kept calling me, I blocked his number and he showed up at my house.

 

[identity0]

I was. Mentally ill guy that did all sorts of disturbing things including steal my phone, lurk outside my house. Police locked him up overnight once. Not sure what you mean about the aftermath. Mentally i think it made me more paranoid, have a strong desire for privacy, have nightmares about it etc. Several people told me they thought he might kill me one day and i wonder if he'll randomly turn up

 

[AdultVirgin]

well I haven't been the victim.....

 

[FoxSauce]

I was. Mentally ill guy that did all sorts of disturbing things including steal my phone, lurk outside my house. Police locked him up overnight once. Not sure what you mean about the aftermath. Mentally i think it made me more paranoid, have a strong desire for privacy, have nightmares about it etc. Several people told me they thought he might kill me one day and i wonder if he'll randomly turn up

Well as aftermath I mean like you said after it happened

well I haven't been the victim.....

Thats totally alright tho..I sense something else tho. Sorry for being foward

well I haven't been the victim.....

Thats totally alright tho..I sense something else so. Sorry for being foward

 

[Forever Sleep]

I can understand why you didn't want to report him but still, that sounded so scary. Really though- even if they aren't 'at fault', that doesn't mean they're not dangerous. Isn't there that phrase: 'A dog that bites is a dog that bites.' It likely is good to examine why to try to prevent the behaviour in that and other similar offenders. It's not much consolation though if someone does actually get hurt or, even killed.

I've often wondered that. How do they balance personal freedom and risk? Obviously, it can't be nice for a person to be locked up in an institution. The ideal I imagine is for them to live in the community. Still, when they get risk assessment wrong, the consequences can be dire. I can recall two instances where I used to live where things went terribly wrong. Not stalking. In this case, a very bad arson and an axe murder.

Personally no, luckily nothing severe at all. Just the fairly tame social media weidos and likely romance scammers.

 

[Griever]

I had a stalker

 

[bankai]

No, I've not had any stalkers. But then the really good ones are the ones that you wouldn't know about. Something to think about, scary though it might seem.

 

[RoseGirl]

Had a friend who wanted to date me. And kept insisting that we date, even though I told him I just wanted to be friends. It got creepy, he kept calling me, I blocked his number and he showed up at my house.

Had a similar experience, i hooked up w this guy for like 2 weeks then ghosted him and after i blocked him he ended up coming to my house 2 days in a row and sat outside for like several hours. The first time i wasn't home so he sat there for 3 hours, he was talking abt it on discord lol so that's how i know. Then the second time i was home w my gf and he like knocked on my window... Super scary tbh... i had to like talk to him and tell him that he should go find someone else.

My girlfriend also cyber stalks me and i basically can't say anything online without there being a reasonable chance of her finding it. Even on 4 chan too lol. + she had access to my discord account for some time and would look at everything i'd send to anyone. Never told me abt it tho till i was being a whore w some guy while she wasn't texting me and uhm she like sent them a message from my account. Oh and changed my password too.

 

[psp3000]

I thought I was being cyberstalked by someone on this forum

but I think all of the things that made me think this were just coincidences or I hope they were just coincidences

I don't think I am being cyberstalked now or ever was to begin with and that I was just paranoid

well I am not sure to be honest because I can't think of the reasons why someone would do that to me of all people

and I wouldn't know how they would even do that

 

[Dyingoportunity]

I figure I must have been back in middle school, considering the guy that COCSA'd me couldn't have possibly known where I lived and assaulted me in my own bed if he wasn't. It freaks me out because not only did I take the public bus and he could have easily made an excuse to board the bus I took to see when I got off, but there was also a black truck that followed me home that even to this day I don't know for certain if that was him or not.

 

[Thekla]

I'm not hot enough for that!

 

[FoxSauce]

I'm not hot enough for that!

Yes! I fr thought the same thing but fr it can happen to anyone regardless. I really hope you dont get to experience it.

 

[cemeteryismyhome]

I was going to say something like "if it's an attractive killer, sign me up" but after reading and re-reading what you and others wrote here, it's not funny. It makes me sad and angry to read what you had to endure.

 

[RoseGirl]

If their attractive (my girlfriend) sign me up ^w^

 

[kotonearisato]

I was stalked by one of my closest online friends a few years back... well the stalking started a few years back and as far as I am aware is finally over... we'll see. Thankfully it wasn't too extreme, but still made me feel so uncomfortable. We'd been extremely close for 5+ years, and they were a few years younger than me so we had a bit of a big sister/younger sibling relationship. Long story short I broke off the friendship when they started dating a neo nazi.... they apparently didn't take this well considering for 3 years straight they would continue to try and contact me in every way known to mankind, including making new accounts and trying to contact my husband and all my friends.

 

[soledad.virgen]

ive been cyberstalked cause people get enamored/enraged when they think im a very opinionated girl, when in reality im just a sensitive young man (male bpd)

more i think about it i didn't really care, i kinda egged them on just cause i knew they were mad at me. now, if a cute girl was stalking me that'd be a different, and much more desirable situation of course, but im self isolating these days so that will never happen

 

[lionetta12]

Hello! Just a little discussion

Just general curiosity has any of you have been a victim of stalking? How did you deal with the afteemath afterwards?


Ofc if anyone is being followed is important to report it. No dont ever think it was your fault or thinking if have done something else everything would turn out differently.

Im aware that stalking is not taken as serious as it should. And yes I that both men can be stalked as any other gender.


anyhow feel free to tell your thought or story or anything

Hope yall have a great day! ♡


Edit: I did have a few experiences, one was in elementary school with an autistic kid I think. I have nothing against with people on the spectrum but he used to stalk me and my sisters for some odd reason I'd never knew why. He would chase us, stare, one time he choked us with a seat belt. We'll a woman who had her personal business would pick us up. He wouldn't let us leave in our drop off to the point I tried to protect my sisters but I got pinned down on the floor after a chase. Ofc I didnt report it beacuse I thought I was to blame and well he was on the spectrum so I felt guilty.

Another time in elementary school with another kid and then in highschool he was really weird but ig now he's cool.

As aftermath left me pretty scared people didn't take me seriously not even my parents so I would be super paranoid to say no or offended anyone a still don't like when people grab my wrist. But I guess that's in the pass

After I told my mom as a kid about how my dads wife and her son had been raping and abusing me since I was a toddler, I told her I didn't want to visit them anymore or see these people again. Mom reported it to police who then took it to court. My dad started showing up at my moms house several times, for hours at a time, just sitting outside our house, watching and waiting for me to leave the house. He'd stand outside the door sometimes and at least 3 times when I tried to walk to school, he'd follow me and then try to convince me to come with him. I stopped going to school for almost a year due to that and I stopped going outside. Mom refused to report that because she still wanted him to pay her child support regardless of the outcome of the court case so that she could keep spending that money on partying I guess. She even tried to force me to meet him just so that I could potentionally ask him for more money for her, which I was forced to do a couple times against my will during that on-going court case. I ended up with PTSD nightmares almost nightly about this for 13 years as a result. His wife who abused me still try to google my name and try to find photos of me despite the fact that I am in my mid 20's now so I have had to change my name and also had to have private social media accounts for many years because it creeped me out that my sexual abusers are trying so hard to find photos of me. I was the front representative for a big company here a couple or so years ago and so I had to have a active Twitter and Linkedin for business, one day I see that they had viewed my profile and I instantly made the profile hidden as a result and started deleting my work Twitter, changed my name on Linkedin so they can't find me anymore. It's been 15 years since the court case but that lady and her son still wants to see photos of me, very bizzare, and my dad is still married to her.

The second stalker incident was a bipolar type 1 guy who would create new accounts every day, I'm not talking about 1 account, I'm talking about 10-20 accounts a day on various platforms, for 5 or so years. The reason for it was that I said I don't like him anymore and I want to focus on my family and on getting good grades in high school so I can go to a good college, but he wouldn't let me do that. He threatened to spread photos of me if I didn't do what he told me to so I was forced to do a bunch of stuff and waste my teen years on things that I had zero interest in. He would put my photos as profile picture on these new accounts and pretend he was me and then add people I knew while pretending to be me? And he would add me with those accounts too to show me that he is spreading the photos for people to see. I'd block 1 account and then 10 more accross the next hours popped up. Since the guy wasn't taking his meds and refused to listen to his parents, his parents started getting scared of him as he became violent towards them physically on a daily basis and even contacted me to tell me to unblock him and to be with him because "they cannot handle him", like ok but he's not my child, he's YOUR child, what is the logic here? I was a 16 year old trying to go to school and that was it, not raise another person who was fortunate enough to have 2 parents, something I didn't even have at that time. I had a new boyfriend eventually who I told the story to and he dealt with the situation for me. The last message he sent me was when I was 21, he said I was a "cumsock" for some reason (he would send very random spam insults every day) and I sent a photo of one of the guys who helped me and he then blocked me everywhere as a result and never spoke to me again because he was scared of this person and didn't even know that I was friends with them still. I had moved abroad so I didn't really feel scared anymore so that's why I sent that photo and I was surprised and happy that this is what stopped everything from continuing.

 

[FoxSauce]

After I told my mom as a kid about how my dads wife and her son had been raping and abusing me since I was a toddler, I told her I didn't want to visit them anymore or see these people again. Mom reported it to police who then took it to court. My dad started showing up at my moms house several times, for hours at a time, just sitting outside our house, watching and waiting for me to leave the house. He'd stand outside the door sometimes and at least 3 times when I tried to walk to school, he'd follow me and then try to convince me to come with him. I stopped going to school for almost a year due to that and I stopped going outside. Mom refused to report that because she still wanted him to pay her child support regardless of the outcome of the court case so that she could keep spending that money on partying I guess. She even tried to force me to meet him just so that I could potentionally ask him for more money for her, which I was forced to do a couple times against my will during that on-going court case. I ended up with PTSD nightmares almost nightly about this for 13 years as a result. His wife who abused me still try to google my name and try to find photos of me despite the fact that I am in my mid 20's now so I have had to change my name and also had to have private social media accounts for many years because it creeped me out that my sexual abusers are trying so hard to find photos of me. I was the front representative for a big company here a couple or so years ago and so I had to have a active Twitter and Linkedin for business, one day I see that they had viewed my profile and I instantly made the profile hidden as a result and started deleting my work Twitter, changed my name on Linkedin so they can't find me anymore. It's been 15 years since the court case but that lady and her son still wants to see photos of me, very bizzare, and my dad is still married to her.

The second stalker incident was a bipolar type 1 guy who would create new accounts every day, I'm not talking about 1 account, I'm talking about 10-20 accounts a day on various platforms, for 5 or so years. The reason for it was that I said I don't like him anymore and I want to focus on my family and on getting good grades in high school so I can go to a good college, but he wouldn't let me do that. He threatened to spread photos of me if I didn't do what he told me to so I was forced to do a bunch of stuff and waste my teen years on things that I had zero interest in. He would put my photos as profile picture on these new accounts and pretend he was me and then add people I knew while pretending to be me? And he would add me with those accounts too to show me that he is spreading the photos for people to see. I'd block 1 account and then 10 more accross the next hours popped up. Since the guy wasn't taking his meds and refused to listen to his parents, his parents started getting scared of him as he became violent towards them physically on a daily basis and even contacted me to tell me to unblock him and to be with him because "they cannot handle him", like ok but he's not my child, he's YOUR child, what is the logic here? I was a 16 year old trying to go to school and that was it, not raise another person who was fortunate enough to have 2 parents, something I didn't even have at that time. I had a new boyfriend eventually who I told the story to and he dealt with the situation for me. The last message he sent me was when I was 21, he said I was a "cumsock" for some reason (he would send very random spam insults every day) and I sent a photo of one of the guys who helped me and he then blocked me everywhere as a result and never spoke to me again because he was scared of this person and didn't even know that I was friends with them still. I had moved abroad so I didn't really feel scared anymore so that's why I sent that photo and I was surprised and happy that this is what stopped everything from continuing.

Omg im so sorry that happened to you. Those experiences sounds terrible, I'm terribly sorry

 

[bankai]

Around 15 years ago when I was finishing my night shift and leaving office, I had a female co-worker also leaving at the same time. I lived nearby so I went home by walk. She also lived nearby and was walking ahead of me lol.I think you know where this is going.

She was walking quite a bit ahead of me and I was walking behind her. I always had the habit of walking really fast

So yes, I was walking behind her and I just knew as I was walking behind her that she's going to freak out because it was like, really dark out around 5:00 AM in the morning. I still recall how she was looking back at me,oh boy

In the end I I walked really fast and overtook her and she let out like a weird gasp of fear.I don't blame women for being so freaked out though. It's messed up that they have to live in fear like this.

 

[niceday]

In my experience, if you tell such people seven times "I don't want to see you in my life," they won't understand anything and will keep living in their own imaginary world. The most important thing is not to be born to parents like that.
Sigh.