Help guilt tripping. im sick of it.

[untothedepths]

refer to title. This is a major problem for me. This is something that is a huge weakness. I'm a people pleaser due to how i was raised most likely, so anytime someone i was moderately familiar of does it I already begin to just go with what they want. Mostly because - 1. i dont know whats best, im a child in an adult body i guess. 2. I get an overwhelming feeling of guilt/remorse/feel like i fuck up all the time. Im convinced i must have done something wrong and i must try to fix it, but im trying to break this so i have some fucking ego instead of none. im sick of being a doormat, please send help. I cant control my emotions so im trying, attempting, to use rationality.

 

[Life_and_Death]

im trying to break this so i have some fucking ego instead of none. im sick of being a doormat, please send help. I cant control my emotions so im trying, attempting, to use rationality.

i believe in you
i personally find working on anything healing related (physical or mental) to be like carving a statue from stone. it doesnt look like much at first. youre going to take away one small chip at a time and feel like youre getting no where. and every now and again a break to admire your work or just rest is ok as well.
i hope your determination sees you through

 

[cherrylace]

maybe take baby steps
write down what you would like to happen during an interaction with someone and write down what has often happened or usually happens between you and them
see what you can do to voice what you would like to happen during a hypothetical conversation "it would make me pleased if we could do ... " or "i would really like if we can do ... "
it can take time and repeated attempts and can sometimes feel like taking steps backward but journal and see how your feelings about voicing what you want changes over time