father said he will die if I ctb

[Nymph]

I was once talking to my dad about something and later said something along the lines "I won't be there for that anyways/I will be gone" hinting that I'm gonna ctb. He said that if I ever ctb it wound destroy his life because everything he does is for me. I feel really bad, I love my parents but they started it anyways. They decided to have a child. I did not want to live. How do I deal with this? I'm afraid my dad might also ctb and then even my mom if I ctb.

 

[cantgetoutofbed]

I understand where you're coming from. I only wish I had parents that felt that way about me. But even more so....wish I knew how to CTB without throwing myself off of a parking structure or something. I have no access to a gun. Tried partial, full, didn't work.

 

[Nymph]

I understand where you're coming from. I only wish I had parents that felt that way about me. But even more so....wish I knew how to CTB without throwing myself off of a parking structure or something. I have no access to a gun. Tried partial, full, didn't work.

I wish they didn't so I could ctb without thinning how much it will impact them. And about the method, have u considered SN?

 

[cantgetoutofbed]

I wish they didn't so I could ctb without thinning how much it will impact them. And about the method, have u considered SN?

Yes, of course, but don't know how to obtain it.

 

[deadgirlahsatan]

U shouldn't feel guilty . U never asked to be born.

 

[SoIntoYou]

Sounds like you have a family that cares. Am I wrong? What's your story?

 

[Disco Biscuit]

Wow, you're lucky that you're loved. My parents died and my world has no love in it.

 

[darkghost]

My parents told me that too, and although i love them, i don't care. I didn't ask to be born

 

[Raminiki]

Everyone is right in saying you didn't ask to be born, but you are fortunate to have family who cares for you and wish to help. Many aren't given that lot in life. Maybe your father could provide some support to lessen the burdens if you're able to communicate your needs to him.

It seems a lot of people hinge their happiness and success in life on having children and giving them a better life than they had themselves. They put all their hopes into their progeny, and they will perceive it as their own failing if that child goes on to ctb.

While that is admirable in many ways, it's also naive. Children have no responsibility to glorify their parents. They are themselves, not trophy objects, and should be respected as such. Your life is yours alone, and you should objectively decide what you want for yourself.

People who aren't fulfilled in life should think twice before trying to fill the hole by creating more life. They're risking the same unfulfillment for their children for the compensation of having them. The problem is not with themselves, but the environment they exist in, and adding more life to that environment is unlikely to be of benefit.

 

[Eurus]

Suffering the same worries,my dad loves me and if I go,I don't know what he would do,and I do not want to go just to have him go right behind me which is something I worry he would do,so....I wait.

 

[Zappfe lover]

U shouldn't feel guilty . U never asked to be born.

As an antinatalist, logic dictates that I shouldn't feel guilty... but I still do.

Funny how little control we have over our feelings.

 

[rhiino]

He said that if I ever ctb it wound destroy his life because everything he does is for me.

It is awful to say guilt-tripping stuff like that. The one thing he did that was not for you is getting a child, because people do that for their own sake. I also say that in regards to myself; when I ask why I was born my parents always tell lots of selfish stuff, everything was about them when it came to the decision to get kids.

People who aren't fulfilled in life should think twice before trying to fill the hole by creating more life. They're risking the same unfulfillment for their children for the compensation of having them. The problem is not with themselves, but the environment they exist in, and adding more life to that environment is unlikely to be of benefit.

This is worded so nice, I absolutely agree with that.

As an antinatalist, logic dictates that I shouldn't feel guilty... but I still do.

Funny how little control we have over our feelings.

Me too. It shows how much emotions and rationality are apart.

 

[Zhontafly]

That's his decision to make regardless, so don't let him make you feel guilty! He's trying to make you feel responsible for the supposed action he will take upon you taking yours.
Though even if he really means it, in that case he can be done with all his suffering in life, thus that should put him in a place of gratitude and relief. You could tell him to say, Thank You son for showing the error of my ways and ending my shit life of pointless suffering and probably idiotic game playing.

Got checkmate on ya Dad! Any other bullshit games you want to get schooled on?

My mom pulled this same shit with me recently when I simply let her know that this suffering im going through is immense and I might have to CTB (dont want to have to). Then she acted like it meant that I loved her less. Games Games Games people play. Still love ya mom, but I'm calling ya an asshole on that! Wanting me to go on suffering beyond what i can tolerate. THE NERVE!


Also notice that they likely wouldnt feel this way if you died from, ahem, 'natural causes or unavoidable accident'. Be sad for them still maybe, but their lives would go on. But when you want to kill yourself suddenly and now he has to die too and maybe your mom as well?
Even if their love is true their mental fitness seems to be under par.

 

[KleinerWolf]

If you've spent the time and exhausted all potential resources trying to solve your current issues, you will definitely know about it.
Besides, Guilt tripping is only effective till the individual reach his/her own limit.

Nobody is invincible, we all have limits.
As long as you are of sound mind and without it being impulsive, it's not really classified as a tragedy.

TLDR:
If something is right for you, you will definitely know about it.

 

[Nymph]

Everyone is right in saying you didn't ask to be born, but you are fortunate to have family who cares for you and wish to help. Many aren't given that lot in life. Maybe your father could provide some support to lessen the burdens if you're able to communicate your needs to him.

It seems a lot of people hinge their happiness and success in life on having children and giving them a better life than they had themselves. They put all their hopes into their progeny, and they will perceive it as their own failing if that child goes on to ctb.

While that is admirable in many ways, it's also naive. Children have no responsibility to glorify their parents. They are themselves, not trophy objects, and should be respected as such. Your life is yours alone, and you should objectively decide what you want for yourself.

People who aren't fulfilled in life should think twice before trying to fill the hole by creating more life. They're risking the same unfulfillment for their children for the compensation of having them. The problem is not with themselves, but the environment they exist in, and adding more life to that environment is unlikely to be of benefit.

My dad has his own mental issues and I can't talk to him about my issues otherwise he will be extremely paranoid. I already tried it and it ended badly. It is quite complicated so I don't want to get into it but I know for sure talking to my dad about it is not a good idea. And my mother doesn't want to understand me and thinks I do everything just to make her life more miserable and that I'm faking everything... so that's cool

As an antinatalist, logic dictates that I shouldn't feel guilty... but I still do.

Funny how little control we have over our feelings.

Yeah I'm also an antinatalist so I feel you