Has anyone been able to convince parents/loved ones to accept their suicide.

[YourLocalSadGirly]

I've been able to convince both my friend and shockingly my therapist to accept my death. I was wondering if anyone had tried convincing their parents or other loved ones like this. If so, how did it go? Did it work out for you? Any tips or warnings I should know about? Thanks for reading this hope you have a lovely day <3.

 

[OnMyLast Legs]

Does this happen to be a Belgian therapist? I've pretty much told my dad I'm gonna ctb, he tells me not to but he won't be surprised. With my mom it would pointless, she's too silly

 

[kitty.iceFS]

how did you convince them? what did you say?

 

[IDontKnowEverything]

I'm not open about any of it. Delaying to, as I don't have a due date. I'm actively trying to get better and don't want anyone to think of stuff like that when talking to me. That would make me a lot worse. People aren't that thoughtful usually and it would be mostly in my head anyway. But I'm not really fine with that being a part of their knowledge.
It's always the "but what if I just die of natural causes instead"? Why add that weight for them.

Spoiler: Unhealthy way of thinking I don't wish to apply to any of you:

I'm not that selfish.

I always speak up for others, but never speak up for my own sake.
I can't say I regret it, but when I cry alone, I do often wish I told at least one person. I am so tired of going on and on and on. Others make staying alive seem so easy.
I don't have an answer for you at all, best I can do is bump this thread. I will camp here to read what the others have to say however if that is alright.

how did you convince them? what did you say?

Wish to know as well.
Any ways to make them just.. accept it?, just understanding, respecting, maybe giving me a hug before the end, before moving on?

 

[YourLocalSadGirly]

Does this happen to be a Belgian therapist?

No I'm American. He's still trying to 'save me' but I think that he's accepted that it's not going to happen without some kind of miracle lol.

how did you convince them? what did you say?

For my friend, I've told her I've been suicidal for a while, and that I've thought it through and don't want to be alive anymore. She's known me for many many years and has also been very suicidal so I think she understands that since I've been thinking about it for so long I won't be convinced otherwise. I think a major part of why she was able to accept it is because my girlfriend died and she feels sorry for me lol.

For my therapist, I appealed to both emotional and reason. I basically told him that I'm suffering and I have no hope of things ever getting better, and also since I live in America everything I do to live takes away from other people and that I'm basically a drain on the whole world by just existing. And I you know talked about my experiences and why they lead me to believe the things I do. Also I told him I wanted to quit therapy so I guess he just accepted there was nothing he could do about it (I didn't tell him this until after the session).

I think in general it's much less about what I said and rather how I said it that was able to convince them. Basically I just communicated everything very logically and thoroughly. I talked through every reason why I feel suicidal or what events lead me to believe the way I do. Idk I'm trying to be vague because I don't feel like spilling my whole life story in this thread but if it's not enough detail I'm sorry.

 

[AcuteToxicity]

I made a friend two years ago and at the beginning of our relationship I said, "I will kill myself someday, you cannot stop me or convince me otherwise. If you can accept that, I would love to be your friend for the time I have left."

They said, "deal," and they have been a very good friend.

 

[Goyasan]

I'm genuinely shocked!
I truly, and honestly, believed that it is truly and honestly impossible to convince your parents to allow yourself to die unless you're in an extreme situation such as a terminal illness that is causing intense physical anguish that is visible. Unfortunately, no matter how much you explain and express mental and emotional pain simply cannot be truly understood or translated 1:1. It's because of that, and as messed up as it sounds but to no fault of them, that your parents and/or loved ones wouldn't take it seriously.
I don't mean "wouldn't take it seriously" in the sense that they are looking down upon you or don't believe you but I mean in the sense that they wouldn't be able to grasp how utterly painful and/or empty it is for you to go about living to the point that you wish to end it all. It simply doesn't translate because they can't be you. They only have the ability to empathize to the extent they can manage. Personally, I wouldn't have done it. You can provide some closure such as a note or scheduled email for when you do CTB but I don't think you should expect your loved ones to accept that you want to kill yourself.

 

[kilowatt]

My family isn't involved but some friends I have are pretty accepting of my wishes. I believe that's just mere luck as most of the other people I've met were very icked by the topic.

 

[Bat12]

I've been able to convince both my friend and shockingly my therapist to accept my death. I was wondering if anyone had tried convincing their parents or other loved ones like this. If so, how did it go? Did it work out for you? Any tips or warnings I should know about? Thanks for reading this hope you have a lovely day <3.

Only those who can understand what you are feeling can accept it. Those who do not understand suicide, can never know the radiance of it.