Discussion Does anyone else feel like they’ve failed at being a person?

[waterbottle3929]

I can't help but feel like I've failed at some incredibly basic things. Like learning how to make and maintain social connections. I'm a junior and have 0 friends in university lol. I've also never had a partner. Never held hands with anyone. Or even talked to anyone in that way. I'm almost terrified of talking to the opposite gender, too. I can't walk with my head up and I always look down. What's the point of life living like this? I failed somewhere along the way and I'm just so tired of it. It comes so easily to everyone else, too. I feel like an absolute loser.

 

[INYGTRMTFMO]

Yep. I feel like I'm just inherently not great at the mechanics of being a human person.

 

[nool]

You're not alone. I feel the exact same way. I hope things get better for you

 

[juneberry1234]

This isn't something that can be switched and you become a new person, this is something that can be accomplished overtime and while it is inherently easier for some people, for others including myself I really have to put effort into planning with people or going to clubs or put effort into every conversion whether its big or small. This takes a lot out of me everyday but I'm happier when I do. Even though you're a junior college's offer so many ways to connect with peers and fellow students like attending clubs whether you're interested in it or not. Sometimes I feel bad that most if not all my friends are from my college clubs but at the same time I think that's the purpose of them is to connect with others. That may be a way to help you get friends and have over time grow interested in it. As for attempting to have romantic partners, I've failed in that aspect so you won't get any help from me there lol

 

[nothirdact]

I feel the same way. Even my successes feel fake, like I'm just acting like I know how to be a person.

 

[neochatt]

I once had a close friend but blew it by confessing feelings for her, now she treats me like a fucking plague victim lol

 

[kopebaldy]

Yeah, I struggle so much with something other people do casually, I'm stupid, I can't understand shit be it studying or social interactions.

Looking around, it feels like everyone somehow figuring this shit out and yet here I am, trapped.

 

[thebox_123]

Yes, I am a failure in many ways. I feel like a giant loser.

 

[vampire2002]

i can't make friends either. my whole life i've struggled with this. i've had a few genuine friends, a few bullies who pretended to be my friends, and a lot of people who i just can't connect with at all who come and go in my life. but deep down i love to spend time with others.
i'm a neet as well, which automatically makes people view me as a useless failure despite the fact i really do try. it just takes me so much effort to get through each day.
i always feel so ashamed of myself and isolated from the world. i'm a defective person.