Does parents support your decision ?

[Freefrompain]

I talked with my father and have tried to get him to understand why I feel this way. Hopefully he will understand and support me!

 

[Anonymousa]

Nope cus they are very selfish for wanting to keep me here, even going far as to not allow me to go outside on my own, despite my suffering and that they don't want to get into any sort of trouble for my ctb. Parents like this are scum to me cus they forced me into this world so its fair for me to leave it when I want to. I have no obligation to stay with them in anyway but they instead. Most parents won't support ctb sadly cus they too selfish.

 

[divinemistress87]

No good luck convincing any parent to be ok with this

 

[INYGTRMTFMO]

My parents were floored when they found out I was suicidal back in high school. Granted, they have had the privilege of not having suicidal ideation, so it's hard for them to wrap their mind around ANYONE being suicidal (we had a family friend ctb, and they were just baffled as to why someone would want to. I wasn't baffled in the slightest lmao).

They were extremely NOT supportive of me wanting to unexist. A large part of my suicidality is that I felt (and even now still sometimes feel) like a massive burden on those who care about me. I explained this to my dad, that I felt like his life would be easier and less stressful if mine ceased, and he was shocked that I could even fathom such a thought (and obviously denied it vehemently). This did finally prompt us to have a few sessions of family therapy though, which helped repair our relationship a lot.

But, yeah, any parent who cares at all about their child would find the thought of outliving their child torturous.

 

[Freefrompain]

My parents were floored when they found out I was suicidal back in high school. Granted, they have had the privilege of not having suicidal ideation, so it's hard for them to wrap their mind around ANYONE being suicidal (we had a family friend ctb, and they were just baffled as to why someone would want to. I wasn't baffled in the slightest lmao).

They were extremely NOT supportive of me wanting to unexist. A large part of my suicidality is that I felt (and even now still sometimes feel) like a massive burden on those who care about me. I explained this to my dad, that I felt like his life would be easier and less stressful if mine ceased, and he was shocked that I could even fathom such a thought (and obviously denied it vehemently). This did finally prompt us to have a few sessions of family therapy though, which helped repair our relationship a lot.

But, yeah, any parent who cares at all about their child would find the thought of outliving their child torturous.

Thank you for sharing!

No good luck convincing any parent to be ok with this

They should be more understanding!

 

[ItNeedsToHappen]

Why would they support that? Your offspring are supposed to survive lol and bring a legacy. But I'm too much of a fuck up to continue our legacy. Everything is wrong with me.

 

[_Gollum_]

No; parents are biologically programmed to fight against your CTB with every bone in their body.

 

[idk3]

I talked with my father and have tried to get him to understand why I feel this way. Hopefully he will understand and support me!

Just found this story. Lucky guy to have so much support and be able to be so open about it. Wish you luck.




Edit: RIP

 

[divinemistress87]

Parents should be biologically programmed to help their kids get better and thrive at all costs

 

[Freefrompain]

Just found this story. Lucky guy to have so much support and be able to be so open about it. Wish you luck.




Edit: RIP

This truly brought tears to me and touched me. It gives me hope. Thank you for sharing this story.

 

[CatLvr]

"I understand it. I don't want it. I can't change it." That is a dad who loves his child more than himself.

I have mentioned before that my son and I have had conversations most people haven't had with ANYONE, muchless a parent or child. Some of those conversations have been about suicide. We both have the attitude that Adam's dad has. If you TRULY love someone WHY would you want them to continue to suffer so you can attempt to lessen your own pain?? It makes no sense to either of us. That said, if my son left this world tomorrow I would be right behind him. After he is gone there will be nothing left for me here. Him?? He has a girlfriend he adores. And her kids, who adore him. Besides, mothers are supposed to die before their children. Though, as I have said before, I will not leave this world until he has told me it is okay for me to go.

 

[Freefrompain]

"I understand it. I don't want it. I can't change it." That is a dad who loves his child more than himself.

I have mentioned before that my son and I have had conversations most people haven't had with ANYONE, muchless a parent or child. Some of those conversations have been about suicide. We both have the attitude that Adam's dad has. If you TRULY love someone WHY would you want them to continue to suffer so you can attempt to lessen your own pain?? It makes no sense to either of us. That said, if my son left this world tomorrow I would be right behind him. After he is gone there will be nothing left for me here. Him?? He has a girlfriend he adores. And her kids, who adore him. Besides, mothers are supposed to die before their children. Though, as I have said before, I will not leave this world until he has told me it is okay for me to go.

Thank you sincerely for sharing your story about your son and your stance on it. You're a great mother.

 

[Wishbone]

Both of my parents are also different levels of suicidal throughout their lives. The have had somewhat poor quality of life due to finances and mental / physical conditions. They wouldn't support me, but they would understand. And they probably wouldn't be far behind me.

Im hoping / saving up so we can all be buried together, whether any of us ctb or not. Death will happen sometime. Probably relatively young in our cases.

 

[Forever Sleep]

My Dad doesn't know. Sometimes I think he may suspect though. I think he'd find it devastating to know. I think he'd be even more devastated if I did it though so, my hope/ plan is to wait for him to go first. I think if things take a real nose dive for me, I would have to tell him though.

It's hard to predict how he would react. If he could actually see that life was terrible for me with no hope of recovery, I do actually think he would sympathise. He's already had to let my Mum go under those circumstances (cancer.) He is actually an advocate of: 'If you truly love someone and they are in pain, you let them go.'

The difficulty though is making parents acknowledge that you are suffering that much. Especially if the pain isn't visible. If it's mental or circumstantial especially, I think they find it harder to gauge the seriousness.

 

[roommate]

I actually saw some dutch articles and video's about people going through with euthanasia for mental health, and they all did get support from their families and friends.
Some stories about people who didn't want to chose for life after following therapy anymore and they did get support.

Also some stories of parents who regretted not having it seem as a option after their child did ctb after telling them.
I have told my parents about how bad my situation is, I don't think they would be against any plan per say, but supporting it would insanely complex.
If they would allow me to give up on life on my own terms, that would be a massive relief.

 

[Praestat_Mori]

No. Nobody understands my decision for my personal reasons.
The fact is that it would have been better for everyone.
I'm still here and my personal situation didn't get really better. It just settled on a low level.

 

[StupidCat]

I may have to tell my parents about my suicide. I don't really think they would support my decision, there's a chance I won't have the guts to tell them. But just thinking about how my mom would react to the news, it's very likely she would follow me as well. And I absolutely don't want that since I have siblings. So I don't really know how to proceed.

 

[areyousafe??]

My family doesn't know.

I know how my mum feels about it though. I have been hospitalised for suicidal ideation before. When I was discharged, she told me that "suicide is selfish". My mum is overprotective and over anxious so I see nothing good coming from revealing my intentions. If I did, she will not be supportive.

I have always had a distant relationship with my dad. I feel anger towards him for his self centeredness and lack of responsibility towards family. My suicide will not affect him.

My sister has a low opinion of me. She told me that I am an absolutely useless, weak person with no coping skills. She has never shown love, care or support towards me the way some sisters do. If I were to drop hints that I'm going to ctb soon, I wouldn't put it past her to tell me to go ahead and ctb already.

 

[wahhhh1852]

no way I would ever mention it, whats the point of worrying them its your decision after all

 

[Ashes of a Dreamer]

In a perfect world, parents would understand and provide help at some point, knowing that, if the circumstances are unbearable, it's ok to give up.

In reality, it's difficult for them to admit that their offspring is suicidal, moreover to support the decision of losing their legacy. It's selfish somehow, but there's a point I see: they're trying to protect their loved ones, and doing everything within their power to overcome the situation. The truth is there's nothing they can do, sometimes.

But, really, don't blame your parents for not approving your decision of CTB; it's a difficult thing for them too.

To conclude, talking with people you care about your suicidality extends your life, as you will find more resistance to finish the act, albeit it's noble, once you prepare them for your death.

 

[bananaolympus]

They do not support my decision but they would let me ctb if i decide to do so

 

[GeorgeEastman]

The old man has been calling my bluff on it for 20 some years with a well stocked gun cabinet and ammo.

 

[LittleMagician]

I talked with my father and have tried to get him to understand why I feel this way. Hopefully he will understand and support me!

Do you really think anyone's parents would support our decision to ctb?

 

[sunnyside]

They wouldn't support ctb but I think they would sorta support me if I wanted to apply for euthenasia