Does therapy actually work for people

[ijwtd3454]

Not sure if I'm just insanely fucked up and so I can't be helped but I don't understand how therapy works for people. Every time I get told to be my own therapist or look at my morning cup of coffee as therapy or whatever i try but in the back of my mind is always about how I want to die. Every time I am told that it will get better I want to stab my eyes out I don't want a future I just want to die I do not give a single shit about living. I just feel like no amount of deep breathing, reflection, and positive thinking will eliminate the suicidal thoughts. Don't think this made any sense but I just needed to rant

 

[Secro]

I believe it helps people who are easily influenced by others and who want to.

 

[Canto XIII]

Not sure if I'm just insanely fucked up and so I can't be helped but I don't understand how therapy works for people. Every time I get told to be my own therapist or look at my morning cup of coffee as therapy or whatever i try but in the back of my mind is always about how I want to die. Every time I am told that it will get better I want to stab my eyes out I don't want a future I just want to die I do not give a single shit about living. I just feel like no amount of deep breathing, reflection, and positive thinking will eliminate the suicidal thoughts. Don't think this made any sense but I just needed to rant

I don't understand, are you asking about actual mental health therapy, the one you do with a psychologist or a psychiatrist, or personal tecniques which are supposed to work as a form of metaphorical self-therapy?

 

[Afterglow]

The people who tell you this kind of stuff are also probably the non-chronically depressed type, and think that depression just means you're a bit sad.

Real therapy requires actual degrees and studying. It absolutely is a real thing, these people who are "coaching" you and just say "smile " are worthless to listen to.

And if an actual licensed therapist is telling you this shit, they need to lose their fucking job.

 

[westerly_merlin]

I found therapy was good to understand the "why I am where I am now and what happened to get me here".

I get a psychotherapist can't fix me, but it was helpful in coming to terms with myself and how I feel.

 

[Minfilia]

if i were to answer the same question 2 years ago, i would've said no. but i realized it's way more nuanced than that.
i've been picked up and getting dropped by therapists constantly like a basketball which has made me quite bitter.
but one time i had the pleasure of having someone who didn't see me as a list of diagnoses and lost opportunities. i was skeptical when meeting him, ready for the "it will get better", "how about going outside and trying exercise" and "have you tried increasing your medication". the typical. i've always been seen as a difficult case.
he ended up being the best and kindest person i've met in healthcare, even when i came in all bloodied and suicidal from my relapses. i was so emotionally constipated that i didn't even know how to cry even if i wanted to. he got fired by the healthcare because of his kindness. our last appointment ended up to me sobbing and hugging him, because i didn't want for him to leave.

while it did not fix or heal me, such an encounter was like a blessing.
so does it work work? i don't know. but he made me think about things differently, starting from "how does this make me feel and why do i feel this way".
i always talk so much in my replies, forgive me.

 

[TheHangman]

It has never done anything for me that a sympathetic friend could not do.

 

[DeathSweetDeath]

It depends on the person, the therapist, and the situation.

 

[dragonofenvy]

When I started seeing a psychologist things have improved. I'm still planning on killing myself, don't get me wrong, but at least the present is more bearable. It feels relieving to be able talk to someone. She also educated me about my issues and had a very good treatment plan. Therapists in my experience were just there for you to vent to and not much else. I can just do that with AI. I think in my situation therapists were just too ill-equipped to handle my problems. I feel like therapists are meant for "minor" issues but maybe that's just me having a bad experience with them.

 

[BradGuy123]

I've been in therapy before several times in my life. One long term stint and multiple short term stints - like a few sessions when I was going through a difficult time. It helped me tremendously. Your mileage may vary. Some people aren't helped by therapy and find it a waste of time and money. I don't think there are necessarily that many bad therapists but there may be therapists who are a good match for and ones who are a bad match for you. I'm so sorry you are going through all this. Your so-called rants are welcome here. We are a supportive community. Sending you a virtual hug.

 

[Passenger4224]

It varies. Some issues are not curable. Some people are more/less self aware than others. There can be other factors.

I don't think spending money on a therapist is necessary, you can research information on your own. At least for certain types of therapy. Choosing the type of therapy you think best suits you is the first step.

 

[Handsup051]

Finding a good therapist was massive in helping me get on my feet and understanding exactly what my problems are and now to tackle them. What was unfortunate for me was at the end of the trail was several untreatable issues, but I would be even more worse off had I never found him. The issues are actually finding a good one, and actually affording the care.
If you can afford to, I'd definitely recommend looking around for a real therapist that you can vibe with and who can understand you. It took me years, but it did work eventually.

 

[oneirataxia]

It's always worth a try. A therapist can't fix everything for you and you need to work with the therapist to make progress, but if you decide to look into it, I hope it goes well.